Great Reactions in Approach yet no Results--Causes? (Examples Helpful)

[Wassupmypeepz]

I've noticed this happening before but the severity of it really struck me after an approach I made on a college campus yesterday and I'm sure this has happened to others as well. I walk up to a girl and immediately her eyes light up and she applauds me for stopping her, compliments me on my approach, and admits that she would really like to continue talking to me but she has to get to class. She compliments all throughout the approach especially after I tell her I act ("I bet you play all the lead roles", "I can totally see you as one. You have that charm!"). SHE makes the suggestion that we should get something to eat after I say I'll grab her number, certain that this was a good lead. But then *POOF* no response to my text a day later which is today. Has this happened to you guys? And if so, what are the reasons why that you have discovered? It's possible it has nothing to do with me but given the proclivity of this phenomenon I find that hard to believe. My first inclination was that perhaps it could be low attainability (although given my limited sexual experience that's doubtful) but even then I'm not sure how to combat that. I've tried highlighting the "strangeness" of approaching a stranger to appear less "game-y" and that hasn't changed the results. I can't really think of another possible reason so I bring this to all of you.

Is there something I'm actively doing wrong or should this be chalked up to the whims of women's emotions? Any advice/examples of experiences you've had with this would be helpful.

 

[readjusting]

Yeah, having this thing happens to me too. A lot.

The reason, probably your initial approach is great, but the mid game is mediocre.
Do you ask for compliance?
Do you touch on the high note?
These are important because it makes a girl invest.

"I bet you play all the lead roles", "I can totally see you as one. You have that charm!

This sounds like a test for me. A few good responses:
- Yes, of course
- You have good eyes

 

[JayP]

You're overthinking it. I agree with Ice Cream, likely something in your mid-game to your closing-game. Girls don't expect you to be on 100% of the time though; as long as you're a cool guy that moves the conversation forward to getting her number/ going on that date, it's no big deal that you didn't touch her at a certain moment, or your sexy voice wasn't there the whole time. You can work on improving those smaller things later once you feel comfortable not worrying about her not responding to your text or you have a high abundance mentality (something I still struggle with occasionally).

I'd say focus more on moving it forward (moving faster) and just having fun with it. Who cares if you make a tiny mistake if you still get the pretty girl, right?

 

[Wassupmypeepz]

You're overthinking it. I agree with Ice Cream, likely something in your mid-game to your closing-game. Girls don't expect you to be on 100% of the time though; as long as you're a cool guy that moves the conversation forward to getting her number/ going on that date, it's no big deal that you didn't touch her at a certain moment, or your sexy voice wasn't there the whole time. You can work on improving those smaller things later once you feel comfortable not worrying about her not responding to your text or you have a high abundance mentality (something I still struggle with occasionally).

I'd say focus more on moving it forward (moving faster) and just having fun with it. Who cares if you make a tiny mistake if you still get the pretty girl, right?

This is great advice I appreciate it. However, I would like to clarify the problem here isn't lack of an abundance mentality as I understand I can always get more numbers. My qualm here is when I *appear* to be getting considerable signs of interest (again this girl literally suggested we go out herself and said she really liked talking to me) but then get radio silence after text. In general I do tend to try to move things forward fast (major tenet of this website), but with this specific girl who had to go to class, I don't know how much faster I could have moved it.

That being said, it must have to do with my mid/closing game, but I'm struggling to find out what exactly is faltering.

@IceCream

The reason, probably your initial approach is great, but the mid game is mediocre.
Do you ask for compliance?
Do you touch on the high note?
These are important because it makes a girl invest.

Shit, I definitely could have touched her a bit more and gave her a hug before she left. But she was off too quickly. In that regards, I certainly could have taken more control. She left so fast and it caught me off guard.

However, in that situation with a girl having to go to class very soon, what is a way to build compliance? I can't ask her to go anywhere with me.

 

[readjusting]

However, in that situation with a girl having to go to class very soon, what is a way to build compliance? I can't ask her to go anywhere with me.

"move over here a bit, so people don't run into us"
"what's that necklace?"