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Went out to one of my usual spots last night with friends. This venue leans more towards a bar and has two floors with pool tables - think a dive bar but fancier.
i have the same outfit as my last report - dark blue knitted henley shirt, gold necklace, rings, bracelet and a leather jacket outerwear (that i was holding vs wearing for most of the night)
I enter the venue with friends and we walk around for a bit, adjusting to the vibe of the venue, meeting up with friends and chatting, just having a good time.
I approach some girls while walking by , nothing hits, but it’s alright as i’m just trying to get into social mode. I was up on the second floor when i saw a girl that’s one of my types - tallish, curly hair brunette - we make very brief eye contact and she walks past me and down to the first floor with her friends. I was going to open her but i got distracted by talking to friends.
After missing my opening, i said fuck it and tailed her downstairs. The venue is pretty packed so it wasn’t obvious that i as following her. She stops by the bar with her friends, I do as well and I grab a drink but they leave before i get my drink. They post up close by though so as soon as i get my drink, i walk by her group and do a drive-by open by complimenting her hair.
Me: “Hey your hair looks really good!”
Her: “omg thank you!”
Me: “what’s your name?”
We exchange names, I found out she’s greek and after chatting for a bit, she says she’s trying to get a drink. I understand what she’s putting down but i’m not buying a drink for girl i just met so i make a joke about “in america, you get money, walk up to the bar and ask the bartender for a drink” - basically explaining to her how to buy a drink. She laughs and i make some joke about greek gods and we get into a convo. I also introduce myself to her friends and make small chat with them too.
i go back to her and move her a little bit away from her friends because the venue was crowded and people kept bumping into us. The interest seemed pretty high so the conversation was flowing good - she was asking a lot of questions and i had my hand on her waist to move her from people walking by. After talking for 5-10 minutes, she goes to check in on her friends and comes back saying she’s getting drinks with her friends. i was a little bit worried i was going to lose her here so I said “yeah let’s get a drink” and take her to a side of the bar away from her friends. I knew her expectation was that i would buy her a drink but i wasn’t planning on it. We talk about what drinks we like, and when the bartender came, I shut up, she got her order and paid for it.
i could tell the vibe shifted after that. She seemed a bit less interested/enthusiastic but i stayed in set anyway and walked with her to go re-join her friends.
When we got to her friends, she talked to them for a bit essentially shutting me out but i reopened with some small chat and she said she was gonna stay with her friends but i could have her number. I said cool and got her number. Her name was spelt differently than i thought so i brought that up and asked her to guess how mine is spelt. She got it wrong which i tease her about. I was half in/half out about to leave at this point but i think she asked me a question and we started a whole other conversation. I used this chance to mention the pool tables asking her if she wanted to play a game and she said “yeah, let’s do it” (lol did she forget she was supposed to hang out with her friends??)
Anyway we go to the pool table and she’s a lot more sarcastic and testy in the conversation now. I had a cocky frame the entire time which she brought up so i realized i had to show some interest to keep her from auto rejecting. She talked to me about her big school projects and i told her it was really cool even when she tried to play it down (it really was a dope endeavor).
I’m also getting some touch in at this point and she’s not opposed but also not reacting strongly to it. After more chatting, she says she wants to go check on her friends upstairs and that she’ll come back. We split up and i stay downstairs to observe the pool games.
After about 5-10 minutes, she didn’t come down and i get bored and decide to go upstairs.
At this point, I wasn’t really sure if she was into me and it was like 45 mins - 1 hr before bar close so i needed to commit to a girl. My plan was to get some more compliance from her and if she didn’t comply, dip and find another girl.
Not long after going upstairs, i see her talking to her friends and i had to weirdly reopen the set (Weird because i felt like the guy who wouldn’t leave their friend alone but she kept complying so i decided to keep at it)
I reopen and ask her if she wants to check out another section of the venue, she says “yeah why not” and i say “woww, so enthusiastic”. She jokingly shows exaggerated enthusiasm, saying “oh my god, i really really want to go. i have to!”. So again more sarcasm which i don’t think was helpful to the frame. Anyway we go to a sitting area, just the two of us.
I tried to build the sexual tension here through touch and eye contact but she kept joking around so we couldn’t fully get to that silent, sexy, sexual tension state. I did have enough to go for a kiss but i decided against it. After a while, I seed the pull asking if she wants to join me for wine at my place.
She thought about it for a little bit and said she would have to check in with her friends. We leave to go find the friends as it’s closing time now.
We find the friends and go outside the venue. They asked me if i knew a nearby spot to go to since none of them live in the city. I tell them and we start going there. On the way to the next spot, the girls encounter a guy smoking and ask for cigs so we all stop for a smoke break. There are also two guys with us they just met that night trying to hit on 2 of the friends as well. One of them is into her guy but the other isn’t lol leaving one other friend in the group without a guy.
My girl goes super social and starts chatting with friends and the stranger who offered us a cig so i join the conversation. We make some jokes but the vibe was getting too social for me.
i pulled her aside after a while to pull again and she said she has to talk to her friends about it. I think she did but i’m not so sure. She got back to me and said she’ll have to go home with them tonight unfortunately. At this time it was about 4am so we all split up.
I think i could have pulled if the friends weren’t a factor but her going to check in on her friends so much was probably a red flag i should have noticed.
i have the same outfit as my last report - dark blue knitted henley shirt, gold necklace, rings, bracelet and a leather jacket outerwear (that i was holding vs wearing for most of the night)
I enter the venue with friends and we walk around for a bit, adjusting to the vibe of the venue, meeting up with friends and chatting, just having a good time.
I approach some girls while walking by , nothing hits, but it’s alright as i’m just trying to get into social mode. I was up on the second floor when i saw a girl that’s one of my types - tallish, curly hair brunette - we make very brief eye contact and she walks past me and down to the first floor with her friends. I was going to open her but i got distracted by talking to friends.
After missing my opening, i said fuck it and tailed her downstairs. The venue is pretty packed so it wasn’t obvious that i as following her. She stops by the bar with her friends, I do as well and I grab a drink but they leave before i get my drink. They post up close by though so as soon as i get my drink, i walk by her group and do a drive-by open by complimenting her hair.
Me: “Hey your hair looks really good!”
Her: “omg thank you!”
Me: “what’s your name?”
We exchange names, I found out she’s greek and after chatting for a bit, she says she’s trying to get a drink. I understand what she’s putting down but i’m not buying a drink for girl i just met so i make a joke about “in america, you get money, walk up to the bar and ask the bartender for a drink” - basically explaining to her how to buy a drink. She laughs and i make some joke about greek gods and we get into a convo. I also introduce myself to her friends and make small chat with them too.
i go back to her and move her a little bit away from her friends because the venue was crowded and people kept bumping into us. The interest seemed pretty high so the conversation was flowing good - she was asking a lot of questions and i had my hand on her waist to move her from people walking by. After talking for 5-10 minutes, she goes to check in on her friends and comes back saying she’s getting drinks with her friends. i was a little bit worried i was going to lose her here so I said “yeah let’s get a drink” and take her to a side of the bar away from her friends. I knew her expectation was that i would buy her a drink but i wasn’t planning on it. We talk about what drinks we like, and when the bartender came, I shut up, she got her order and paid for it.
i could tell the vibe shifted after that. She seemed a bit less interested/enthusiastic but i stayed in set anyway and walked with her to go re-join her friends.
When we got to her friends, she talked to them for a bit essentially shutting me out but i reopened with some small chat and she said she was gonna stay with her friends but i could have her number. I said cool and got her number. Her name was spelt differently than i thought so i brought that up and asked her to guess how mine is spelt. She got it wrong which i tease her about. I was half in/half out about to leave at this point but i think she asked me a question and we started a whole other conversation. I used this chance to mention the pool tables asking her if she wanted to play a game and she said “yeah, let’s do it” (lol did she forget she was supposed to hang out with her friends??)
Anyway we go to the pool table and she’s a lot more sarcastic and testy in the conversation now. I had a cocky frame the entire time which she brought up so i realized i had to show some interest to keep her from auto rejecting. She talked to me about her big school projects and i told her it was really cool even when she tried to play it down (it really was a dope endeavor).
I’m also getting some touch in at this point and she’s not opposed but also not reacting strongly to it. After more chatting, she says she wants to go check on her friends upstairs and that she’ll come back. We split up and i stay downstairs to observe the pool games.
After about 5-10 minutes, she didn’t come down and i get bored and decide to go upstairs.
At this point, I wasn’t really sure if she was into me and it was like 45 mins - 1 hr before bar close so i needed to commit to a girl. My plan was to get some more compliance from her and if she didn’t comply, dip and find another girl.
Not long after going upstairs, i see her talking to her friends and i had to weirdly reopen the set (Weird because i felt like the guy who wouldn’t leave their friend alone but she kept complying so i decided to keep at it)
I reopen and ask her if she wants to check out another section of the venue, she says “yeah why not” and i say “woww, so enthusiastic”. She jokingly shows exaggerated enthusiasm, saying “oh my god, i really really want to go. i have to!”. So again more sarcasm which i don’t think was helpful to the frame. Anyway we go to a sitting area, just the two of us.
I tried to build the sexual tension here through touch and eye contact but she kept joking around so we couldn’t fully get to that silent, sexy, sexual tension state. I did have enough to go for a kiss but i decided against it. After a while, I seed the pull asking if she wants to join me for wine at my place.
She thought about it for a little bit and said she would have to check in with her friends. We leave to go find the friends as it’s closing time now.
We find the friends and go outside the venue. They asked me if i knew a nearby spot to go to since none of them live in the city. I tell them and we start going there. On the way to the next spot, the girls encounter a guy smoking and ask for cigs so we all stop for a smoke break. There are also two guys with us they just met that night trying to hit on 2 of the friends as well. One of them is into her guy but the other isn’t lol leaving one other friend in the group without a guy.
My girl goes super social and starts chatting with friends and the stranger who offered us a cig so i join the conversation. We make some jokes but the vibe was getting too social for me.
i pulled her aside after a while to pull again and she said she has to talk to her friends about it. I think she did but i’m not so sure. She got back to me and said she’ll have to go home with them tonight unfortunately. At this time it was about 4am so we all split up.
I think i could have pulled if the friends weren’t a factor but her going to check in on her friends so much was probably a red flag i should have noticed.
