Guys on here having success, how is your life generally like?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

A lot of you on here obviously get laid more than the average guy, that's for sure. I've been reading lay reports (some of them are literally erotica) on this forum in order to help my own game but I want to get to know some of you better in regards to what your life is actually like and how it is so conductive to you being able to meet so many different women and bed them. Not only meet different women and bed them but also how amazing it is outside of just women alone; like making friends, your hobbies, what you spend your weekends doing, and how a day in your life will typically be like.

It seems like the average guy whines so much about how terrible adulthood is, how there is "so little time", not enough freedom, and all of that, thought I'd learn more about the guys I see as successful on here.

If I am way too intrusive and some of you prefer to not put too much out there, I understand that. I just want to get a look and feel for the kinds of lives a lot of the successful players on here live and how it is so conductive to meeting women and getting laid so much.

 

[NeverStop]

I understand you if I think i get whats underlying your question. Something I realised quickly when I was younger is that a major major part that can't be faked when doing well with women and socially is upbringing, life experiences, interests and skills. Whilst openers, routines, being cheeky, fun etc is all great, if you come from circumstances beyond your control which has shaped you to be more introverted you'll run out of things to talk about quickly unless you decide to make writing stories and routines a full time job in which case just become a comedian or performer. Its not an accident that member of KISS has slept with 3000 women or whatever.

Since thats not good option for most people what I did to get out of the trap was go for some low value girls instead of smashing and scarring my confidence by going for higher value girls of which other pua's were aiming for but had more conducive live experiences but were applying the same principles and techniques I was using.

I got into a secure relationship and then built on experiencing going to different countries I wasn't able to when I young with the girl, building rapport with more friends based on my new experiences, going on college courses and having people in her family to talk to so I could develop myself. I didn't plan *plan* all this I had a general attraction to it all and it came together luckily over time.

The easiest thing I did to become more interesting and sociable was actually to read books, not any books, non-fiction books. reading biographies self help books, history books and books which explained subjects such as the for dummies series. I drank alot of coffee doing these but having a steady girlfriend really helped in my focus as I was emotionally stable for the first time in my life.

The other thing is simple watching comedians and comedy on tv and becoming a cheeky sob so called 'chase framing'.

Hope this helps

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

dude, wtf.

 

[Smith]

Altair,

I just want to get a look and feel for the kinds of lives a lot of the successful players on here live and how it is so conductive to meeting women and getting laid so much.

You make time for going out lol That's it. I know some dedicated RSD guys who would go out even after a 10 hours shift, and they're all working towards being successful. I used to try to talk to at least one women per day when I was starting out and I used to feel a lot of resistance to just talk to one girl, but I'll tell you this....it's only hard if you make it hard lol Does it really take a lot of effort to talk to someone? All you need to do to bring more women into you life daily is to eliminate what Tyler calls the 4 fatigues - decision making fatigue, persona fatigue, self-judgment fatigue and attachment fatigue. When you eliminate all these fatigues, you'll gain more energy after each interaction and you'll have a great vibe by the end of the day/night.

1. Decision making fatigue - Talk to every girl, or at least don't waste your energy trying to decide if you should go talk to her. Just go talk to her. The more time you spent on deciding whether to approach or not, the more you're stuck in your head and the more pick up feels draining to you.

2. Persona fatigue - Don't put on a persona when you're talking to a girl. Don't try too hard, but don't be too cool. Just relax. When you're just being yourself, you gain energy off it. You don't get tired from talking to girls.

3. self-judgment fatigue - every interaction is 1000 out of 10. Give yourself props. Even if you missed the opportunity to approach, don't judge yourself. Remember abundance...just talk to the next girl immediately.

4. attachment fatigue - you're not attached to any outcome from the interaction. No expectations. Don't get stuck in your head trying to take from the girl. Attract, not pursuit.

You'll definitely meet women who are keen to meet up with you when you eliminate these fatigues and you're coming from the place of abundance, which is why it's important to be social because you are genuinely enjoying conversation with people. And most women you talk to will be open to talk to you when you have a great vibe about you. You have to make a promise to yourself that there will not be a day when you don't talk to any strangers, even if it's just saying hi.