Basics of approaching
So 2018 has been the year where taking girls out on dates seem to be pretty much effortless. It all comes to how I make transitions from the moment I set my eyes on her to where she agrees to go out with me. Now I get dates consistently (2- 4 a month) and knowing that I can go out and come back with a pretty solid number in a couple of hours or so is quite rewarding. How do I do this? By giving Chases method my own little twist. However, I could get more lays out of them as I tend to mostly sleep with younger girls while older gals seem to make it hard for me.
This is my method as daygame is my main thing.
Warmups
Warmups are mandatory when I walk out. I can do this directly, by opening women on the streets with intent, or just be talkative with many people as I go through the day like talking to the cashier on my lunch break, saying hi to the bus driver, giving some money and smiling to a beggar and so on.
I usually do a combination of both because there are days I do not approach any women but want to be in a good state.
One good approach can make you more warmed up than 3 or 4 okay approaches, what I mean with that is the following.
Give compliments with pauses
*You walk behind the girl and touch her arm gently. Let her see you first and then you smile at her ( Read about pre opening here : https://www.girlschase.com/content/pre-opening.
*As you see her in the eyes just say the following. "Hi, I just saw you over there (PAUSE for 1 second). And I had to tell you (PAUSE for 1 second). That you are the cutest girl Ive seen today/this week/in a long time. Kristian is my name.
In Norway, where social circles are the main source of getting mates, girls can auto-reject as this is too "out there". If she seem tense or starts looking around, because some shy girls may still not believe what is happening, I say: "Did not mean to scare you or sound too forward, but I had to take the chance to talk to you". I usually smile and make her laugh a little.
*From then I transcition to mundane talks. "So what are you up to right now?" is a good question as I can see if she is down for an instant date or just try to build more connection. After this, girls usually ask me what I do and I always respond "musician" as this makes them a little exited. From there I also say "that I am trying to see if I can make it" just to not seem as pretencious.
I make sure to touch her in high points and turn the conversation to her, giving me the chance to qualify before I close.
*"Are you single?" This is something I always ask girls when I am out. If she is interested, she will say yes. Asking her relationship status will also make her understand why youre asking her out. We trade numbers, as I usually dont like to give out any social media (and if I do, I only give her my Instagram).
Texting
*I used not to get responses last year but thanks to asking more about her schedule that day before we trade numbers this has changed quite a lot. Now I seem to be interested in the girl as a person and they like that I want to know more about them.
I wait between two and four hours before sending the following message.
After this you can start having a little back and forth, nothing more than two messages or something. This makes her used to you connecting with her, and the transcition a little smoother. Then I text her this.
And thats that.
In essence, asking the girls about her day, touching in high points (rewarding her) and the "are you single?"-approach makes her know whats going on.
Then thanking her for the conversation and asking her about how xyz went in text a little later makes her comfortable texting you. Then it gets easier to ask her out. You arent bullshitting her or pretending and the chances to getting friendzoned are very slim.
Something I could do differently?
Let me know what you guys think about this approach and what I can do differently.
My main sticking point right now is being more sexual with girls since the only women that sleep with me are 19 - 21, while women from 25 to my age, usually want to take things slow. So maybe my game works better with younger girls? (I am 32 years old btw). If there are some aspects I could change, I will be more than willing to try that out.
So 2018 has been the year where taking girls out on dates seem to be pretty much effortless. It all comes to how I make transitions from the moment I set my eyes on her to where she agrees to go out with me. Now I get dates consistently (2- 4 a month) and knowing that I can go out and come back with a pretty solid number in a couple of hours or so is quite rewarding. How do I do this? By giving Chases method my own little twist. However, I could get more lays out of them as I tend to mostly sleep with younger girls while older gals seem to make it hard for me.
This is my method as daygame is my main thing.
Warmups
Warmups are mandatory when I walk out. I can do this directly, by opening women on the streets with intent, or just be talkative with many people as I go through the day like talking to the cashier on my lunch break, saying hi to the bus driver, giving some money and smiling to a beggar and so on.
I usually do a combination of both because there are days I do not approach any women but want to be in a good state.
One good approach can make you more warmed up than 3 or 4 okay approaches, what I mean with that is the following.
Give compliments with pauses
*You walk behind the girl and touch her arm gently. Let her see you first and then you smile at her ( Read about pre opening here : https://www.girlschase.com/content/pre-opening.
*As you see her in the eyes just say the following. "Hi, I just saw you over there (PAUSE for 1 second). And I had to tell you (PAUSE for 1 second). That you are the cutest girl Ive seen today/this week/in a long time. Kristian is my name.
In Norway, where social circles are the main source of getting mates, girls can auto-reject as this is too "out there". If she seem tense or starts looking around, because some shy girls may still not believe what is happening, I say: "Did not mean to scare you or sound too forward, but I had to take the chance to talk to you". I usually smile and make her laugh a little.
*From then I transcition to mundane talks. "So what are you up to right now?" is a good question as I can see if she is down for an instant date or just try to build more connection. After this, girls usually ask me what I do and I always respond "musician" as this makes them a little exited. From there I also say "that I am trying to see if I can make it" just to not seem as pretencious.
I make sure to touch her in high points and turn the conversation to her, giving me the chance to qualify before I close.
*"Are you single?" This is something I always ask girls when I am out. If she is interested, she will say yes. Asking her relationship status will also make her understand why youre asking her out. We trade numbers, as I usually dont like to give out any social media (and if I do, I only give her my Instagram).
Texting
*I used not to get responses last year but thanks to asking more about her schedule that day before we trade numbers this has changed quite a lot. Now I seem to be interested in the girl as a person and they like that I want to know more about them.
I wait between two and four hours before sending the following message.
(if you managed to make a connection with her, knowing about her plans would be easy).
After this you can start having a little back and forth, nothing more than two messages or something. This makes her used to you connecting with her, and the transcition a little smoother. Then I text her this.
And thats that.
In essence, asking the girls about her day, touching in high points (rewarding her) and the "are you single?"-approach makes her know whats going on.
Then thanking her for the conversation and asking her about how xyz went in text a little later makes her comfortable texting you. Then it gets easier to ask her out. You arent bullshitting her or pretending and the chances to getting friendzoned are very slim.
Something I could do differently?
Let me know what you guys think about this approach and what I can do differently.
My main sticking point right now is being more sexual with girls since the only women that sleep with me are 19 - 21, while women from 25 to my age, usually want to take things slow. So maybe my game works better with younger girls? (I am 32 years old btw). If there are some aspects I could change, I will be more than willing to try that out.
