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Spurred on by my lack of action yesterday, I decided to go to my local approaching city to go to one of the gyms there. This wasn't the small working class town I was in yesterday, but a larger middle class city with a lot of transient people, so I feel more comfortable approaching there.
I actually first saw this beauty come past me when I was working out on the squat rack and earmarked her for a potential approach later on.
Jet black waist length hair, blue eyes, porcelain skin-a real beauty. And a cute, feminine rounded face with a few piercings going on, kinda "goth lite" let's say. I am going to guess early 20s, so the glow of youthful beauty as well.
She was wearing...not very much at all, basically shorts and a bra. So on a primal level, it was a double edged sword, because I found her primally attractive and therefore also felt more self conscious about approaching her.
I was having a tough time on leg day and couldn't get my previous week's max so I decided to call it a day.
Initially, she went to the dumbbell rack, but then she went back to the machines. This is a big, spacious open plan gym. Pretty good for approaching, not too claustrophobic like some gyms can be.
I first went on a reconnaissance mission over to where I saw her, thinking tactically about the smoothest way to approach, scoping out the terrain and my target.
She moved around a bit, I didn't want to get too much into a "following" frame so I waited until she settled on the lat pulldown.
Now, this was interesting, upon the initial approach, I made eye contact, she assumed I wanted the machine.
"2 more sets" she quipped.
I said "nah, I wasn't interested in the machine, I'm just doing legs today, but I just noticed you and thought you looked really good"
Her reaction was odd. For a moment, I thought she had got offended and was going to freak out. Or maybe she froze? Anyway, there was a confusion/fear across her face.
Before I she could say anything, I elaborated with "I can see you certainly put in the effort in here" which seemed to calibrate her and she agreed that she did.
Does that sound like the start to a long interaction? No it doesn't, but I estimate the set lasted over 5 minutes.
After the direct opener, I quizzed her on her studies, I guessed medical, she said finance.
I said that sounds boring but hey, if it's lifestyle you want then remote opportunities will abound.
Here's a good one:
I asked "if money was no object, what would you do" and she couldn't come up with an answer. Or I couldn't hear what she said anyway, but it didn't sound very enthusiastic.
She said she works with people but I can't remember what she said her job was. But she said it made it easy for her to talk to people.
I did try closing weakly by asking "I was just wondering if you would like to hang out sometime" and she said "I have a boyfriend".
I did well by not immediately ejecting, I just said something like "Oh, all the chilled out ones are taken, haha". Then we small talked a bit more but there is no potential in the interaction.
Overall, I would rate the interaction 6/10. There wasn't much of a flirty vibe, it was quite serious.
I am not sure what she made of it. I did well on the open, went direct, maybe a bit too direct. But I don't think I was smiling. It was an awkward approach because I was stood up and she was sat down.
There were quite a few people in earshot, which made it harder and I did feel the burning of the tension, but I stayed in set.
But this is what I mean with approaches, though. Each time, I am overcoming a huge amount of tension, especially in the gym, only to have no chance of a close.
It's the same old story over and over. Which is what makes me apathetic towards approaching. The best I can hope for is a non blowout interaction ending in a boyfriend rejection.
I actually first saw this beauty come past me when I was working out on the squat rack and earmarked her for a potential approach later on.
Jet black waist length hair, blue eyes, porcelain skin-a real beauty. And a cute, feminine rounded face with a few piercings going on, kinda "goth lite" let's say. I am going to guess early 20s, so the glow of youthful beauty as well.
She was wearing...not very much at all, basically shorts and a bra. So on a primal level, it was a double edged sword, because I found her primally attractive and therefore also felt more self conscious about approaching her.
I was having a tough time on leg day and couldn't get my previous week's max so I decided to call it a day.
Initially, she went to the dumbbell rack, but then she went back to the machines. This is a big, spacious open plan gym. Pretty good for approaching, not too claustrophobic like some gyms can be.
I first went on a reconnaissance mission over to where I saw her, thinking tactically about the smoothest way to approach, scoping out the terrain and my target.
She moved around a bit, I didn't want to get too much into a "following" frame so I waited until she settled on the lat pulldown.
Now, this was interesting, upon the initial approach, I made eye contact, she assumed I wanted the machine.
"2 more sets" she quipped.
I said "nah, I wasn't interested in the machine, I'm just doing legs today, but I just noticed you and thought you looked really good"
Her reaction was odd. For a moment, I thought she had got offended and was going to freak out. Or maybe she froze? Anyway, there was a confusion/fear across her face.
Before I she could say anything, I elaborated with "I can see you certainly put in the effort in here" which seemed to calibrate her and she agreed that she did.
Does that sound like the start to a long interaction? No it doesn't, but I estimate the set lasted over 5 minutes.
After the direct opener, I quizzed her on her studies, I guessed medical, she said finance.
I said that sounds boring but hey, if it's lifestyle you want then remote opportunities will abound.
Here's a good one:
I asked "if money was no object, what would you do" and she couldn't come up with an answer. Or I couldn't hear what she said anyway, but it didn't sound very enthusiastic.
She said she works with people but I can't remember what she said her job was. But she said it made it easy for her to talk to people.
I did try closing weakly by asking "I was just wondering if you would like to hang out sometime" and she said "I have a boyfriend".
I did well by not immediately ejecting, I just said something like "Oh, all the chilled out ones are taken, haha". Then we small talked a bit more but there is no potential in the interaction.
Overall, I would rate the interaction 6/10. There wasn't much of a flirty vibe, it was quite serious.
I am not sure what she made of it. I did well on the open, went direct, maybe a bit too direct. But I don't think I was smiling. It was an awkward approach because I was stood up and she was sat down.
There were quite a few people in earshot, which made it harder and I did feel the burning of the tension, but I stayed in set.
But this is what I mean with approaches, though. Each time, I am overcoming a huge amount of tension, especially in the gym, only to have no chance of a close.
It's the same old story over and over. Which is what makes me apathetic towards approaching. The best I can hope for is a non blowout interaction ending in a boyfriend rejection.
