Gym pick up + How to break age barriers

[StoicMind]

Ok, so I was at the gym today. Finished my workout when I saw the most amazing ass I've ever seen (no exaggeration) she was running on the indoor track, she was really cute as well. So I put on my running shoes and started running to. I caught up to her and smiled and she smiled back. Then I looked at her again, made strong eye contact and started speeding up, next thing you know we are racing, her face lights up. She pulls my shirt and ends up winning.
Me: You little cheater you
Her: You can't prove that
Me: I could but, I won't it'll me our little secret
Her: Oh why thank you.
Me: so does this cheater have a name
Her: Courtney, does the loser have a name
Me: Tired... (bends over hyperventilating reaching for her water)
Her: *Laugh* how about I get you a water and we forget this whole cheating business
Me: sounds good.
We walk to the vending machines downstairs, then I start asking her some questions.
Me: So what school do you go to
Her: I actually graduated this year
Me: Oh, congratulations. I did too
Her: Congrats to you, where did you graduate from
Me: *Cough* High School*cough*
Her: You're joking
Me: no, I'm 18
Her: Oh my god I thought we were like the same age
Me: Way to make me feel old (bad move)
Her: so you're calling me old
Me:Of course not you did "beat" me after all
Her: *Laughs*
After a bit more back and forth she bails, apparently I look older than I really am. And every time I make an approach in a public place like this my state goes down when I find out she's like 22 or something (even 25 one time). Should I try to push these age barriers and still attempt or should I try to look for girls if not my age but at least close to it, Like I don't mind dating 2 year's up my ex girlfriend will be 20 on the 22nd, I feel no change in state if I find a girls is only 20 or 19. What are things I should say or try to communicate when I'm talking with an older woman especially to maintain attraction because I feel when they learn how old I am all the attraction I've built deflates.

 

[Amadeaus]

This started out really well for you. I don't know how old you are, I'm 29. If the 18 year old me showed up right now, I could beat his ass. I could out run him, our lift him, out everything him.

My last semester of my sociology program, I learned about relativism and I really bought into it. When I was 23 to 25, I was in an ROTC program with cadets that were 18-22. I thought I was old, so I was. I dated a girl that was the same age as me and we were just older than everyone else. But really, it was just in my head. I'm 29 and I feel younger than I was then. My last 2 girlfriends were both 20. Sometimes, I will think to myself, "When I was in Iraq blowing shit up and shooting stuff, you were like 10 years old". That's usually for a good laugh to myself though.

If you believe you are old, then you are. If you don't and you ignore it and don't make a spectacle of it, then you aren't. Its like in that Merlin movie, with the dude from Jurassic Park, and they turned around and forgot about Queen Maab and she just didn't exist anymore. IMO, that's the way to deal with your limiting beliefs.

If you think you are starting to look old, just keep killing it in the gym. I also feel like a lot of dudes problems about being from this group or that group or looking like this or that could really just be solved with six pack abs.

-Ama

 

[StoicMind]

Problem is not that I'm feeling old, but exactly the opposite. I approached this girl and she was 4 years older than me and realizing that made me feel really young almost like she is a pedophile for even talking to me even though I'm 18. This happens a lot because I look older for my age which I don't mind but my state completely changes when I find out a girl I'm trying to open is that much older than me. I'm not sure if it should matter or not.

 

[Amadeaus]

Oh, I read those wrong. Same thing though.

Get out there and get some experience. If you want to mask your age, don't draw attention to things that show you are young and "green". When she said, "I just graduated", you could have said all kinds of things that don't draw attention to you. Like "what a relief" or "time for some vacation". I am not a huge fan of talking about school and studying, so I have been trying to move the conversation to happier subjects, most people will probably ask "what did/do you study." If you move the topic away from school, you can avoid them asking about your school experience, which is none.

Say you do get into one of those school conversations and she asks you what you are studying. Avoid saying stuff like, "this is my first year and I don't know anything about anything." A good way to mask where you really are in the program, you say, "I'm just now getting into my major classes and I really C++ way more than shitty Java." Since you are just getting into your major classes, you could be anywhere from semester 2 to your last year. If you aren't going to go to college, and are an aspiring blacksmith or lumberjack that's cool too.

Remember that one key characteristic of Millennials is delayed adulthood. You may run into a lot of girls that have a degree, but still live at home or don't have a great job. Just because someone has recently graduated, does not mean they are entering adulthood and you are a child. That girl could be living at home with 30k+ of student loans and you talking to her was the highlight of her day.

 

[Anonymous]

It's entirely up to you. If you have a problem with dating older women, then don't.

But if you want to get past that, it's all about conditioning your mind. Women actually like younger guys (Women in their later 20s, early 30s will actually be very open to dating younger guys especially)

View your youth in a positive way. Don't think of it as being too young, but rather, having lots of vitality and energy. Think of yourself as a shot of tequila in the light beer that is the thinning dating pool that these women deal with, day in and day out. Reframe your beliefs about youth as an advantage.

These women will not make it an issue, as long as you are ok with the age difference.