FU Had a girl in my apartment and nothing happened

[zeroman2]

Hello beginner here,

A few months ago I got a new neighbor. She was very friendly and every time I see her outside or walking by we always sit down and chat. I thought she was really cute but she was married and I thought she was just being friendly so I thought nothing of it.

One time she did invited me to a barbecue with her husband I thought it was a nice invite so I did. I remember a few times in the barbecue she got a little bit too close to me despite her husband being right there. So that's why I knew something was a little bit up. While they was clues before but this really put me on notice.

Then one day she told me that she was going to move and that even though she's moving we can still hang out. I was like okay she still want to be friends. That was until she told me it was a birthday recently and I told her I was going to drop her off candy bars at her place because she said she really like candy bars. What she told me was "don't worry I'll come up to your place and come pick it up". This is when I knew this wasn't a drill.

Fast forward to the the day she came to collect the candy bars. She came to my apartment first and we both sat on the couch. At first I tried to do a little incidental contact to see how she responds she kind of pulled back. Seeing that I backed off. Afterwards we talked and drove around the town a little bit just relaxing until we go back to my place again.

This time I did incidental contact she didn't pull back. That's when I pushed it a little further. I start touching her shoulders, Knee, back, and neck. She didn't respond she kept going with the conversation. She wasn't off put by it this time around. But for some reason I couldn't push it further than that. I have read an articles on her about how you supposed to manhandle kiss her. Maybe it's just me but that's not really my style I kind of prefer a build up to a kiss then just flat out doing it but maybe I'm wrong.

As far as her I don't know I haven't texted yet. She could still be warm to me or this might be the last time I talked to her we will see. I think my biggest problem is I don't have a process because I haven't done it before (31 year old virgin)

Questions.
1. Besides the man handle kiss what is your process to escalate to sex?

2. What's my biggest metal roadblock?

3. Is there anything I need to practice or know I need to get better at base on what I told you?

 

[Fuck This]

2. What's my biggest metal roadblock?

probably the .45 her husband keeps in the bedstand....

 

[zeroman2]

probably the .45 her husband keeps in the bedstand....

Trust me I'm probably not her first incident of infidelity. Doing our conversation she also mentioned a house painter in our neighborhood that she talked to all the time and that they would go to apartment and smoke weed together alone.

Also just a side note they've been plenty of other women in the past I met that had husbands and boyfriends were I had an opportunity to do something but I didn't move on them. I figured if I had to be good at seducing girls especially at the beginning level that I can't be too quick to turn down those opportunities when presented.

 

[Rakehell]

If it isn’t you then it’ll be someone else & how ungrateful we’d be to deny free pussy. Pessimistic though it sounds Fuck This has a fair point about the husband being a potential threat. Him knowing where you live is another negative aspect too.

Not to say you shouldn’t do it but it’s always good to expect the worst and hope for the best.

Questions.
1. Besides the man handle kiss what is your process to escalate to sex?

2. What's my biggest metal roadblock?

3. Is there anything I need to practice or know I need to get better at base on what I told you?

I’m gonna do my best to tie all your questions into one because I believe they’re all related, atleast the way I see it.

Your escalation process here was actually okay, as in it was better than most guy’s. You escalated your touch and were responsive to how she was responding.

But you didn’t get the reaction you expected and I feel like you may have freaked out internally. It caused you to do a big pull back by taking her on a drive around town and then back to your place.

In hindsight you should’ve used that ride to create more tension and arouse her further so that she’d be more receptive to your advances.

After getting her back to your place the second time this should’ve been where you had your game face on. At this point it’s do or die and you need to escalate beyond touching by going for the kiss.

Thing is all evidence points to her being ready to receive you, you just had to take that leap of faith and make a move because she isn’t going to do it for you.

I’d say pick you up an escalation process from the site (there are many effective ones) and stick to it. That way you can follow the process despite how you feel she may be responding because it is easy to misinterpret signals.

If you two are sufficiently isolated and she is compliant, always push the envelope.

 

[Fuck This]

Boy, I sure would hate for my losing my virginity be with a woman I knew was cheating on a husband.

Take it as a positive sign that women DO find you attractive, and use that confidence to meet other women and escalate sexually.

 

[Beck Bass]

You should be approaching women man, how come the only women giving you chances are married? lmao
That said, good luck