Handling Abundance

[stlap4321]

I'm finding it very difficult to deal with more than four women at any particular time. I have four going and I have another four ready to go in the queue, but I cannot get to my backlog because the first four are trying to dominate all of my time. I do not commit to anything on an upcoming weekend but always on Mondays and Tuesdays they are hitting me up for plans. I keep saying ... It's only Monday, we can work it out to put it off.

I also find they are trying to increase their weekly time spend with me by spending the night or wanting to do something the next day. These are all working women, professionals with day jobs, so the weekends are mostly free for them and during the week is tougher. I'm finding going on 3 or 4 dates with 3 or 4 different women on a weekend to be logistically challenging and leaves me feeling like I've been hit by a truck on Monday mornings.

I'm thinking of having to move on from some of these ladies... but they are very fun and now that I'm their lover, there's no real work involved to get to intimacy. If I skip a week or two with any of them, I feel like they're going to feel that I'm going cold on them.

To make matters worse, I went on a trip last weekend and was not with any of them, but I stopped by one lady on my way home from the airport and had another over last night for dinner. Now they all want some attention this coming weekend so I'm really in a bind.

Any advise?

 

[Franco]

stlap4321,

The best advice I can give you is to set the expectations of how often you'll see them from the get-go. If you bed a girl and start seeing her once a week (or more than once a week), then she has every right to expect that she'll continue to be seeing you that often. If for any reason you begin to see her less, than yes, she will begin to think that you are losing interest (or that the passion is losing steam for one or both of you).

So if you plan on dating multiple women in a casual setting, then you should probably only be seeing these women once every 8-13 days. This way, you aren't seeing them so frequently that they expect to be with you every week, which will allow you to bring other women into the mix and make time for them as well.

If you haven't seen it already, check out the following article by Ricardus:

How to Date Multiple Women (with Zero Drama)

- Franco