So this is something that is confusing me and friends that I've discussed it with. Basically, she told me she wants to hang out as friends without having sex sometimes, but calling it friends with benefits still. Some background:
Met the girl daytime (very cute latin girl with tight body), got number and met up few days later for coffee. Was going to bring her back that day but as the vibe was improving she had to leave. Few days later met up brought her home and failed escalation, hooked up a bit but nothing more than her hand on my cock. Following week met up, brought her home and after some resistance succeeded. I had been up in the mountains for 4 months alpine farming and so it was great being with a woman, especially an attractive one.
The situation. Brought her over for dinner a week after I declined her invite with her and friends for movies/food. We ate, and began escalating. Push/pull stuff. This girl takes a while to warm up. She stops suddenly, the following conversation plays out:
Her: I don't know if I want to keep doing this with guys, I don't even know you
Me: (I think hard, shrug) I'm me (kiss some more)
Her: Yeah but I don't want to sleep with guys so quickly anymore.
Me: Well you already made that mistake
Her: (laughs)
Me: And we slept on the third date (some confusion about how many dates, clarify together)
Her: I want to be able to hang out as friends
Me: Listen, I'm leaving at the end of the year (2mo) and don't want anything serious.
Her: Me neither! I mean friends with benefits.
Me: I don't think you understand that (she's foreign)
Her: Of course! Friends who fuck.
Me: Well, maybe we can have a coffee next week.
Her: Or a drink! (proceeds to straddle me and hook up passionately - she wasn't so into it before. I get on top of her turns it down a notch.)
Me: You know, its not fair if you tease like that.
Her: (phone is ringing, she answers and has to leave) I wasn't teasing you. (looks sensually into my eyes as I'm between her legs as if she wants it, and then kisses me and gets up to leave. Touches my cock goodbye)
I had a strange gut feeling that I get to romantic about it?? I mean I enjoy a woman's body and kiss/caress all over. But at that moment when she looked at me I felt she just wanted to plow and that I need to be more aggressive? Who knows.
My question is should I hang out with her without sleeping? Is it possible to be thrown into friend zone after sex? And how do I set up a fuck buddy system, do I just subtly write her or state it blatant? I feel I should be sleeping with her every time we meet, only because I feel if I hang out as friends it'll become that.
Any input is appreciated!
Met the girl daytime (very cute latin girl with tight body), got number and met up few days later for coffee. Was going to bring her back that day but as the vibe was improving she had to leave. Few days later met up brought her home and failed escalation, hooked up a bit but nothing more than her hand on my cock. Following week met up, brought her home and after some resistance succeeded. I had been up in the mountains for 4 months alpine farming and so it was great being with a woman, especially an attractive one.
The situation. Brought her over for dinner a week after I declined her invite with her and friends for movies/food. We ate, and began escalating. Push/pull stuff. This girl takes a while to warm up. She stops suddenly, the following conversation plays out:
Her: I don't know if I want to keep doing this with guys, I don't even know you
Me: (I think hard, shrug) I'm me (kiss some more)
Her: Yeah but I don't want to sleep with guys so quickly anymore.
Me: Well you already made that mistake
Her: (laughs)
Me: And we slept on the third date (some confusion about how many dates, clarify together)
Her: I want to be able to hang out as friends
Me: Listen, I'm leaving at the end of the year (2mo) and don't want anything serious.
Her: Me neither! I mean friends with benefits.
Me: I don't think you understand that (she's foreign)
Her: Of course! Friends who fuck.
Me: Well, maybe we can have a coffee next week.
Her: Or a drink! (proceeds to straddle me and hook up passionately - she wasn't so into it before. I get on top of her turns it down a notch.)
Me: You know, its not fair if you tease like that.
Her: (phone is ringing, she answers and has to leave) I wasn't teasing you. (looks sensually into my eyes as I'm between her legs as if she wants it, and then kisses me and gets up to leave. Touches my cock goodbye)
I had a strange gut feeling that I get to romantic about it?? I mean I enjoy a woman's body and kiss/caress all over. But at that moment when she looked at me I felt she just wanted to plow and that I need to be more aggressive? Who knows.
My question is should I hang out with her without sleeping? Is it possible to be thrown into friend zone after sex? And how do I set up a fuck buddy system, do I just subtly write her or state it blatant? I feel I should be sleeping with her every time we meet, only because I feel if I hang out as friends it'll become that.
Any input is appreciated!
