Have you guys seen this kind of test?

[Tripz]

Alright so there's this chick, we've been friends or whatever for some time, but never actually "friends" there was always this sexual tension in between and attraction of course. Now she's available, and we've had great physical touch, made out like sex craved maniacs, and she's sending out all these signs that she is interested (we've had a backslide some time ago). But the problem is there's this guy she says that he's kind of feminine or gay or whatever, and while we went out together she invited him, I've seen the cockblock and the competition posts and I just acted casual chilled out, she kind of sees him as a friend or whatever, they met through some other friend, but she's kind of shoving him in my face, and paying more attention to him, I didn't overreact or say anything, as I think that she's just testing my shit, she kind of hovers around him, but there is nothing more than a simple convo between them. Also after we made out, she kind of acted a bit distanced and cold afterwards, kind of hard to get. I'm waiting for you guys to reply, trying it once more or I'm gonna NEXT her, life is too fucking boring not to try, but than again I'm not gonna waste any time on a failed investment.
What do you guys think, shit test, trying to make me jealous?
Edit: I did let her know casually that I didn't like it that she just invited someone, and acted a bit cold.

 

[Bboy100]

made out like sex craved maniacs, and she's sending out all these signs that she is interested

Also after we made out, she kind of acted a bit distanced and cold afterwards

but there is nothing more than a simple convo between them.

Seems like a missed Escalation Window to me. I'd just NEXT her. Although it sounds like she also might be Social Circle? So you might be able to get her back if you put in a LOT of effort. You gotta decide if that's worth it for you.

 

[Eternity]

Isolate, escalate again. Initiate sexual touch ASAP, if denied 3 times walk away and keep her on the backburner since you know her socially. Be wary of fucking up too much w/social circle game, can lead to a bad rep...

 

[ray_zorse]

Seems like a missed Escalation Window to me. I'd just NEXT her. Although it sounds like she also might be Social Circle? So you might be able to get her back if you put in a LOT of effort. You gotta decide if that's worth it for you.

I agree with Bboy100, but to clarify it could be a failed escalation, i.e. a makeout that did not lead to sex for whatever reason... possibly because of LMR... or possibly that you did not realize you had to strike while the iron was hot and isolate and escalate to sex.

Failed escalation and missed escalation window are ALMOST the same thing except that with a failed escalation the tension is ruined because she's no longer wondering if she can "get" you or what will happen if you're alone together, whereas a missed escalation window is basically a tangible moment where her feelings and behaviour towards you changed radically. Just thought I'd throw that in the mix in case Tripz goes looking up missed EW on the main site and gets puzzled.

But the effect is the same in terms of your taking a huge hit in value (didn't have the balls to seal the deal) and attainability (didn't care enough to seal the deal).

What Bboy100 refers to about getting her back if she's in social circle, is to get your value back through preselection. That's to say, flirt with and kiss a lot of girls in front of her and let her know you're having lots of sex. But, if you can pull this off you don't even need her ass anyway, so I agree with the advice to just NEXT and ignore. Remember, if she likes you she can always text you and ask for a hangout, and this has actually happened to me with several chicks I NEXTED (at that point you can decide whether she really commited a NEXTable offence or whether she was only screened out due to lack of interest on her part).

Ray

 

[Tripz]

Thanks fellas, I really needed a different perspective on this. And yes she is kind of a social circle, also something that is very helpful is that I have tons of preselection able to use in front of her, and preselection that's already happened. As for the pull, the whole logistics were f'd up and I had a really small shot of actually fucking her. I'll either next or use preselection and give it another shot, and let you guys know what happened.

 

[Dude909]

We are lacking lots of background and details here.

When and where did you initiate the make out? It's very easy to trigger ASD by making out at an inapopriate place or time.

Independently, I will note that bringing a friend on a "date" is subcommunication for "this is not a date, I like you in a platonic way".

 

[Tripz]

We are lacking lots of background and details here.

When and where did you initiate the make out? It's very easy to trigger ASD by making out at an inapopriate place or time.

Independently, I will note that bringing a friend on a "date" is subcommunication for "this is not a date, I like you in a platonic way".

It's a really long and boring story/background, the makeout was in private with not a single person nearby, and the timing was great. Thing is though, we've had moments where it's obvious that she really likes me, even on the brink of saying it directly, and sometimes she's just a bit coldish (like a woman would be haha), so I gotta go through all these mixed signals and shit.

She's either playing me/testing me, or trying to tell me that she does in fact like me as a friend, I'll try to follow up in the next few days, if I get any negative signs I'll just next her right away, can't afford the mental hassle that goes along with it or the time investment.