Long-Term Haven't had sex with my GF since Valentine's...

[Anonymous]

Ok so let me start by saying that this is the girl that took my virginity, and our relationship began after she "bid" on me at a charity auction hosted by my fraternity. We didn't have sex until about two weeks after our first date - I told her the next time I saw her that she was my first and she told me that she had no idea. Since Valentine's day, however, we haven't had sex and I fear it is because she is no longer sexually attracted to me. I've outright suggested having sex, I've tried to initiate it with foreplay, I've even not touched the issue for three consecutive times we've hung out, as suggested by one of Chase's articles as a tip to get your girl to initiate. Nothing worked.

Let me just say this, the world wouldn't end if I lost this girl, but I would really miss her company. She is extremely sweet, head over heels for me minus the sexual attraction (she loves cuddling, going places with me, super excited about me taking her to formal, loves to hold hands at restaurants, etc). Here are some other facts that might help with your suggestions:

-She is fairly sexually conservative- she refuses to give blowjobs and we've only had sex missionary style with me on top.
-After having sex the first time, we had sex about 1-2 times a week until Valentine's day. Since then we have not had sex.
-When I hung out with her a couple times ago (this was after a couple times of not asking her to have sex/initiating in any way), we were cuddling in my bed and she was throwing her legs into my lap. I think she was trying to initiate sex and I knew that, but for some reason I was being dumb and sticking to the "must not give in" mindset that I probably misinterpreted Chase's advice to be.

I don't know what I've done wrong, I know I'm not a sexual god but I'm also relatively fit and as giving as I can be during sex (I don't go downtown but I don't really feel obligated to considering she won't blow me). Maybe it's a foreplay issue? I just don't know why she would have sex with me at first and then is all of a sudden not interested, but will still cuddle with me (which we do 95% of the time we hang out). She doesn't really "make out" with me anymore (unless she's drunk), but she kisses me when I pick her up and drop her off at her house and when we're lying in bed occasionally. I really don't know what to do, I can count the amount of times I've had sex with this girl let alone in my life on two hands, I know I'm not experienced and I've done everything I can as far as searching the net for tips and advice on how to be sexual/a good lover.

 

[The Tool]

Dont even ask her to have sex. Just get behind her or sit next to her and start kissing her, and moving your hands all over her body especially her vaginal area and her breasts, but move your hands on another part before she does. soon she will go crazy with sexual excitement and initaite it herself.

Read one of franco's responses on a post in casual relationships as shown here. https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=849
^its excellent

 

[Tyme2k]

You've got to change your approach. It appears to me you lack dominance in bed. One thing girls LOVE is a dominant man in the bedroom. The last time I saw my main FB before cutting her off was her birthday, I asked her what she wanted me to do. Her answer was "take control" I did just that, I grabbed her drug her around the house hitting different positions slamming her up against the wall fucking her deep.

This was literally some of the best sex either of us ever participated in. I was controlling everything. If I didn't like where her arms were or the angle, I would physically and sternly move her and she LOVED it. I would stop and SHOVE my cock down her throat making her almost choke and when I'd hear the sound I would give a sound of approval. The sex ended in me fucking her in her ass and a dildo in her pussy, something she and I have never done and she probably will never do with ANY other guy in fear of being judged as a slut.

Girls want and crave this shit more than you can imagine, I remember reading a text convo from Manwhore of a girl that couldn't wait for him to fuck her throat and slam her agianst the wall to fuck the shit out of her. I can sense that my girls want this on a regular basis, I don't give it to them every time, but when I do you know it's amazing shit.

At this point I would suggest you try it out, what do you have to lose?

Also personally I wont stay with a girl if she wont suck my dick. This for me is MANDATORY and I don't hesitate when tell them this. If they object I slowly make it happen, if you want this ensure it's clean and tell her that's what you want. If you fuck her right she will beg to suck your dick.