Hi people. I have a sort of high quality problem here, but the biggest challenge in my dating life to date.
After being immersed in game the last six months - and only doing it religiously for one month - my GF now want to have one of two "adventures" a year.
I met this woman (7 years older than me, and perhaps the smartest woman I know) about a half a year ago. She always knew from the beginning that I wanted to live polyamorous (having sex with different women), nevertheless she understood and because she is the best woman I met so far I decided to have a relationship with her. We have been together for four months now, and I am happier than ever. She is making me a better man, helping me with my career and is like a mentor to me. And the best of all; she even let me fuck other girls in her house (we live together) as long as she is not there, and use protection and as long as I change the sheets after a having a girl over. She is in many ways perfect, and understands my desire to become better with women, "as long as its only sex", she says. And don't seem to bother if I tell her about my girls now and then.
However; since we are on an open relationship (I am getting my cake and eating it too), she now told me that she - once in a wile - is getting ready to get her fare share from our relationship. She is a very sexually experienced girl and has always been honest about her past. She tells me she don't "want to be that woman again", but as a woman in a relationship - she still finds guys attractive now and then. And might want to fuck them from time to time.
I guess my question is; how do I become 100% comfortable with this? I am still a bit jealous when she go out (she is the leader of a non-profit organisation and have to travel from time to time). I often think to myself; "is she fucking someone?", "what if he is better than me?" and "what if she leaves me for someone her age, more successful and mature?" . I just came to realize that I have two options (options she told me as well):
The truth is that I don't want to leave this woman. She is teaching me to become a better man, giving me a lot of business-opportunities and making me feel like "a man" at the same time (although she is a boss and has a lot of responsibilities at her work). She is someone that many people know, and do often get attention from the older, more successful guys, but says she wants to be with me and loves me for who I am. But at the same time I am a little apprehensive about this new situation. How do I manage my emotions?
And have some of you guys had an experience like this? And how did you become comfortable with it if you ever did?
She says she only will use this "option" when she travels abroad and will only be a "one night thing" with guys she will not meet more than once a year. She also says she will have sex with someone else a couple of times a year at most, and can tell me about it if I want to (albeit I told her I don't wanna know).
She is an open minded person, but hate lies and people that cheat. She also says that almost noone can be 100% monogamous all the time and says that the only difference is that we are open and honest about it wile 99% of couples out there cheat, lie and are stucked with people they don't love (she is a progressive woman). She dont want us to become like the other couples out there and hope that we both can be as honest as we can about this issue.
This is a long post, but it is my biggest relationship-challenge so far. I hope some of you guys can give me some insight about this. Im I crazy? Or Im I the luckiest guy ever?
After being immersed in game the last six months - and only doing it religiously for one month - my GF now want to have one of two "adventures" a year.
I met this woman (7 years older than me, and perhaps the smartest woman I know) about a half a year ago. She always knew from the beginning that I wanted to live polyamorous (having sex with different women), nevertheless she understood and because she is the best woman I met so far I decided to have a relationship with her. We have been together for four months now, and I am happier than ever. She is making me a better man, helping me with my career and is like a mentor to me. And the best of all; she even let me fuck other girls in her house (we live together) as long as she is not there, and use protection and as long as I change the sheets after a having a girl over. She is in many ways perfect, and understands my desire to become better with women, "as long as its only sex", she says. And don't seem to bother if I tell her about my girls now and then.
However; since we are on an open relationship (I am getting my cake and eating it too), she now told me that she - once in a wile - is getting ready to get her fare share from our relationship. She is a very sexually experienced girl and has always been honest about her past. She tells me she don't "want to be that woman again", but as a woman in a relationship - she still finds guys attractive now and then. And might want to fuck them from time to time.
I guess my question is; how do I become 100% comfortable with this? I am still a bit jealous when she go out (she is the leader of a non-profit organisation and have to travel from time to time). I often think to myself; "is she fucking someone?", "what if he is better than me?" and "what if she leaves me for someone her age, more successful and mature?" . I just came to realize that I have two options (options she told me as well):
- 1. Go single and meet the women without being scared
- 2. Be with her and accepting that our relationship is open.
The truth is that I don't want to leave this woman. She is teaching me to become a better man, giving me a lot of business-opportunities and making me feel like "a man" at the same time (although she is a boss and has a lot of responsibilities at her work). She is someone that many people know, and do often get attention from the older, more successful guys, but says she wants to be with me and loves me for who I am. But at the same time I am a little apprehensive about this new situation. How do I manage my emotions?
And have some of you guys had an experience like this? And how did you become comfortable with it if you ever did?
She says she only will use this "option" when she travels abroad and will only be a "one night thing" with guys she will not meet more than once a year. She also says she will have sex with someone else a couple of times a year at most, and can tell me about it if I want to (albeit I told her I don't wanna know).
She is an open minded person, but hate lies and people that cheat. She also says that almost noone can be 100% monogamous all the time and says that the only difference is that we are open and honest about it wile 99% of couples out there cheat, lie and are stucked with people they don't love (she is a progressive woman). She dont want us to become like the other couples out there and hope that we both can be as honest as we can about this issue.
This is a long post, but it is my biggest relationship-challenge so far. I hope some of you guys can give me some insight about this. Im I crazy? Or Im I the luckiest guy ever?
