So the situation often is, I am having good time with one of the girls and all out of nowhere a random friend with next to none social skill (this recent guy was even married) approaches and starts bugging me with useless crap hoping for some leftovers. Girl turns away, shows disinterest (lost attraction because I have given someone else the attention), then the guy who messed stuff up persists for a few moments before walking away from a situation he ruined.
I can restart the attraction with a girl, that isn't the issue. Problem arises, because my energy level went way down and my investment has gone way up. This is really a bad thing. I am no longer in control of the situation as well as that guy poisoning the atmosphere with his bitterness and hopelessness.
Trouble is: How to prevent loosing energy level, how to prevent getting approached by these kind of people.
My solution often was: Go out alone & 0 fucks given if you are a friend or not
But sometimes situations with friends around are non avoidable
The other serious question is: Do they smell weakness in my approach, why are they sensing an opportunity ?
Second situation is, guy approaches like he's the hottest thing on the cinder. No issue fighting that off.
What interests me is that girls get 'turned on' for a moment. Are they really all that free-flowing as they act/are ?
Are they being just friendly ? I am unable to asses such situations, can someone give me an idea what that is about ?
If I raise unavailability to such people, I also raise it for girls which will in turn produce weaker results, is that the right thing to do, setting a compromise and accepting I won't always get what I want so no need to get pissed about it ?
I can restart the attraction with a girl, that isn't the issue. Problem arises, because my energy level went way down and my investment has gone way up. This is really a bad thing. I am no longer in control of the situation as well as that guy poisoning the atmosphere with his bitterness and hopelessness.
Trouble is: How to prevent loosing energy level, how to prevent getting approached by these kind of people.
My solution often was: Go out alone & 0 fucks given if you are a friend or not
But sometimes situations with friends around are non avoidable
The other serious question is: Do they smell weakness in my approach, why are they sensing an opportunity ?
Second situation is, guy approaches like he's the hottest thing on the cinder. No issue fighting that off.
What interests me is that girls get 'turned on' for a moment. Are they really all that free-flowing as they act/are ?
Are they being just friendly ? I am unable to asses such situations, can someone give me an idea what that is about ?
If I raise unavailability to such people, I also raise it for girls which will in turn produce weaker results, is that the right thing to do, setting a compromise and accepting I won't always get what I want so no need to get pissed about it ?