Having brief moments exuding the x-factor. But how do I turn it on at will?

[kristian]

One cool thing is happening; theres a sexual vibe that I am starting to obtain and that suddenly turns on when I am talking to a girl. Its something I still cant turn on at will, but when it appears, wow! I can instantly connect with a woman, and she flirts back the same way.

I dont know how to explain it, but its like a dominant, manly vibe exuding from me. It something I turn on when I am especially warmed up, or after an intense meditation followed by a walk outside with my favorite music on. I have only experienced this a handful of times, so I still dont know how to turn it on exactly. But I see that good mood and being in the moment are two factors. I think I need more information about it to grasp it. I should write down what I feel more in order to be able to tap into that.

How are your experiences with this? This is something that is a little hard to explain and I am still in exploration mode. I would love to have some of you guys experiences about this x-factor, sexual vibe I sometimes turn on. Its like everything I say is just right and the reactions I get are insane. In that moment I feel like I can seduce any woman, but it doesnt last long. Do you know what I am talking about and how do I tap more into that?

 

[Rusty]

What you're talking about is similar to flow state. If you want to know more about flow state, read up on Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. He has a book about it that explains how people get into this state.

For me, it's very simple to get into a sexual state. The more you practice and create conditions to get into this state, the easier and more naturally it will come, especially when you're around women that you're attracted to.

One thing that I will note is that you can't be totally 100% calm (you shouldn't be too low energy) and you can't get too "high" (high energy, excited, nervous).