Having trouble with women who have no sexual momentum

[Dough]

When I approach a woman who is thinking about sex, the approach usually goes well. I have no issues directing the interaction where I want it to go. She gets my innuendos and flirts back, etc. She keeps the ball rolling along a little bit if I make a mistake which I find very helpful.

But when I go for the girls who aren't thinking about sex, I basically trip over myself and screw everything up all the time, because the girl never "gets" what I'm talking about. If it doesn't ruin the interaction on its own, then any attempt to escalate totally blindsides her which is a disaster.
Usually these girls are the ones that I want the most as well, so my victories feel small ("she wasn't my type anyway") and my defeats feel big.

I've read articles about how important it is to sexualize the interaction, but what style do I use when my attempts to sexualize will go over her head? I expect that the answer is "calibrate to her by being more direct", but I'm having a tough time with the distinction between "direct" and "neo-direct". I have this issue because I don't have a robust model of attraction in my mind, but I don't really know how to solve that. Well, other than opening my wallet heh.

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

When I approach a woman who is thinking about sex, the approach usually goes well. I have no issues directing the interaction where I want it to go. She gets my innuendos and flirts back, etc. She keeps the ball rolling along a little bit if I make a mistake which I find very helpful.

But when I go for the girls who aren't thinking about sex, I basically trip over myself and screw everything up all the time, because the girl never "gets" what I'm talking about. If it doesn't ruin the interaction on its own, then any attempt to escalate totally blindsides her which is a disaster.
Usually these girls are the ones that I want the most as well, so my victories feel small ("she wasn't my type anyway") and my defeats feel big.

I've read articles about how important it is to sexualize the interaction, but what style do I use when my attempts to sexualize will go over her head? I expect that the answer is "calibrate to her by being more direct", but I'm having a tough time with the distinction between "direct" and "neo-direct". I have this issue because I don't have a robust model of attraction in my mind, but I don't really know how to solve that. Well, other than opening my wallet heh.

If words are not working than use touch. That combined with good flirting should do the trick. Not all flirting has to be directly sexual. Use your fundamentals. You can look at a girl a certain way and she’ll get the message, if calibrated correctly you may even turn her on with that look. Sometimes imagining the girl naked or imagining yourself plowing her, these visualizations will naturally change how you interact with her. You will be acting in a more sexual nature. Test the waters with this, if she responds to your turned on state with discomfort then you back off for a bit and change your frame. Then try again to escalate at another opportune moment.

hope this helps!

BHL