Okay, a little bit of background. I had a long bad relationship, and a rough breakup. I started checking out this site a few months ago, and recently I finally started approaching. After approaching tonight, I got my 1st phone number.
“St. Patrick’s Day Parade After-party”
So in my city there are several bars that have events after and probably during the parade. However, I have NEVER gone to anything other than the parade. So I drove by well after the parade, and went to eat at a bar/restaurant. While in line I meet two girls, I ask them what I missed and where to go. They drunkenly but politely told me where (while shocked that as a resident, I didn’t know). I bought them a snack. It didn’t cost much and I figured I would be polite back. Instead of sitting with them (uninvited), I ordered a beer in the separate part of the place (you have to if you want it) and scoped out the place. After not really getting anywhere with anyone else, I caught the girls before they left to thanked them again and ask for their name in case I see them later. I got their name and went off to the other bar. (Note, I should have made a memo note in my phone, because I forgot those names by drink #2). I chatted with a few people, got hugged by a few guys (why do my fundamentals attract friendship from guys when I want attention from girls, ARGGH!). Anyway, I opened 7 girls, and got 1 number. On the side note, I only asked for one number. I really need to learn how to keep the conversation flowing (I almost botched this one and could have gotten at least two sets of numbers). Anyhow, there was this pretty brunet that I met from a city nearby. I told her that her hair was pretty (truth), and that I wanted to know her name; asked where she was from; what brought her out tonight; etc. I chatted a bit more about stuff going on around us, and eventually got the number (I told her it’s to catch up and chat when she goes out again, but I don’t want that I want to take her to lunch or dinner or something). Now what?
Interesting Notes: A couple of guys way older than me were killing it out there. I got the “that’s my wife” statement from a couple of girls I was talking to. I noticed that if you want to dance you have to be aggressive and actually take someone by the hand. If there’s a guy with the girl they don’t like that, but oh well.
I guess that’s my dilemma/report in a nutshell.
Thanks fellas for all the helpful advice and posts. It’s truly appreciated. Night game is fun, Day game is terrifying and exciting, but the big payoff is becoming more social and happy with one’s self.
-J
“St. Patrick’s Day Parade After-party”
So in my city there are several bars that have events after and probably during the parade. However, I have NEVER gone to anything other than the parade. So I drove by well after the parade, and went to eat at a bar/restaurant. While in line I meet two girls, I ask them what I missed and where to go. They drunkenly but politely told me where (while shocked that as a resident, I didn’t know). I bought them a snack. It didn’t cost much and I figured I would be polite back. Instead of sitting with them (uninvited), I ordered a beer in the separate part of the place (you have to if you want it) and scoped out the place. After not really getting anywhere with anyone else, I caught the girls before they left to thanked them again and ask for their name in case I see them later. I got their name and went off to the other bar. (Note, I should have made a memo note in my phone, because I forgot those names by drink #2). I chatted with a few people, got hugged by a few guys (why do my fundamentals attract friendship from guys when I want attention from girls, ARGGH!). Anyway, I opened 7 girls, and got 1 number. On the side note, I only asked for one number. I really need to learn how to keep the conversation flowing (I almost botched this one and could have gotten at least two sets of numbers). Anyhow, there was this pretty brunet that I met from a city nearby. I told her that her hair was pretty (truth), and that I wanted to know her name; asked where she was from; what brought her out tonight; etc. I chatted a bit more about stuff going on around us, and eventually got the number (I told her it’s to catch up and chat when she goes out again, but I don’t want that I want to take her to lunch or dinner or something). Now what?
Interesting Notes: A couple of guys way older than me were killing it out there. I got the “that’s my wife” statement from a couple of girls I was talking to. I noticed that if you want to dance you have to be aggressive and actually take someone by the hand. If there’s a guy with the girl they don’t like that, but oh well.
I guess that’s my dilemma/report in a nutshell.
Thanks fellas for all the helpful advice and posts. It’s truly appreciated. Night game is fun, Day game is terrifying and exciting, but the big payoff is becoming more social and happy with one’s self.
-J
