Help! Had argument with girlfriend, she might leave me

[Lithuanian]

Today I had big argument with my girlfriend. We talked with low tone of voice, but it was really intense.

A little background. My girlfriend lives and works in another city and goes back to the city where I live only on weekends. Therefore we meet on weekends only. She said that she won't be able to meet me on that weekend, because she has lots of work to do. I tried to tell her to meet for a few hours at least. She said she didn't want to make arguments with me, but still declined. Now I told her then to call me sometimes, because I always call her on the days when we're out of town, but she doesn't. She said, she doesn't want to bother me. I ensured her, she doesn't bother me.

Next day (saturday) I went with a friend of mine and to hang out a bit, when my girlfriend called me. I then said that I'm with my friend and can't talk now. All week she didn't answer my calls. She answered today and told me that she did so deliberately, because I chose - my friend over her. Therefore, my priorities are my friends. And now she is in seriously thinking about it and whether to continue our relationship. And she told me to talk with myself about this situation.

Now, I talked with her very calmly and tried to solve this argument, but she told me that I have to talk to myself and refused to talk anymore. What should I do in this situation? I like her very much and she is a high quality girl, and I don't want to end relationship with her.

 

[Big Daddy]

Hey man, I'm gonna quote a post Ray made in another thread that I think it's highly relevant in your case:

My diagnosis here is that you're not approaching the situation from a position of sufficient abundance. When I hear dudes say in the forums (and I hear this a lot) "it's an ideal relationship except for this one tiny problem" what this screams to me is SCARCITY, the dude knows what he has to do, but doesn't have the confidence, therefore he's convincing himself the situation is better than it is, to justify remaining statically in his comfort zone.

So what's happening here is that having pedestalized her to some extent you're feeling it's your responsibility to provide sex and hard dick to her, well that's not the case. And you're also putting pressure on yourself because you feel if you don't step up to the plate you'll lose the girl. WRONG MINDSET. If SHE doesn't step up to the plate SHE WILL LOSE YOU. See what I mean about the abundance? Anyway, takes two to tango man.

For instance, why would be an weekend without your girl be a problem? It's just a weekend, and it seems she had legitimate reasons to stay in her city. It comes off as extremely needy.

Even more when you try to negotiate and have her call you instead of thinking "not coming over? Kay, your loss. I've got to take care of other things anyways." She's the one who should be missing you so much that she cannot help but want to call you all weekend long. You shouldn't have to ask for it.

But ignoring that for a moment and moving on -- so because of your request, she call you and you say you can't take the call at the moment because you're hanging out with someone else.

I'm a guy too so I understand what you did here, and I bet it wasn't that important... to you. You see, as guys we treat these as not big deal, because they truly aren't for us. But for a woman, specially if she's your girlfriend, the impression that you don't care about her that much is a very big deal. She depends on you to lead and protect her and she needs to be sure you are aware of what she needs as a woman.

First off, don't be all apologetic. This comes from a place of neediness. You have to acknowledge that you might have been inconsiderate -- particularly when you factor it that it was your request to begin with -- get to the root of the problem, assure her that it isn't going to happen again and when she comes over the next weekend dig a motherfucking hole in the ground while you fuck her the hardest you can.

Read this article on how to deal with drama: https://www.girlschase.com/content/key-n ... a-bud-ltrs