I met a girl at work that flirts hard, to the point of her gushing about me to other people, but she has a boyfriend so I really didn't entertain it, just played along when the flirting started. Sometimes she'll flirt and I'll just look at her and smile. One time she even griped: "And he doesn't say anything." after saying how fine I would be if...[insert appearance alteration], basically thinking out loud.
THE GOOD
I get her phone number and we text that night. The next day, I find out she pretty much told everybody. After that I ask her to model for me, since I shoot. She agrees very much flattered I asked her, then all the sudden she realizes she's got other engagements (lacrosse game, boyfriend anniversary), so we reschedule.
THE BAD
Then there was a time when she would flirt with other guys at work. So I just pegged it as her being a girl in a relationship looking for boost from other guys. Then she goes back in on flirting, texting, putting me on a pedestal and what not. Then all the sudden she does it again and tells me about a guy she's snapchatting she thinks is "hot". I sensed it a while back but I ignored it, but her talking to me about it did bum me out a bit. And this is the funny sad part, she knew. I'm talking to customers and she says: "What's wrong, you sound sad." Almost like she's teasing me about it. Turrble.
Within that day though she, talked about hanging out with me on the weekend, but I already knew she wasn't gonna be available, based off previous conversation. So I said: "You're not even gonna be here." And of course she does the "Oh yeah, I'm not totally forgot."
What the fck is going on?
Summary
Writing this out shows how much work I need with girls. I'm better than I was before though. What do I make of this? I feel like maybe I took too long with her and she's disappointed about that. I never just told her straight up I liked her. And looking back, that's my problem with girls I play it too cool until it's too late.
I never really put any hard moves on her except in text and slight flirting at work, really aiming to get her out of the work setting because I like that seperate from my private life.
THE GOOD
I get her phone number and we text that night. The next day, I find out she pretty much told everybody. After that I ask her to model for me, since I shoot. She agrees very much flattered I asked her, then all the sudden she realizes she's got other engagements (lacrosse game, boyfriend anniversary), so we reschedule.
THE BAD
Then there was a time when she would flirt with other guys at work. So I just pegged it as her being a girl in a relationship looking for boost from other guys. Then she goes back in on flirting, texting, putting me on a pedestal and what not. Then all the sudden she does it again and tells me about a guy she's snapchatting she thinks is "hot". I sensed it a while back but I ignored it, but her talking to me about it did bum me out a bit. And this is the funny sad part, she knew. I'm talking to customers and she says: "What's wrong, you sound sad." Almost like she's teasing me about it. Turrble.
Within that day though she, talked about hanging out with me on the weekend, but I already knew she wasn't gonna be available, based off previous conversation. So I said: "You're not even gonna be here." And of course she does the "Oh yeah, I'm not totally forgot."
What the fck is going on?
Summary
Writing this out shows how much work I need with girls. I'm better than I was before though. What do I make of this? I feel like maybe I took too long with her and she's disappointed about that. I never just told her straight up I liked her. And looking back, that's my problem with girls I play it too cool until it's too late.
I never really put any hard moves on her except in text and slight flirting at work, really aiming to get her out of the work setting because I like that seperate from my private life.
