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HELP ME ON THIS "opener why I'm out alone"

irish-armour

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Help needed on this if possible , I've no problem heading out on the town on my own but I'm struggling on what to say as the reason Im not with friends, I've made progress on this before but only by luck as i was wasted and would like to make solid progress in this area

many thanks

pierce
 
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Franco

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irish,

There's a few decent ways to respond to this if you're unable to think of something quick on your feet.

The first way to respond is by telling a small lie and saying that your buddies wanted to leave early but you were in a great mood and wanted to stick around. If you're feeling bold, you can even add on something like "...and I wanted to strike up a conversation with you before I decided to take my leave!" (with a sexy voice and good eye contact). This is a great way to turn the focus to her right after answering the question, and if she's flattered, then she'll likely smile and continue to converse with you.

The other option is to tackle it head on and make it seem like you find it funny/cute that she thinks going out alone is weird. How you want to phrase this is up to you, but one example might be to turn the question on her with a quizzical look, "have you never gone out by yourself before for a drink?" Or you can directly address the question with something like, "I love going out alone, actually. It's not that I don't enjoy going to a bar with my friends, and I do occasionally, but a bar gives me time to reflect on things that I normally won't be thinking about if my friends are chatting up a storm. " And, like the first answer I gave you, you can even add, "...and occasionally I get to meet and chat with a cute girl with a little more privacy" (also with a sexy voice and good eye contact).

There are many ways to tackle this question, but what she's really looking for when she answers this question is not so much WHAT your answer is but HOW you answer it. If you seem calm, collected, and comfortable with yourself, she's going to feel the same way. If you seem ruffled/caught off guard, she's going to feel uncomfortable because you suddenly seem creepy for not having a good answer for being there by yourself.

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Mr.Rob

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Yeah dude it's a shit test for the most part.

She wants to see if you're going to flinch or be insecure about not having friends to hang with.

If you think it's cool and normal she won't question it.

Before I got friends I used to go out alone pretty much all the time and I got asked this all the time as well.

A couple more routes to go with this that Franco didn't mention:

Just tell the truth. "I felt like going out and I didn't have any friends that were interested to come with me."

Or even tell girls that you aren't cool and you have no friends. I used to tell girls that all the time and they'd usually start laughing (funny thing was they thought I was joking because I was so cool with them).

Also you can make up some ridiculous answers such as "whatever girl friends are for wusses, adventure time girl!" or "not having friends is awesome! No drunk people to look after that will throw up in my car (or whatever reason you can think of to frame not having friends as being the next best thing since sliced bread)" or "Captain Morgan is everyone's friend! Watch" (proceed to pour shot of captain Morgan down girls throat and makeout with her)

All and all if you're a cool guy that knows how to add value to interactions and not be the creepy guy that puts everyone on a pedestal and acts weird/wont go away after you approach them the girls will sense that and you'll be good to go as long as you pass the initial test of her inquiring on where your friends are at.
 
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