Help me with this marriage material woman

[rahoo]

I met this gorgeous petite latina on a dating website. Shortly after getting her number, I called her. We talked for about 3 hours while I made a road trip back home. If everything she told me on the phone is true, she is marriage material. This woman is my age, 25, in the military, has only had sex with three men, likes the same music I do (she mentioned Bach and Berlioz for crying out loud!), she likes to shoot, she has a good relationship with her family, her parents are still together, likes to read, cook, yoga, pilates, plays piano etc... during our first conversation, she wanted to play 21 questions but it turned into me just asking her questions. She pretty much provoked me to ask her sexual questions about her fantasies, favorite positions, and things of that nature.

Let me rewind, this woman lives in a different state but is moving near me in 2 weeks. Our first conversation got weird. She kept telling me how hot I am and how she hopes I'm the one she'll fall in love with, marry, and have babies. I kind of played along "sure thing I'll start looking for a ring" "Yea we're going to have at least 10 kids". That same night she called and wanted to have phone sex. Basically it was me listening to her get herself off. I think she called again to have phone sex yet again. I'm not going to lie it was hot.

We've talked on and off since then. The following converations were far more brief, and included her sorting herself out. I was concerned at first that I was getting catfished, but her story checks out. We happen to have a similar job in the military and we talked about it, she provided the address she's colocating to, she's sent me current pics including nudes...

My question for you Lords of Seduction, is how do I not fuck this up? I've never been with such a sexy and high value woman. She seems very high energy and I'm usually in the middle, sometimes low. She's described to me a perfect first date, beach wine and stars bs which I plan on doing. But I do want to make this woman fall in love with me even if she was just joking around. She has also remarked how I should move in with her and "fuck her every night to sleep". Gents, she's freaking gorgeous and a little crazy. I'll be eternally grateful for any advice you guys have to gift me. If anyone wants pics of her or me I can pm you.

 

[ray_zorse]

Eh, well as soon as I saw the subject line I pretty much knew what my advice would be -- you're putting her on a pedestal, sure she has a good job, she's nice and kind, you have common interests, connect well... big deal there are millions of women answering that description in your city. Thing is yoi've invested 3hrs of your time plus lots of other texting etc and lots of mental energy imagining scenarios, writing posts etc, you're like the dude who bought shares in a company, value dropped so he thought "uhh, I'll buy some more, then I'll make EVEN MORE money when it shoots up", value dropped again etc... point is that in a situation where you are invested you have to take a neutral view like "hmm she seems okay, lets see if she actually has what it takes" (with the woman) or "hmm, if I was looking at this share for the first time, would I buy it? ... no? then sell" (with the share). You haven't even bedded her yet, what if she's been raped and gone frigid, she only likes painful sex... take it easy mon! Frankly you've already fucked up, a high value man wouldn't invest like that until he bedded her, and maybe not even then. So she knows you're in scarcity and probably not a powerful, dominant motherfucker with options coming out his wazoo. But, maybe she still likes you. Get her out on a date and imvite her home and get her into your bed -- but expect her to resist intimacy as she now sees you as a boyfriend / potential provider and won't be giving up the honey without lots more investment on your part. Let us know how it goes, but don't be disappointed if she goes off the boil before you can get her out. Life is a bit cruel sometimes. Date lots more women and you'll be golden
Ray

 

[rahoo]

Thank you for the reply! In the mean time should I not text or call her until she actually gets here?

 

[ray_zorse]

IMO it's okay to talk to her (especially since you have already set an "available" frame, so, suddenly acting all busy and aloof might be incongruent, OTOH you could have just been hit by a shit ton of work), but keep it minimal. What would be best is to let her initiate. For instance my current gf, before I had bedded her, would text me at about 10pm at night "G9 Ray" and I interpreted this as chasing, I wanted to encourage her to chase so I was always careful to respond with something like "thanks darling, sleep well xx" within an hour or so. Another thing to keep in mind is try not to send the last msg in a conversation, so don't send useless msgs like "okay. see you then", if she sent the last text then you can re-engage at any time w/o double texting (which looks chasey).
Ray

 

[Dude909]

DAFS "oneitis"

NEXT

GFTOW

 

[ray_zorse]

Err yeah actually I just went back to read the rest of the OP and I am a little concerned. Read this to see why.
Ray

 

[rahoo]

Err yeah actually I just went back to read the rest of the OP and I am a little concerned. Read this to see why.
Ray

That article raises a few alarms, though she isn't playing the Damsel in distress at all. i guess I haven't been very clear that besides our first conversation, we've talked only a handful of times and they were from 5-20 minutes long. Texting is maybe a few a day. Armed with the knowledge that she may trying to "mousetrap" me, I still want to bang her.