Hi
i want to discusse some issue i'm having with a girl. And either help me to solve it or telling me hwat i did wrong nad what i should have done better.
The background:
She's a girl from my extended social circle and college, who i met from work and several activities i do in the realm of entreupreuneurship. She is quite independent and dynamic, think i like a lot. It was a mutual attraction and warmth beetween us, she was clearly chasing me . But because of that time, exams and bad logistics we didn't get intimate, and we didi'nt have contact all the last summer month, because igot to summer schooln she was supposed to comes to, but things chaged for her.
So no conact for more than 6 weeks.
After that she re conacted me on facebook like "Hi Witcher, since a long time, who are you, i wasn"t here, for the summer school, got to camping with my family"
Answer and balbalab , note that i didn'"t try to re onacted her in that 5 weeks and didn't asked her about what she does. She was self inversting.
The process:
After we started school again , we meeted by luck tow times and we had a very cool moment, but shorts (poor engeenering students).
After a time of non conact i onc said "Hi " to her on facebook and shared with her a subject of mutual interest (i did this with all m friends). But the first words from her was "Witcher, i do'nt see you anymore at college, did you leaved me
, how re you doing? "
I told her that: "i can sat the same thing about you, but why don't we meet this days on college for a cofee on our free time"
She told me "Ok tomorow i will finish a 1pm, just call me"
Me: "Sorry i can't make it(was true i had class)"
Her: "call me when you are free "
Me: "Ok as you are a more busy study shedule than karate kid as i know ( her major take more time than mine), why don't you text me when you are free time in college and if i'm too we meet "
her: "lol Ok"
2 Days after i text her , because finished early in college. She didn't answered the text!
The fellolwing evening, she was online on facebook as me , but no message from her. i didi'nt want to contact her. She keeped her radio silence in all the technologies. until one week after hse message me on facebook :
"Hey witcher, how are you".
i readed the message , but i didn't anwsered, i have a pretty trong character a do'nt tolerate disrespect and bullshit.
After that i strated to play games with her like i answred her after one week too but the same messafe as her :
"Hey chickofcollege, how are you". In the hope of setting a meet as advised in:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/ultim ... -girl-back
She just answred after 2/3 days "Hi witcher,yes im' doing well, and you"
i just answered her on time perhpas some minutes later
Me: HI good to talk to you again, fine and you. Long time we didi'nt have news (Ca fait longtemps in french) !!!
But know she didi'nt answred at all !!
I think my one week later answer maked her auto-reject, because she knows that it wasn't fair that she didi'nt answer my initial Text , and my radio silence just proved that. But anyways she ma,aged to correct that in the best way she could ny casualy reinitating conact with me but i failed to "reward her" for this and punished her even more wich make her auto-reject.
So how to solve this a oif possible or how i sould do better next time.
Note: she a girls who is quite charming a chased by a lot of shopping and white knight guys, an even do some modeling, but didi'nt want to continue in tthat path because she want to becom an engineer. Have guys chainbg her, but prefered me because of my charcter and intrigue and may other things a developped here in girlschase.
My errors i think are :
-A bad management of attainability, rewarding good behaviour.
-The role of the men is to defuse the awkwardness of situation a make the girl confortable , i did all the opposite.
The bad news here: when i was attemting this, i was knowing that i'm doing a bad think by ignoring her after she re-contacted me on her own, but i think my pride and sadistic side won the battle over my knowledge.
comments, suggestions
i want to discusse some issue i'm having with a girl. And either help me to solve it or telling me hwat i did wrong nad what i should have done better.
The background:
She's a girl from my extended social circle and college, who i met from work and several activities i do in the realm of entreupreuneurship. She is quite independent and dynamic, think i like a lot. It was a mutual attraction and warmth beetween us, she was clearly chasing me . But because of that time, exams and bad logistics we didn't get intimate, and we didi'nt have contact all the last summer month, because igot to summer schooln she was supposed to comes to, but things chaged for her.
So no conact for more than 6 weeks.
After that she re conacted me on facebook like "Hi Witcher, since a long time, who are you, i wasn"t here, for the summer school, got to camping with my family"
Answer and balbalab , note that i didn'"t try to re onacted her in that 5 weeks and didn't asked her about what she does. She was self inversting.
The process:
After we started school again , we meeted by luck tow times and we had a very cool moment, but shorts (poor engeenering students).
After a time of non conact i onc said "Hi " to her on facebook and shared with her a subject of mutual interest (i did this with all m friends). But the first words from her was "Witcher, i do'nt see you anymore at college, did you leaved me
, how re you doing? "I told her that: "i can sat the same thing about you, but why don't we meet this days on college for a cofee on our free time"
She told me "Ok tomorow i will finish a 1pm, just call me"
Me: "Sorry i can't make it(was true i had class)"
Her: "call me when you are free "
Me: "Ok as you are a more busy study shedule than karate kid as i know ( her major take more time than mine), why don't you text me when you are free time in college and if i'm too we meet "
her: "lol Ok"
2 Days after i text her , because finished early in college. She didn't answered the text!
The fellolwing evening, she was online on facebook as me , but no message from her. i didi'nt want to contact her. She keeped her radio silence in all the technologies. until one week after hse message me on facebook :
"Hey witcher, how are you
".i readed the message , but i didn't anwsered, i have a pretty trong character a do'nt tolerate disrespect and bullshit.
After that i strated to play games with her like i answred her after one week too but the same messafe as her :
"Hey chickofcollege, how are you
". In the hope of setting a meet as advised in:https://www.girlschase.com/content/ultim ... -girl-back
She just answred after 2/3 days "Hi witcher,yes im' doing well, and you"
i just answered her on time perhpas some minutes later
Me: HI good to talk to you again, fine and you. Long time we didi'nt have news (Ca fait longtemps in french) !!!
But know she didi'nt answred at all !!
I think my one week later answer maked her auto-reject, because she knows that it wasn't fair that she didi'nt answer my initial Text , and my radio silence just proved that. But anyways she ma,aged to correct that in the best way she could ny casualy reinitating conact with me but i failed to "reward her" for this and punished her even more wich make her auto-reject.
So how to solve this a oif possible or how i sould do better next time.
Note: she a girls who is quite charming a chased by a lot of shopping and white knight guys, an even do some modeling, but didi'nt want to continue in tthat path because she want to becom an engineer. Have guys chainbg her, but prefered me because of my charcter and intrigue and may other things a developped here in girlschase.
My errors i think are :
-A bad management of attainability, rewarding good behaviour.
-The role of the men is to defuse the awkwardness of situation a make the girl confortable , i did all the opposite.
The bad news here: when i was attemting this, i was knowing that i'm doing a bad think by ignoring her after she re-contacted me on her own, but i think my pride and sadistic side won the battle over my knowledge.
comments, suggestions
