help w/introductions

[Go10]

Hey guys,
So I'm off to college in a couple of months.
I am most probably not cold approaching direct that much in my own college..maybe in the other college parties and stuff but now in my own. I do not want a 'creep' rep.

That's leaves to social circle and introductions.
Introductions are something which always leave me scratching my head.
Let's say I ask a friend to introduce me to a girl he/she knows.

He/she introduces us. We shake hands. But the friend doesn't leave due to some particular reason.
This is the part I can't figure out. How do i display sexual intent/ask her out and get her number? I'm assuming it'll depend a lot on non-verbal communication?

What do I even say? I always get nervous during introductions and I don't know what to say when a friend is standing there. I'm okay'ish when i am conversing alone though.
If someone could give a small conversation example, like the ones given in the GC articles, that'd be great.

Thanks.

 

[ray_zorse]

Given you understand how cold approach works, I would think you could just introduce yourself to girls you like. This is much more ballsy, will impress her more, and will give you more control over situations.

You mentioned creepiness, have you read the article "How not to be the creepy guy"? If you have you will understand that creepiness basically = concealing your intentions, and the scenario you describe (having somebody make a "friendly introduction" and then "melt away" leaving you to game the girl) does have an element of creepiness to it. Don'y worry, I'm not criticizing, this is the kind of scenario that used to run through my mind too, before I learned to be direct and to take control of situations.

Although in the case you describe I'd recommend avoiding the situation before it occurs, there will be times when you have to blow off friends, etc, in order to be alone with your girl. Think of this as a shit test -- if you fail and let unwanted people hang around and ruin your seductions, windows will close and you will look weak in her eyes, killing attraction.

So if you need to isolate her, be firm and direct, even going so far as to say "Xxx and I would like to be alone. Could you please leave." if the situation warrants it. More likely take a leaf from Mr.Rob: "I am taking Xxx for the next few hours. I will certainly return her safe and sound."

Hope that helps.

Ray

 

[Go10]

Given you understand how cold approach works, I would think you could just introduce yourself to girls you like. This is much more ballsy, will impress her more, and will give you more control over situations.

You mentioned creepiness, have you read the article "How not to be the creepy guy"? If you have you will understand that creepiness basically = concealing your intentions, and the scenario you describe (having somebody make a "friendly introduction" and then "melt away" leaving you to game the girl) does have an element of creepiness to it. Don'y worry, I'm not criticizing, this is the kind of scenario that used to run through my mind too, before I learned to be direct and to take control of situations.

now that you mention it, that introduction and 'melting away' does actually sound kinda creepy.
I did read the article on Creepiness, but I don't remember it much. There's so many articles here it gets kinda difficult to remember everything haha
Guess I'll have to give that a read again.

When you were starting out, i.e a beginner did you approach direct in college? I love going direct but in my own college campus, if it doesn't go well, i might get a bad rep. I have seen some guys posting about this in the boards too. Hence, I was thinking about doing social circle game and indirect game in my own college.

The uni i am trying to get into, the colleges are spread out..like 3 here and another 3-4 someplace 2-3 miles away..like that.
I am sure as heck going all out direct in the other colleges, college fests, streets, malls etc. My game and fundaments aren't on that level that everytime I direct approach a girl, her pussy's drippin' wet haha. (literally)
Although I am working a lot on that and my fundaments have certainly improved and approach anxiety has reduced.

So if you need to isolate her, be firm and direct, even going so far as to say "Xxx and I would like to be alone. Could you please leave." if the situation warrants it. More likely take a leaf from Mr.Rob: "I am taking Xxx for the next few hours. I will certainly return her safe and sound."

I wasn't talking about pulls here due to absolutely bullshit logistics in the first 2 months of college. Although it certainly could be modified to suit 10 min-20 min interactions.

 

[Ross]

You can still cold approach on campus without fear for establishing a shady rep.

I typically reserve direct game for situations where there is either:
a) a high sexual energy (parties, bars, night-time activities, beach)
b) low-risk of meeting that person again

There's also being congruent in your approach. If I'm sitting in a bar and a woman walks up and orders a drink, I'm going to open casually, because that is how the situation presents itself. Having her calmly walk up to the bar to be met by me asking her if she's single will feel off.

Conversely, if you spot a woman across the street on campus, and you run over to her, then you're going to need to go direct, because saying "Hi, my name is Ross" is going to feel weird. She saw you running across the street to her, so obviously you are interested. Anything other than "You have a stunning, elegant walk and I just had to meet you. My name is Ross" is going to fall into creepy territory.

The somewhat nice thing about college campus is that although you can do the above, you don't have to. Go indirect when you can if you want to maximize your chances of not being blown out or shitting on your reputation. But go direct when the situation calls for it.

 

[Go10]

Hey Ross,

those are some really nice points there.
I haven't done any indirect game till now so i guess i better start working on it. Thanks man!