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So back in June I wrote a post on taking a 1 year break from game and it was probably unrealistic and a bit of an overreaction to me having a quarter life crisis lol.
Since then I ended it with 2 girls from my rotation of 3 and have been casually seeing 1 girl from this report once every 1-4 weeks.
What I found interesting is that when I've been out with friends I haven't felt rusty and after conversations with a good friend who's also going on a hiatus of his own we found that girls are surprisingly even more into us than before. Here is an example of that phenomena with a recent lay that happened this Friday.
Background Context
2 guy friends I used to work with in my bartender days spontaneously invite me out for 1-2 drinks. We all agree to keep it a short night and I'm confident that we will for once as one of my friends has No ID but is a regular at a local bar that let's him in with no questions asked.
My Outfit
I wear doc martin desert boots, ripped black jeans, a navy blue jumper and stone overcoat with the collar up. My friend jokes saying I didn't need to dress up but I laugh back that I hardly leave the house these days as I work for home so this feels like an occasion. Cologne was Montale Blanc Explorer which I recommend if you're looking for a fresh and citrus versatile fragrance that's similar to aventus creed.
Bar 1/2 (socializing)
It ends up being 4 guys having drinks as one of my friends brings his housemate. The bar is half empty with mostly other guys present so we vibe over football, accusing each other of being players and people watching. I spotted one guy weirdly dancing by himself solo. He screamed RSD vibes but respect to him as 30 minutes in he was having shots/partying with 2 decent looking girls.
I'm tempted to approach the few girls in the bar but not in feeling it so mostly just vibe with the guys. I ping a girl while ordering a drink about how it's a cool spot and she doesn't bite.
3 drinks in I leave the bar and start talking to bouncers at neighboring bars to see if they'll let my friend in with a picture of his ID. Luckily 1 bites and we all leave.
2/2 Bar (hitting on girls)
This place is a lot more lively than the last place. It had 2 floors and bouncers cracking jokes which got me feeling more upbeat. I hit on a girl and her boyfriend comes over. I'm chill and say ahh my bad man you've got a catch and he's cool about it too. The girl didn't say a word and was encouraging the conversation so think I was a pawn to prove a point lol.
We get to the dance floor and it's packed. We just start dancing and having fun to the music. Notice a girl I went on a date and pulled to mine but nothing happened. Smile and wave but don't approach to not make it weird.
Bar Game / The Girl I Slept With
Positioning
I purposely make our group dance in the dance floor area where there are a lot of girls to increase our chances of something happening. We're hovering near a girl of 3 who I joke and tease about one of their friend's dance moves to build momentum. I don't push it as my gut says they're a waste of time but we then end up near a group of 3 girls and 2 guys.
The Girl
It's becoming a joke at this point but I spotted a... You guessed it - short brunette girl with a cute outfit. She had red lipstick, long black wavy hair and a black dress with black high heeled boots. She was also a part of the mixed group.
Green light
The girls in the mixed set are friendly. I dance a little with the brunette one and find out she lives in the area (right near me) and is with all her Spanish friends. There's a little grinding going on that she instigates and I take her hand and spin her to the beat as well as wrap one arm across the front of her shoulders while singing the words and just having a good time. I make sure not to be too sexual as conscious her friends are there.
I also don't really push it hard as mixed sets are usually a waste of time. I turn to dance with my friends and she ends up walking in front of me to dance again.
Green fucking light.
6th Sense/Game
This is where it gets interesting. The girl is DTF and ends up kissing 2 of my friends ahahah. 1 of my friend says would you be cool with a threesome and I say yeah it would probably bring us closer together lol.
If you read this site though you probably know that kissing a girl in a club OFTEN reduces your chances of actually pulling. Why? Because there are now no surprises and it can raise her LMR too. So I let my friends burn their chance with a grin on my face. I also don't react and carry on dancing/having fun.
I also made sure to leave the girl and do my own thing before coming back a couple of times. I read this from a forum years ago and it really works. Makes the girl feel like you aren't all over her and often a girl's night won't be as fun when you aren't there and she'll enjoy that spike in emotion when you're back.
Keeping My Cool With The Group
While my friends are semi-competing for this girl, I win over her friendship group. I'm complimenting the guys' outfit, making small talk with her friends who told me to "look after brunette" before telling me "I saw your friend looking after her more than you"
I shrug and laugh before saying don't worry it's all under control
At one point Brunette tries to kiss me but I turn my cheek and say not yet with a mischievous grin. She seems surprised and repeats "Not yet??"
Had her just where I wanted her...
The Pull
It hits 1am and it's now make or break. I have work in the morning at 9am at my 2nd job so my mindset is go back and get a good amount of sleep or pull. I won't waste time and linger for a "maybe". I talk to the girl and say I'm leaving and she says why. I say I have to go but she's welcome to join me. There's back and forth and we aren't really going any where before I turn and see her friends leaving.
No clockblocking or "girl chats". They literally say bye to her and leave lol. This is due to me winning them over before and just my overall "harmless" vibe.
Brunette's tone changes and she said come with me to get my jacket. We go back in to the dance floor and she gets her jacket. I say bye to my friends and say I'm going to the girl. She caves and says I'll come with you as I use plausible deniability excuse of "it makes sense as we live close"
While we're going through heavy crowd to leave, I order the uber so there's minimal waiting time when we're outside.
Outside she goes around saying bye to the bouncers and I crack some jokes with some random guys at the smoking area. They ask me if she's my girl and I reply she is for tonight and they all laugh.
Escalation
When we arrive I link arms with her and take her straight to my room. I play reggaeton music, pull her on top of me and she kisses me with tongue straight away. A usual sign that the girl is good to go. We strip down and she asks me if I have condoms which I don't. Fuck. This is where it could potentially go left.
Ordering Condoms From Deliveroo
There's no condoms in my house as the current girl I'm seeing is on the pill and basically refused to use condoms hahaha. I should be more disciplined with that but yeah discussion for another time. Luckily the girl has 2 condoms so that doesn't kill the momentum.
We sleep together then I order more condoms at 2am but she falls asleep by the time they arrive lol. Pretty cool that you can order condoms - I love living in London.
She then wakes up randomly at like 4am and we go another round before finally sleeping.
Funny Plot Twist
She finally decides to ask what my actual name is and when I say, her face drops and she swears in Spanish... Turns out I had slept with her Spanish house mate just 6 weeks' before hahahah. From the same bar too. It ends up being chill as I reassure her, no one will find out unless she tells because I certainly won't.
The housemate is also seeing someone (which explains why she was slippery to get hold of) so there's no harm done. We end up making a full back story about how my name is Marco from a South London area in case her friend asks and it reminds me just how sly girls can be lol. But yeah better to be on the right side of it.
Closing Thoughts
This girl and her housemate both weren't wifey material nor were they freaks in bed so they're in no man's land where I'm fine with not seeing them again.
I think for the next 3-6 months' I'll stick to this style of game where I just bring in new green light girls while living my life and keep this department of my life on easy maintenance mode.
For guys out there worried about getting rusty while pursuing other goals, trust me your concern is overblown. Learning game is like building muscle in the gym, if you stop working it will go dormant but getting back into it will bring you to where you left off a lot quicker than it took you to get to that level in the 1st place.
Onwards & Upwards
DWW
Since then I ended it with 2 girls from my rotation of 3 and have been casually seeing 1 girl from this report once every 1-4 weeks.
What I found interesting is that when I've been out with friends I haven't felt rusty and after conversations with a good friend who's also going on a hiatus of his own we found that girls are surprisingly even more into us than before. Here is an example of that phenomena with a recent lay that happened this Friday.
Background Context
2 guy friends I used to work with in my bartender days spontaneously invite me out for 1-2 drinks. We all agree to keep it a short night and I'm confident that we will for once as one of my friends has No ID but is a regular at a local bar that let's him in with no questions asked.
My Outfit
I wear doc martin desert boots, ripped black jeans, a navy blue jumper and stone overcoat with the collar up. My friend jokes saying I didn't need to dress up but I laugh back that I hardly leave the house these days as I work for home so this feels like an occasion. Cologne was Montale Blanc Explorer which I recommend if you're looking for a fresh and citrus versatile fragrance that's similar to aventus creed.
Bar 1/2 (socializing)
It ends up being 4 guys having drinks as one of my friends brings his housemate. The bar is half empty with mostly other guys present so we vibe over football, accusing each other of being players and people watching. I spotted one guy weirdly dancing by himself solo. He screamed RSD vibes but respect to him as 30 minutes in he was having shots/partying with 2 decent looking girls.
I'm tempted to approach the few girls in the bar but not in feeling it so mostly just vibe with the guys. I ping a girl while ordering a drink about how it's a cool spot and she doesn't bite.
3 drinks in I leave the bar and start talking to bouncers at neighboring bars to see if they'll let my friend in with a picture of his ID. Luckily 1 bites and we all leave.
2/2 Bar (hitting on girls)
This place is a lot more lively than the last place. It had 2 floors and bouncers cracking jokes which got me feeling more upbeat. I hit on a girl and her boyfriend comes over. I'm chill and say ahh my bad man you've got a catch and he's cool about it too. The girl didn't say a word and was encouraging the conversation so think I was a pawn to prove a point lol.
We get to the dance floor and it's packed. We just start dancing and having fun to the music. Notice a girl I went on a date and pulled to mine but nothing happened. Smile and wave but don't approach to not make it weird.
Bar Game / The Girl I Slept With
Positioning
I purposely make our group dance in the dance floor area where there are a lot of girls to increase our chances of something happening. We're hovering near a girl of 3 who I joke and tease about one of their friend's dance moves to build momentum. I don't push it as my gut says they're a waste of time but we then end up near a group of 3 girls and 2 guys.
The Girl
It's becoming a joke at this point but I spotted a... You guessed it - short brunette girl with a cute outfit. She had red lipstick, long black wavy hair and a black dress with black high heeled boots. She was also a part of the mixed group.
Green light
The girls in the mixed set are friendly. I dance a little with the brunette one and find out she lives in the area (right near me) and is with all her Spanish friends. There's a little grinding going on that she instigates and I take her hand and spin her to the beat as well as wrap one arm across the front of her shoulders while singing the words and just having a good time. I make sure not to be too sexual as conscious her friends are there.
I also don't really push it hard as mixed sets are usually a waste of time. I turn to dance with my friends and she ends up walking in front of me to dance again.
Green fucking light.
6th Sense/Game
This is where it gets interesting. The girl is DTF and ends up kissing 2 of my friends ahahah. 1 of my friend says would you be cool with a threesome and I say yeah it would probably bring us closer together lol.
If you read this site though you probably know that kissing a girl in a club OFTEN reduces your chances of actually pulling. Why? Because there are now no surprises and it can raise her LMR too. So I let my friends burn their chance with a grin on my face. I also don't react and carry on dancing/having fun.
I also made sure to leave the girl and do my own thing before coming back a couple of times. I read this from a forum years ago and it really works. Makes the girl feel like you aren't all over her and often a girl's night won't be as fun when you aren't there and she'll enjoy that spike in emotion when you're back.
Keeping My Cool With The Group
While my friends are semi-competing for this girl, I win over her friendship group. I'm complimenting the guys' outfit, making small talk with her friends who told me to "look after brunette" before telling me "I saw your friend looking after her more than you"
I shrug and laugh before saying don't worry it's all under control
At one point Brunette tries to kiss me but I turn my cheek and say not yet with a mischievous grin. She seems surprised and repeats "Not yet??"
Had her just where I wanted her...
The Pull
It hits 1am and it's now make or break. I have work in the morning at 9am at my 2nd job so my mindset is go back and get a good amount of sleep or pull. I won't waste time and linger for a "maybe". I talk to the girl and say I'm leaving and she says why. I say I have to go but she's welcome to join me. There's back and forth and we aren't really going any where before I turn and see her friends leaving.
No clockblocking or "girl chats". They literally say bye to her and leave lol. This is due to me winning them over before and just my overall "harmless" vibe.
Brunette's tone changes and she said come with me to get my jacket. We go back in to the dance floor and she gets her jacket. I say bye to my friends and say I'm going to the girl. She caves and says I'll come with you as I use plausible deniability excuse of "it makes sense as we live close"
While we're going through heavy crowd to leave, I order the uber so there's minimal waiting time when we're outside.
Outside she goes around saying bye to the bouncers and I crack some jokes with some random guys at the smoking area. They ask me if she's my girl and I reply she is for tonight and they all laugh.
Escalation
When we arrive I link arms with her and take her straight to my room. I play reggaeton music, pull her on top of me and she kisses me with tongue straight away. A usual sign that the girl is good to go. We strip down and she asks me if I have condoms which I don't. Fuck. This is where it could potentially go left.
Ordering Condoms From Deliveroo
There's no condoms in my house as the current girl I'm seeing is on the pill and basically refused to use condoms hahaha. I should be more disciplined with that but yeah discussion for another time. Luckily the girl has 2 condoms so that doesn't kill the momentum.
We sleep together then I order more condoms at 2am but she falls asleep by the time they arrive lol. Pretty cool that you can order condoms - I love living in London.
She then wakes up randomly at like 4am and we go another round before finally sleeping.
Funny Plot Twist
She finally decides to ask what my actual name is and when I say, her face drops and she swears in Spanish... Turns out I had slept with her Spanish house mate just 6 weeks' before hahahah. From the same bar too. It ends up being chill as I reassure her, no one will find out unless she tells because I certainly won't.
The housemate is also seeing someone (which explains why she was slippery to get hold of) so there's no harm done. We end up making a full back story about how my name is Marco from a South London area in case her friend asks and it reminds me just how sly girls can be lol. But yeah better to be on the right side of it.
Closing Thoughts
This girl and her housemate both weren't wifey material nor were they freaks in bed so they're in no man's land where I'm fine with not seeing them again.
I think for the next 3-6 months' I'll stick to this style of game where I just bring in new green light girls while living my life and keep this department of my life on easy maintenance mode.
For guys out there worried about getting rusty while pursuing other goals, trust me your concern is overblown. Learning game is like building muscle in the gym, if you stop working it will go dormant but getting back into it will bring you to where you left off a lot quicker than it took you to get to that level in the 1st place.
Onwards & Upwards
DWW
