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"Hi DWW, I've got you an in, come with me and I'll introduce you to my friend" - random girl in a bar who I previously spoke to for 10 seconds.
One thing that gets overlooked here is being a sociable person just because that's who you're and allowing the benefits of that to naturally manifest itself.
Now that doesn't mean hiding your intentions, you can be super clear in a playful way so the person senses how it doesn't matter either way for you.
Two posts that beautifully summarise the state of mind is: 1. This sociable post by chase and 2. genuine man post by hector.
In my above situation I said excuse me to the girl walking past me and said: "Hey this forward of me but I find your friend attractive and would love to go and respectfully hit on her but if you guys are taken or having a girls night out, I get it and no worries"
She asks me to confirm which girl then walks off. I'm then surprised that she comes back a few minutes later and says come with me.
Fast forward a few weeks and I'm on a date with the girl I liked and she shares how her friend was like definitely go on a date with him he's such a funny (I barely spoke to her lol) nice guy.
Getting your fundamentals to "good enough" which 99.9% of guys can do with a haircut, decent outfit and regular exercise while conveying a genuine social vibe does wonders. It's literally all that naturals do without even realising it. The best thing about this "method" is that you save time and obstacles. Girls will literally tell you who in their group is: taken, single, attracted to you or just not interested.
No cockblocks, no mother hens, alpha females or girls getting dragged of to the "bathroom" and never coming back. Just upfront enjoyable interactions.
Another thing that went a long way is that I noticed my guy friend was coming on a bit strong to some of the girls in the group and I whispered in her ear that if it ever gets a bit much just let me know.
A little emotional intelligence goes a long way.
In seduction it's the slow no's that eat us up, getting quick no's is half the battle and every so often that sweet yes.
One thing that gets overlooked here is being a sociable person just because that's who you're and allowing the benefits of that to naturally manifest itself.
Now that doesn't mean hiding your intentions, you can be super clear in a playful way so the person senses how it doesn't matter either way for you.
Two posts that beautifully summarise the state of mind is: 1. This sociable post by chase and 2. genuine man post by hector.
In my above situation I said excuse me to the girl walking past me and said: "Hey this forward of me but I find your friend attractive and would love to go and respectfully hit on her but if you guys are taken or having a girls night out, I get it and no worries"
She asks me to confirm which girl then walks off. I'm then surprised that she comes back a few minutes later and says come with me.
Fast forward a few weeks and I'm on a date with the girl I liked and she shares how her friend was like definitely go on a date with him he's such a funny (I barely spoke to her lol) nice guy.
Getting your fundamentals to "good enough" which 99.9% of guys can do with a haircut, decent outfit and regular exercise while conveying a genuine social vibe does wonders. It's literally all that naturals do without even realising it. The best thing about this "method" is that you save time and obstacles. Girls will literally tell you who in their group is: taken, single, attracted to you or just not interested.
No cockblocks, no mother hens, alpha females or girls getting dragged of to the "bathroom" and never coming back. Just upfront enjoyable interactions.
Another thing that went a long way is that I noticed my guy friend was coming on a bit strong to some of the girls in the group and I whispered in her ear that if it ever gets a bit much just let me know.
A little emotional intelligence goes a long way.
In seduction it's the slow no's that eat us up, getting quick no's is half the battle and every so often that sweet yes.
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