Calls & Texts  "Hey Peter, you're warm, but working out is too important right now -your sugar flower"???

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I was thinking this:

"I'm in. What time?"

She's creating a problem - that working out or seeing you is an either/or.

Then, if she's like that's not what I meant, you could follow with

"Oh I thought you had a great idea. I bet we'll both get a better, funner workout."

Also be careful that she referred to herself as sugar flower and you replied Sugarflower. Usually you'd want to show that you're able to accurately understand and reflect back what she projects about herself.
Uhmmm if that is true, then I misunderstood her answer, and you have the right answer, best go to.. but, a girl no responding 100% of the time is a girl that was hot for you at the time, then had a state change http://www.theskillsmethod.com/women-mood-change-clubs/
 

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@Phoenix dude! There's only 2 "good" parts to this text, 1 it's at 2am (booty call time unless she works nights) and 2 she uses call back with a pet name but ultimately I think @Skills is right that she had very low interest.

If this was a booty call firstly she ends with a push which puts the focus on the objection which is a barrier to begin with. Secondly, if she's looking for a booty call and you're unavailable she's found someone else or the moments passed, her mood has now changed and you've missed your opportunity as shown when she went ghost again.

Your response isn't to bad, it's slightly playful, I like @Sapphophire dudes reply though I'm a fan of purposely taking what they say out of context because it's fun to me and usually makes them qualify/justify.

I think the main thing here is you didn't set a date with this girl while she was hooked and you were on a high point, you took the number and then have an up hill battle to set plans by text. The concept of numbers mean nothing. Trying to do this while running is challenging, but if she can give you a number she can agree to icecream/coffee/drinks.

Secondary to this your follow up text isn't great, you've technically acknowledged she's ignored you. The way to follow up is to act like nothing happened and provide value. "Hi flower girl, I just heard this song and thought of you. Hope you enjoyed your run..." you can seed a date here asking for her schedule though this is low odds and going indirect like in @Skills text guide is a good example of this. - also read the article on how to reply if they don't respond dude! There's other good examples in the article

EDIT: you should take responsibility for the late text, you were busy. A good example of this is in the article above. Your follow up is possibly better after 24 hours not 52. After two days anything she felt towards you is just about gone. Out of sight, out of mind. She's had a million texts in this time and you're a fleeting memory
 
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I hear what you are all saying but she did text this one pretty late. I was sleeping at the time. To me it seems more like she shot it off before going to bed and not because she was DTF that night. Girls who want a booty call usually start a little earlier than like 2 am, right?
 

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I hear what you are all saying but she did text this one pretty late. I was sleeping at the time. To me it seems more like she shot it off before going to bed and not because she was DTF that night. Girls who want a booty call usually start a little earlier than like 2 am, right?
Correct, but I had girls call me post clubbing dtf, or post casino, so not always before 2 am, is not the time but the girl state at the time of text
 
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I hear what you are all saying but she did text this one pretty late. I was sleeping at the time. To me it seems more like she shot it off before going to bed and not because she was DTF that night. Girls who want a booty call usually start a little earlier than like 2 am, right?
@Phoenix dude! I find it's usually 8pm - 1am, I agree that I think she shot this of before going to bed and that it was a polite rejection. I'd have also followed up in a similar way to you or sapphophire, very low effort text, might turn it around.

I addressed the booty call theory that a lot of dudes mentioned because the points still apply. If you miss the window of opportunity and her mood changes you can completely miss out.

The other points of seed/set a date before getting a number and following up with a text that takes responsibility, shows consideration and/or provides value gives higher odds of getting her out than acknowledging she ignored you and/or trying to provoke a response by highlighting her behaviour. You've made it funny and light hearted but the subtext of the message is "hi, you didn't reply to me. I'm a cool funny guy who can laugh about it" which is a huge step above complaining/whining but not the best follow up and the recommended article is the blueprint to use for these situations.
 

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Edit: Lots of times you absolutely should be challenging what she projects about herself. Demand no less than 100% real.

Also - probably better to come back with your own fun signoff instead of quoting hers. Something that shows you don't take yourself that seriously and gives her something to ask about? waffle monster?
 
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@Phoenix dude! I find it's usually 8pm - 1am, I agree that I think she shot this of before going to bed and that it was a polite rejection. I'd have also followed up in a similar way to you or sapphophire, very low effort text, might turn it around.

I addressed the booty call theory that a lot of dudes mentioned because the points still apply. If you miss the window of opportunity and her mood changes you can completely miss out.

The other points of seed/set a date before getting a number and following up with a text that takes responsibility, shows consideration and/or provides value gives higher odds of getting her out than acknowledging she ignored you and/or trying to provoke a response by highlighting her behaviour. You've made it funny and light hearted but the subtext of the message is "hi, you didn't reply to me. I'm a cool funny guy who can laugh about it" which is a huge step above complaining/whining but not the best follow up and the recommended article is the blueprint to use for these situations.
I did seed the date in person, always do, i never say "let me grab your number" i say "Hey let's meet up again and chat, we can go for a walk at XX" and then they go "Yeah sure" and i take the number and banter a bit more and then i say "Are there any days this week that you are free?" and sometimes they go "Yeah i can do Wednesday or Friday" or they go "Ahh i have to check my calendar" and then i just either pick a date and text minimally and confirm or i text a bit, soft close and then hard close her over text.

Is it a GC article?
 

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@Phoenix dude! It is, I think it's this:

 
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