Hi chase or anyone who can help me out with a situation!!

[Strong Silent_Type]

I have a couple of questions to ask you and would also would like feed back with this first of all i just want to say thank you for your knowledge about woman, this helped me change dramatically i am not new to the game i had girlfriends before but the reason is i brought your package, it help me to be a lot more better man, i once was a good man helped the woman in my life but it did not went to far of course because it went to a knight and shining armor perspective of things, you have help me to be a more masculine man, little bit of an asshole too and also i have developed intelligently to formulate sentences to creatively attract woman, you have also helped me increase my fundamentals way better then average Joe, with large jeans and t shirts and secondly to be honest with you i have meet woman not many since i live in France the language is a beating, i am not french by the way i am here for work but a couple of months ago when i studied your books and this website it help me to have some form of success with woman mostly by pulling the English out of them i managed, but most of the number i had was flaked!! since they knew i could not communicate much with them they English was very bad as well so of course i did not take with me any girls home but here is the main problem i am facing at the moment i have talked with a girl but she lives in the UK i am soon to be transferred there for work, we have been talking around 4 months or so i really like her she is my age around 27 but sometimes i feel i am not there yet we talk mutual sometimes we both flirt to each other, i do try to talk to her in a more of an ass-hole way but not the asshole in what you have discussed in one of the forums more of an intelligent ass hole i can play with words no problem but at some point she told me i might not be her type of guy, well we have not meet yet in person if i did she would probably be mine at this stage but soon i will be able to see her go out for a cup of coffee and take it as it goes i guess.

She also told me at some point that she does not give to men her number or Skype etc she gave to me because she saw me different then other men and she said i am persistent and that she feels that i know so much about her, she does not know to much about me to be honest, so here is another issue that i am not sure about this since i am persistent i did ask her a selfie and i was surprise at first that she gave it to me but she insisted to give her one but i made a asshole move there and i said something like this "thanks but i will be stealing this but i try not to be a huge of an asshole so i will be considering of maybe sending you one " and of course i send her one and of course she laugh but i fell that she does not find me attractive enough i do look young and handsome grey hair men almost 27 and i wear a bottom goatee and mustache since i have changed my style that i saw in the forums.

so is it wrong chase that i send her a picture of me? in the end she is very friendly when she talks with me thou sometimes she is also messing with me like jokes, she always uses similes as well as i normally use a winking " " smiley during text conversation with, i am trying to settle down chase! like a relationship even family i am looking for but of course if it does not work out with her i will have to play with many girls till i find the right one!! but now what i would like for you to help me with is to give me advise or a technique when i see her and try to talk to her, must try to sweep her of her feet with my talk!! and maybe i have a chance with her in the future, she is very beautiful sexy to me, we also both share the same culture as we are eastern European i will meet her soon chase, but will i be able to pull this through as a success when i see her??? at the moment we talk over Facebook and we only Skype once so far do i still have a chance chase please, i love to hear from you and answers even pointers will be great, the community is also welcome to comment on this for advise to me only!!!!!! or someone can help me with an intense game method here??? i am not a beginner at having game since i had relationships and can talk with girls!

Kind regards
Strong Silent_Type

 

[Drck]

I am reading your first paragraph man, and there are no breaks at all. It is just one looong sentence. One thing after the other, all somehow conected but all convoluted, entangled, squished together. It has logic and some flow but it is just too much because there is simply no breaks.

Is my assumption correct when I say that you speak in very similar way? If so, that might be the problem. It is too much, it requires too much attention (from the girl), she may really like you but she might get very tired by keeping focused on what you are actually saying. It is too much stuff compressed together, too many thoughts compressed into short period of time. That requires high(er) intensity of thinking, and thinking is not so attractive to girls. Girls want to feel while with guy who they like, they don't want to think too much

Silent man means man who doesn't talk much. He might be very smart but he just says something here and something there. He separates his ideas into different paragraphs (while writing as well as talking).

Strong man means man who is strong either physically, mentally, emotionally or combination of all. He says something and because of his inner conviction (and confidence) he stands behind his words.

IMO strong and silent type could be easily e.g. Clint Eastwood - doesn't talk much (as far as I know), says and does his own things regardless what others think...

There is nothing wrong with being talkative, it is just little bit different style. Either way, you may want to slow down little bit and organize your thoughts into more concise blocks (or paragraphs). See, girls are all over the place with thoughts and talking. They can start sentence about school, in the middle they mention trip to some exotic place, and they finish the same sentence with how cute your smile is - that is after she mentions her adorable cat at her place. At the same time she plays with her hair, winks at her girlfriends, and mimics your facial expression because she thinks it is sexy. She changes her tone, pitch and speed of her words five times during this one sentence, waves her hands around and straightens up her chest so her nipples are facing directly your face - just to make sure that you know what she really means...

But that is girls. Guys or men should try to be more organized, more focused, perhaps even more simpler and reserved. When I talk about e.g. school I talk about school, there is no flying to exotic places, not until I finish the whole paragraph talking about school. I am focused on school. If I am talkative I can mention lots of details, describe what is going in in colorful ways, but it is still talk about school because I am still focused on school. I don't look around, I don't play with my hair, I don't keep throwing my hands around in all directions although some movement is good. I am more still, my pitch and tone is not necessary monotone but it is not all over the place either.


Just a thought, hope that some of it helps

 

[ray_zorse]

Mate I think you are over invested in this girl, I cannot say what will happen when u finally get over to UK and get her out for a coffee but I can say that if it doesn't work out you'll be very disappointed, you obviously think about her a lot & have plans for a future with her and that is a big mistake, it puts pressure on you and makes you cautious rather than a fun risk taking guy.

Saying in effect "please Chase do I have a chance with this girl" is totally the wrong mindset to be in, you've already pedestalized her and placed yourself in a position of low value in your mind, cut that shit out. Either you both click or you don't. Endy story. I guess I have a similar situation to you (except I actually met her in person, not online, and spent an hour with her before she retired due to early flight) but the difference is IDGAF what happens, she is just another chick who seems into me and who I will contact to keep warm.

Get out there and meet some different women. I would forget about the one in this post, ignore her for a month or two till u get your head back in the right place or u will prob fuck it up.

-Ray

 

[Strong Silent_Type]

hi Drck

Thanks again for the feedback! i know about the post not written to well i am not english so i tried my best to be honest i talk calmly and slow but when i get to type something is a different story possibly this could be why it will not work over social media! but i guess i will take it with her as it goes right? and when i normally interact with girls i try to know more about them then they know about me so i end end giving them question about them and what they realized and what passions they have.

Normally when i need something and i cannot do or achieve i tend to over write to get to my point so that's why i wrote in such a speed and mess.

i will keep in mind what you have told me here today and how to deal with this sort of situation. but what if this will be a turnaround? and it might work with her? besides talking too much

thank you again

Strong Silent_Type

 

[Strong Silent_Type]

Hi Ray

Thanks for the feedback i will keep in mind what you have told me here, i did realize that i might be disappointing when i see her for a coffee that it might not work out! but is it possible for a turnaround? when i get to see her?

But you have a point i should take her out of my mind before things will get really bad! and yes she was on my mind but i must stop that.
Any suggestion on what other aspects or mindsets i should improve on?

i also realized that was not trying to put her on a pedestal that is not my intentions which i know that will resolve in a fuck up but i must avoid contacting her and see if she will contact me back!! but like you said Ray, there are plenty of girls out there and to be honest i do not really deal with social media when i interact with woman, so basically when i got a random invite from her on FB that is why i was trying over Facebook as an example to talk to her but i feel that is not going much anywhere over a computer screen!! but i was thinking to not contacting her for a while if you have any more suggestion for me and tips i will gladly take it.

Thanks in advance

Strong Silent_Type

 

[ray_zorse]

Don't take my words too literally, I mean for sure keep her warm and follow up when u get to UK but if u feel yourself getting needy or invested STOP and follow other pursuits. Nothing puts a girl off more than a needy vibe. Go into it with the viewpoint that you might have fun, might not... maybe u click, maybe it all goes to hell... and for a beginner its often the latter, so your focus should be on improving your skills with women, plural. To do this you need to spend time with them either (1) from social circle (2) from cold approach (3) from online... dating sites, occasionally social media. I favour 2.
-Ray

 

[Drck]

Everything is possible, believe in yourself. You want to meet her in person, don't try to explain yourself via pics or phone.

"I must try to sweep her off of her feet"
>>>> Ideally yes, b but that might be difficult if you don't have much experience. You could present yourself as trying too much, too much investing, too much proving yourself to her, maybe even being too needy... which has the exact opposite effect that you are trying to have.

Focus on vibes, on good emotions, try to be more leading and decisive...

Simply do your best, don't chase and you'll see. Good Luck

 

[Strong Silent_Type]

thanks a-lot Ray i really appreciate for helping me out i will have to do everything i can! not to show her that i am needy or chasing after her and
i will keep in mind what you have said to me here i will definitely move on if things do not work out but we never know unless i try hey but now i understand
to not invest so much in woman let them invest in you/us.

i must do what i can to get what i want from her when i see her and i guess i will take it from there...

Regards
Strong Silent_Type

 

[Strong Silent_Type]

Drck i really appreciate for your reply once again and yes we did talk on sometime on phone and computer but its about time when i am there i will see her,
she asked me if i could see her when i am there. Once she told me i am persistent.

so hopefully i will get lucky! i must try to prove to her that i am the man she wants like you said i must avoid being needy and talk more about her and emotional perspectives,
i should be too much when i meet her i just have to relax and not show to much proving myself to her like you said and chase said too never lower yourself for a woman! so basically i will have to myself get her talking and let her invest when i ask questions to her.

too be honest i should say something before it goes to ruin! it is when we talked on phone and computer via social network i normally try to be as mysterious as possible with her she still does not know much about me but normally i give her questions and of course she answers, for example i have checked some of her music or images in her profile and i say something like this as an example...

"i see you travel often! were else have you been? anything exciting on the other side of the world? "

above is an example how i normally engage with her any ideas if i am on the right track?

Regards
Strong Silent_Type