High school dating

[harjas0123]

**Male 17 highschool
girl in the same grade but she has different classes**
I've been frnds with this girl for almost 2 yrs now. We flirt sometimes and she evn told me she had an infatuation for me once. She also said once that she wished a guy like me would ask her out (while she was having a really tough time in her relationship)
She has had a boyfriend throughout our frndship but now she wants to break up wid him because she feels very depressed in the relationship. She says she wants to be happy as her past 2 relationships have given her hurt and pain only. (she may have broken up with him by the time you read this)
I'm not a player and not a big follower of the game. So excuse me for thinking that me and her could take our friendship forward.

Now dat she's going to be single, I think I want to be the guy who makes her happy. She's the only girl I always find time to talk to. All our friends say we would make a great couple and her best friends even asked her to ask me out while she was on a break with her boyfriend (she told me that)

You guys are awesome so i thought i'll ask your advice
should i tell her that i want to date her???
Pls help ppl

 

[Richard]

Hello. From how it sounds man, it seems as if the two of you would be a good relationship, and the two of you know it, both her and yourself seem to have toyed with the idea. The only potential problem could be that you may be a Plan A guy because you've been nice, and been there through her hardship for her, and she may think that you are not going anywhere with her, or she may be genuinely interested in her. Anyway, it sounds like a good idea to develop a relationship with her, as long as you could handle a break up in the future (which is no guarantee), you just have to ask yourself "If the two of you broke up, how would it affect the friendship/ relationship?" If you can handle it, and if you accept the possible outcome, ask her out, but don't say "Hey, do you wanna go out (continue)" Frame it differently to show her the benefits of her being with you, and get it in her mind, that things with you would be better than with her exes. However you want to go about it is up to you, but I would personally would use dialogue such as:
Walk up to her, place my palm under her elbow, wait for her to turn around say
You: "Hey (her name), I've heard that you're single, that true (in a playful authoritative tone)"
Her: Possibilities range from yes to no to maybe, but I will assume she says "Yes"
You: "Well, I'd like to remedy that, why don't we make plans to go out soon? What's your schedule like this week?"
Her: "Gives schedule."
You: "What days are best for you?"
Her: "Such and Such."
You: Pick a date.
Then, on that date, talk to her about how you feel, and mention what she's said about her wanting a guy like you, and keep going from there.

 

[Richard]

By the way, when I say win her over to your thinking, use positive language to influence her. Portray your positive image, and your positive appeal against the old boyfriends negative image and appeal to emphasize your good stature.