High Schooler HELP I'm terrible with girls.

[reggiec]

Ok, the last thing I want to sound is pretentious, but here's my background.

I just moved to a new school in a entirely different state last year. I came to the school as a junior, and initially all the girls liked me. But I've never been good with girls so all the intention was wasted because I never did anything further than text the girls. I've always been focused on school, and basketball. The two things that I excel at the most. I'm really smart, and people say that i'm attractive as well. I've built this reputation of being this "perfect person" because I don't really like to party because of personal reasons and I win awards like crazy! (MVP of basketball, Homecoming king) etc. However girls this year don't want to talk to me at all, and i'm kind of ready to loose my virginity.I think my reputation kind of hinders my chances with girls just as much as my inexperience.

Here's my question: How can I turn things around? I've basically talked to every attractive girl at my school, and all I've done is let the attraction expire with them! I'm so frustrated! One girl gave me another chance, and I ruined it by moving way too fast for her liking. I'm clueless.

 

[Knightrain]

Yo bro, I'm in Highschool too

As far as being clueless about girls, make sure you know the basics that are taught on GirlsChase, things like Investment, Relatability, Fundamentals. Getting the full GC book would be great for this, the new Beginners book from the new diagnostic test (ITS FREE!) would be great too.

Its pretty hard to turn things around with girls after they give up on you, but you can probably still do it with some of them. For school, I'd say you should begin trying to talk to these girls, getting investment from them and showing relatability ( being relatable is very important if you have a reputation for being "perfect"), do a bit of flirting and start building compliance. I've also heard that pre-selection can reignite attraction, so try to get that going. Remember to always be working on your fundamentals because they make everything much easier with girls.

If you do that, there's a good chance that you can turn things around with some of these girls, and either way you'll be building up your skills for the future.

What you should really be doing though, is cold approaching. You get an unlimited amount of girls to mess up with and to learn from, and they won't know about your reputation.

It was very scary when I first started cold approaching, but after just a few weeks I'm doing pretty good. I already got a few numbers and a date. Just yesterday I went to the mall and did my first cold-approach of the day, after a brief and semi-awkward conversation, these 2 girls invited me to go eat and walk around with them for a few hours. One of these girls was very pretty (a model apparently...) and tall (2 inches taller than me, which I didn't like), over the course of the walk I got investment from her, got a date set up and she eagerly took my phone number. It all went very well and she seemed very happy and eager to set up the date and take my number. I think I messed up at the end because she eventually met with her mom and 2 more of her tall female friends (where she found these 6 ft tall girls is beyond me) , they were all so damn tall and I wasn't use to any of this so I started getting uncomfortable. I uncomfortably and awkwardly finalized the day of the date and got out of there. Because of the sad ending, I doubt I will be receiving any texts from her, but I got a lot of experience from that ordeal and it was fun. Next time I will be much better at ending the interaction and I'll be more comfortable, I'm excited to go cold-approaching again, once you start seeing results it becomes fun.

Anyway, once you get good at cold-approaching you won't care about what the girls at school think because you could go out any day and get a new girlfriend.

Questions:

When you say that "girls this year don't want to talk to me at all", do you mean they are cold and mean to you, or are they just not showing interest but are still friendly? Because that makes a big difference as to what you should do.

How did you become so damn popular at a new school? I need to know.

You're welcome for the huge post.

 

[reggiec]

Dude thank you so much! and as far as getting popular at my new school, I was just extremely nice to everyone. I didn't take advantage of anyone, I stuck up for kids that got made fun off. I excelled in the classroom getting recognition in front of the whole school, and when basketball season came around, I did extremely well. So I was basically the talk of the town for a while. and the girls are still really friendly to me, some even show a little interest however, it never lasts longer than 1 day.

 

[Eternity]

"Too nice/friendly" is a problem, you might be lacking edge and a sense of intrigue/mystery, thus that's why the girls interest last shortly. You are popular with certain people(cool kids) or everyone? Im guessing the second one because in high school you would have girls going pretty direct if you are popular and would have gotten laid pretty fast. Your "reputation" of a nice guy got around to the whole school, therefore the friendliness and short term interest from girls. Unfortunately being too good in school puts you in the smart, nice guy category, it's not something too attractive with hot girls who are vain in this stage of life but you can turn it around by being edgy, deep diving and escalating with women who show interest in you. Read Chase's " How to be Edgy and Turn Women On" for more advice on this.