Had a bit of an epiphany today. This might be obvious but I thought some may find useful. Basically, my theory is that if you've developed yourself into a high value/status person, you're likely to be treated with more respect in high status venues than you are in low status venues.
I'm in my late 20s, have put a lot of work on fundamentals, am often told I'm attractive, and have developed strong social skills working as a bartender. I've worked in four bars over the past year, some mid-low end and one high end. While I got hit on at the lower end places, it was nothing like the truly upscale spot (where celebrities often went). I got hit on backstage at a Diplo concert, despite not knowing anyone, more than I ever have being in a crowd during a show. I've gotten numbers, dates, and tons of IOIs at the yuppie cafe filled with cuties near my place, but almost none at the punk hipster cafe down the street.
I think perhaps higher value venues may just attract cooler, kinder, more respectful people. And being in these places and looking comfortable/like you belong accrues you status and social proof in the eyes of women. This is in contrast to lower value social circles where I am often disrespected, subject to crude status games, and less loyal companions.
It reminds me of Hector said in his recent book (which is outstanding btw) - you should be focusing on girls that really excite you. This is an adjustment as I've often aimed 'below my league', perhaps as psychological residue of an earlier time.
I'm in my late 20s, have put a lot of work on fundamentals, am often told I'm attractive, and have developed strong social skills working as a bartender. I've worked in four bars over the past year, some mid-low end and one high end. While I got hit on at the lower end places, it was nothing like the truly upscale spot (where celebrities often went). I got hit on backstage at a Diplo concert, despite not knowing anyone, more than I ever have being in a crowd during a show. I've gotten numbers, dates, and tons of IOIs at the yuppie cafe filled with cuties near my place, but almost none at the punk hipster cafe down the street.
I think perhaps higher value venues may just attract cooler, kinder, more respectful people. And being in these places and looking comfortable/like you belong accrues you status and social proof in the eyes of women. This is in contrast to lower value social circles where I am often disrespected, subject to crude status games, and less loyal companions.
It reminds me of Hector said in his recent book (which is outstanding btw) - you should be focusing on girls that really excite you. This is an adjustment as I've often aimed 'below my league', perhaps as psychological residue of an earlier time.
