LR- Hinge girl using date compression

[Beam]

This happened a few weeks ago now so details might be a little fuzzy. I matched with a tall, curly haired redhead on Hinge after she liked one of my nerdy photos, we messaged back and forth for a while and I got her number, setting up a date at a bar/diner near my place on Wednesday. She was not really my type but I thought I'd see where things went.

First date (Wednesday):

I got to the place first and waited. When she arrived she sat down and immediately put her leg near mine. We talked for a while and I used a bit of deep diving, I didn't really escalate that much at this point. I was having quite a bit to drink and she was as well. After about an hour or so we bounced to a dive bar nearby, where I sat next to her. Every time I ordered a drink, she did to, which was starkly different from another date I went on a while back where I did the same thing but she stopped drinking. I never got a second date from that one. Found out a few interesting things about her - she was doing a PhD and was also family/childhood friends and still on speaking terms with Liam Hemsworth which was cool. We talked about AFL (the predominant sport where I live) for a while - a few months ago I took no interest in it but now I can hold my own in conversations about it and actually enjoy talking about it.

I didn't talk about sex or flirt much at all, but I made a conscious effort to get closer and closer to her. After a while I went in for the kiss and there was no opposition - her head snapped towards mine as if she'd been waiting for this for ages. Probably a sign I could've moved faster. After a while I invited her back to my place which was 5 minutes away to watch Netflix (I've learned to invite them over under the guise of something else and not just straight inviting them over - that never worked for me) but she declined because she had to work early in the morning. But she thanked me for inviting her over and soon after that we left the place and she went home.

Now it was time to use date compression. The next day I texted her at 11pm saying last night was fun and asking if she was free to see an exhibition in the city over the weekend. I made sure to have this date pretty far away from my place because I wasn't planning on trying to take her home - that would be the third date. She said she was free and we agreed on saturday afternoon.

Second date (Saturday)

We ended up watching a movie in the city (i know i know) because the exhibition was booked out. Afterwards we went for dinner, then stayed out late for more drinks. Same deal, it was getting late, we got closer and closer, I made out with her and everytime I moved in she snapped her head towards mine. I ended the date and we went home on separate trains - she was eager to see me again.

I didn't text her the next day and she texted me thanking me for last night and asking how my day was around 8pm. I text her at 12am with a response, said I had a great time too, and asked her what her schedule was like this week because I wanted her to come over to mine for dinner (no waffling around). She said the only day she was free was Thursday, so we set Thursday. We texted back and forth throughout the week.

Third date (Thursday):

Thursday comes and she comes around to mine. I started preparing dinner beforehand so it was almost ready when she came. Once we'd eaten we talked some more, then sat down to watch Netflix. After a while of this - did the same thing - shuffled closer and closer until we were making out. This time I got more handsy since we were at mine, and I asked her if she wanted to come upstairs to mine - she agreed.

We go upstairs and go to my bed - I push her onto the bed, get on top of her and start making out and fingering her while stripping her clothes off. After a while I eat her out, then make out with her some more. My cock is only getting semi hard (which is a pattern with every new girl I'm with I've noticed, even if I'm really into her). She goes down on me and it gets hard aaaand I come. Fuuck. But I'm still hard surprisingly. So I tell her I want to fuck her and grab the condom I left near the bed. I try three times to put it on but my dick keeps going soft. I finally get it on with a semi but can't really get it in (I'm rusty...) and go soft again... really embarrassing...

I say maybe we should try later - we cuddle for half and hour and she genuinely seems ok with it, but I'm sort of done at this point and so ask her if she wants to stay. She says she really wants to stay overnight but should probably get going, and then I see her out.

Post date

We continued to text after that, but the frequency dropped since we both got really busy. After seeing each other three times over a week, we couldn't meet up once over the next week. After a while of this (7 days after the third date) around 6pm she texted me saying it was fun getting to know me but that we should end things here, because she was just too busy.

This is where I tried something different - Around 11pm I texted her saying that it was totally ok, but that since we're both busy, we could always keep things strictly casual and not text everyday. I then asked if she was open to that and if not, that that was cool too.

The next morning (8am) she texted me saying she was down for that with a smiley and thanking me for being understanding, and asked me how my day was going. I replied saying I was at my bros bucks and she responded saying to have fun.

Unfortunately, after that I had another full weekend, and the next week (last week), was entirely booked out with family events because of my bros wedding coming up, so I didn't text her. I didn't want to just text her for the sake of texting her. It's been about 10 days now since our last text and I think I might have already left it too long. I have a few free days next week finally, so I'm going to try texting her again to meet up.

 

[WorkingOnIt]

Do you want to see her again?

This is a tricky situation. Technically speaking the window to have sex with her has passed. I would say she's lost interest, it's not your fault though - dick problems happen. I've lost a few girls like this because of performance issues, in her mind she tried and it just wasn't there. Think about it this way, if you tried having sex with a girl who had a semi wet pussy and then next week you met another girl with a dripping wet pussy who would you pick? Dripping wet.

If she doesn't have anyone else in her portfolio or for whatever reason really liked you and saw a potential boyfriend (its hinge so that's likely her position) she might meet you again. Otherwise its time to cut the line, re bait, and fish again.

The best thing that's helped for me is honestly working out everyday and when working out, I always do something that opens up my hips and moves blood through my groin. Leg presses, squats, lunges, anything that pumps large amounts of blood through my cocks pipes. lol. trust me, you'll have a hard cock. Also, i talked with my doctor about this, take it easy on caffeine and blood constrictors the day of a date, and also have a shot or two of jack in your night stand. Seriously, I shoot a jack daniels or two 30 minutes to an hour before getting to the bedroom and it works dreams. Have lube near by too so that in your mind you have options and anxiety of losing your cock subsides.

Remember, we are men, we are ALWAYS on the hunt. Never stop hunting!

 

[WorkingOnIt]

lol thought you'd like this one. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pESALKncJg

 

[Beam]

Hey dude, thanks for the response. She's not really my type so I'm not too fussed either way, but it's really more that I want to work on getting better at sex - that's really the only reason I would want to see her again..

You're right though, the window probably has passed. Funny you mention opening the hips, I've been having glute pains recently and went to the physio last week - who said my hips were extremely tight - I'm doing physical therapy now. Due to a leg injury last year I sort of stopped working legs as intensely as I used to and stopped doing heavy squats and lunges - even when I used to do them I still had the same problems though but I think my hips were still always tight.

I don't drink caffeine so that's not a problem. So Jack Daniels doesn't give you whisky dick then? I've never heard anyone recommend that before but I might give it a try.

Also that Seinfeld clip hits too close to home, haha. I do know how to open a condom though

 

[WorkingOnIt]

Of course no problem. It's unfortunate to hear about the injury, hope it heals soon.

I have a few notes
- for leg lifts and opening up hips / groin it doesn't have to be a lot of weight just a moderate consistent weight load that brings blood in the groin breaking up the sedentary office lifestyle
- 1 or two shots wont do whiskey dick, youd need at least 5+, when you start getting a little warm / rosy in the cheeks thats when its perfect
- to get better at sex i recommend a few things but im sure there is advice abound on this site for that
1) you really just need to fuck a lot, like 5-7 times a week and get used to keeping a hard dick
2) IMO the easiest way to do this is try to find a horny girlfriend you'll be with for less that 6 months. you MUST dump her by the 6 month mark and fuck like rabbits
3) you should fuck her as if you are in a porno movie ALWAYS - my view is, if she is willing to be naked and submit to you, then give her the god damn dick, her pussy is genetically built to take a good beating from the dick
4) guys will argue this point but the two key things are - get the dick rock hard & keep it rock hard for at least 20 minutes (ie. she should cum with your dick more than once before you do)
5) if its a first night lay from the bars, its ok if your dick wimps out or you cum too early - im not saying you'll see her again, but dont worry about it. it matters most in a relationship cause that's a cheating risk if you dont give her what she needs.



I like this article from chase: https://www.girlschase.com/content/make ... es-or-less

 

[Beam]

Thanks dude. Getting back into it again - I'm doing rehab at the moment and it seems to be helping a bit but the twangs come back on occasion.
I'm not really the biggest fan of whiskey shots but i will see if it helps.

I actually had a FWB back in 2017 for a couple of months - we used to screw like 3-4 times a week. I had problems for ages at the start but got better and more comfortable with a hard dick. It's weird though, at the start when I struggled getting it up, when I did I lasted a long long time, she'd regularly come multiple times and she'd be begging me to cum. But later on when I had no problems getting it up, I wasn't lasting nearly as long. I was completely clueless then and I didn't experiment or even bother trying to last longer - I was really selfish but it was because I was clueless and really didn't know shit and didn't realize that would cause her to look elsewhere for proper satisfaction (and that's exactly what she did)

This website really gives you a lens over all your past interactions with women and it makes you shake your head at how clueless you were.