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Went to my friends school for his homecoming dance. First time in a real cold approach night game situation.
Not gonna lie most of the time was spent walking around not approaching anybody. I’m just discovering that I have pretty bad approach anxiety, even though I got a good amount of approach invitations. I think my mind keeps rationalizing that I should play it safe because I might see these guys again, even though I know logically that that’s very unlikely.
I did have 2 approaches though.
My Outfit: Bright Red muscle fit turtleneck, silver chain necklace, Black Jeans with rockstar chain on the left side, Black and silver watch, Silver ring, black shoes with red logo on top.
Approach 1: Tall Lightskin girl with light gold dress. Face was cute but had lots of makeup on. Nice booty
She had a 2 friends with her, a gay guy and a girl. I hadn’t approached anyone yet, used the opportunity to test an opener I thought of.
Me: (Walks up to her in crowd) *Attempt to pre-open like 3 times by tapping*
Her: *Not noticing/ignoring my pre opener*
Me: *Turns to see her slightly looking at me* Hey (pause, looks down) I really like your dress.
Her: Thank you (Receptive)
Me: I think it looks great. *Takes her hand* Do a 360 for me so I can see the full thing *Tries to twist her*
(Problem with this was, I dont think I did it firmly or confidently enough. She didn’t resist me taking her hand, or me twisting her.
I just didn't pull firmly enough so she didn’t end up moving. Plus, I was trying to pull her out of the crowd. I dont think she understood what I was trying to do either. If my body language was better this would have worked imo)
Guy Friend: (gay voice) what are you doing?
Me: (To girl) Are y’all together?
Her: Nah he’s just my friend
Girl friend: *Tries to pull target off the gay guy* Let them dance together cmon
Guy: *Still holds onto target hard*
Me: *Tries to pull one more time then ejects*
Even though it didnt go well, I still reward myself with praise for approaching
Approach 2: Black girl in red sparkly dress with friend. Seemed to both be looking at me so I approached
Me: *Approach, puts hand around her waist* If you’re going to look at me like that, you should say something (playfully)
Her: Haha what?
Me: I like the dress
Her: haha thanks (awkwardly)
Friend: *looking at me weird*
Me: You come here with anybody?
Friend: Okayyy…. *gets in between us*
I took that as a clear sign and ejected.
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This first cold approach experience was very humbling.
I saw so many beautiful women and only talked to 2 of them.
All those girls, waiting to be taken.
It felt like they were raw diamonds dancing in front of me, but I did not have the tools or experience to cultivate them.
It made me realize that I am a true beginner.
Even though I may have read a shit ton of material, there are no shortcuts to success. You still need experience.
Once I got in my car to leave, i felt incredibly frustrated with my lack of gains.
But it was the good kind of frustration.
It was the kind that pushes you to go to a different venue and try again even though you’re tired.
I really like CA, if I had more opportunities to practice I would. Once I hit college next summer you’llsee a lot more of these.
Not gonna lie most of the time was spent walking around not approaching anybody. I’m just discovering that I have pretty bad approach anxiety, even though I got a good amount of approach invitations. I think my mind keeps rationalizing that I should play it safe because I might see these guys again, even though I know logically that that’s very unlikely.
I did have 2 approaches though.
My Outfit: Bright Red muscle fit turtleneck, silver chain necklace, Black Jeans with rockstar chain on the left side, Black and silver watch, Silver ring, black shoes with red logo on top.
Approach 1: Tall Lightskin girl with light gold dress. Face was cute but had lots of makeup on. Nice booty
She had a 2 friends with her, a gay guy and a girl. I hadn’t approached anyone yet, used the opportunity to test an opener I thought of.
Me: (Walks up to her in crowd) *Attempt to pre-open like 3 times by tapping*
Her: *Not noticing/ignoring my pre opener*
Me: *Turns to see her slightly looking at me* Hey (pause, looks down) I really like your dress.
Her: Thank you (Receptive)
Me: I think it looks great. *Takes her hand* Do a 360 for me so I can see the full thing *Tries to twist her*
(Problem with this was, I dont think I did it firmly or confidently enough. She didn’t resist me taking her hand, or me twisting her.
I just didn't pull firmly enough so she didn’t end up moving. Plus, I was trying to pull her out of the crowd. I dont think she understood what I was trying to do either. If my body language was better this would have worked imo)
Guy Friend: (gay voice) what are you doing?
Me: (To girl) Are y’all together?
Her: Nah he’s just my friend
Girl friend: *Tries to pull target off the gay guy* Let them dance together cmon
Guy: *Still holds onto target hard*
Me: *Tries to pull one more time then ejects*
Even though it didnt go well, I still reward myself with praise for approaching
Approach 2: Black girl in red sparkly dress with friend. Seemed to both be looking at me so I approached
Me: *Approach, puts hand around her waist* If you’re going to look at me like that, you should say something (playfully)
Her: Haha what?
Me: I like the dress
Her: haha thanks (awkwardly)
Friend: *looking at me weird*
Me: You come here with anybody?
Friend: Okayyy…. *gets in between us*
I took that as a clear sign and ejected.
——————————
This first cold approach experience was very humbling.
I saw so many beautiful women and only talked to 2 of them.
All those girls, waiting to be taken.
It felt like they were raw diamonds dancing in front of me, but I did not have the tools or experience to cultivate them.
It made me realize that I am a true beginner.
Even though I may have read a shit ton of material, there are no shortcuts to success. You still need experience.
Once I got in my car to leave, i felt incredibly frustrated with my lack of gains.
But it was the good kind of frustration.
It was the kind that pushes you to go to a different venue and try again even though you’re tired.
I really like CA, if I had more opportunities to practice I would. Once I hit college next summer you’llsee a lot more of these.
