Homecoming

[Pato]

Hey guys, I haven't been on in a while because school has really been tying me up. I'm glad to get back on.

Anyways, homecoming for my high school is in a week, and I was wondering how I should go about escalating with my date. The whole group will probably be together for 6-7 hours or so, which gives me a lot of time, but maybe not so much time isolating her until we go to someone's house after everything. I'm wondering about the process I should go through because I'm pretty new to this and I have not been to homecoming before. How different would this be from a normal first date in terms of escalating and such? I know that we will be going to someone's house after the dance and there will most likely be alcohol (but I'm not sure if she drinks), and the girls' sleepover house is across the street from the guys'. So later at night there should be plenty of time to escalate. Should I just do some deep-diving, build some tension, and then escalate back at the house? Or should I try doing anything at the dance? I'm kind of confused about the process.

Just some background info about my date: I've known her for around 3 months or so and we have hung out a few times in a group, but never alone. I know a bit about her personally, but I feel I can still deep dive her a lot. I'm getting the feeling that she is pretty inexperienced (definitely a virgin, probably hasn't gone too far with anyone), but so am I. We are all juniors, and I know that pretty much the whole group thinks that sex is either bad or too far. (For example, my good friend and his girlfriend of over a year haven't had sex or done oral, and when the group thought they were naked in the basement, everyone started freaking out.)

Just some questions in general: How and when should I start escalating? I feel like I will almost certainly get resistance to sex, and maybe even less (blow job, hand job, etc), so how should I prevent that from happening and how should I push through if there still is some? Will alcohol affect the situation that much, or will it not be that big of a factor (I plan on drinking at least a little, but definitely not getting drunk)?

I know there's a lot of stuff here, but I'm quite new, and I'd appreciate the help. Thanks a lot,
Pato

 

[PrettyDecent]

Hey Pato,

Make sure to mention how non-judgmental you are in passing through a convo. You'll have LMR, but if you decide you are going for the makeout, it'd be best to get to sex the first time (otherwise you risk her not talking to you again, or going into heavy auto-rejection)...6-7 hours is a rather long time...any way to shorten that? I personally didn't attend homecoming, so I guess just being busy the whole time would help. Still.

Remember that when you start kissing, that's the place where you need to escalate. I've tried bending this rule a few times...it doesn't work. You need to hold the toungue-down-throat sequence for an isolated area. Don't know if that's the "guy's" house or not. Anyways, just remember - bursts of passion. That'll get you through LMR . Pretty scatterbrained post - let me know if you were looking for something more specific.

Nick

 

[Pato]

Thanks Nick. That's what I was thinking too, that I need to kiss her where I can escalate, that's why I didn't think the dance would be such a good place. And yeah, it is a long time, but with pictures, then dinner, the dance, and the after party, I don't think I can really shorten it.

As for LMR, I just feel that because the whole group is so against sex, it'd be hard to get past it. And I think that it'd be pretty hard to be discrete without the others knowing, as they can get pretty nosy. As I said with my friend, he was with his girlfriend alone in the basement, and some of the group went down to see if they were having sex. They didn't leave them alone even though I said that nobody should go down there. So I'm not sure how to prevent that from happening, and to get past the LMR from my girl. I guess I could just find a room that we can lock, but I'm not sure. Is there anything specific I could do to lower or avoid LMR in the first place (I know to mention I'm not judgmental, but the whole group pretty much is which might bother her), and get through it when it does happen? I know you said bursts of passion, but if she stops me or resists quite a bit, is there anything I should say or do?

Thanks again.