Saturday night (cont'd)
So I circulated a bit, spoke to some other girls etc and ended up dancing with Ari, she introduced me to her friends too, I was a little concerned she might be with a bf but she assured me he's just a good friend... we were getting down and dirty, I was feeling every inch of her body through her dress and it was very yielding and delightful.... I think I had my leg between her legs at one stage and she was grinding on it, etc.... I remembered to move her, a couple metres away from her friends, she initially rejected this but I persevered and she followed. Great. Out of their vision she had even fewer inhibitions. So after a little while I said
Me: let's get out of here
Her: (surprised) why?
Me: oh....(backpedals) well I'm having a good time so we can stay a bit, but not too long okay?
Her: I'm not taking you home tonight, I have a deadline tomorrow
Me: haha oh that's a new one
Her: (begins explaining herself.....I don't acknowledge any of it)
(after a while)
Me: stop explaining yourself, let's just have a good time
So we keep dancing and I'm thinking backoff, rinse, repeat.....however, unbeknownst to me I have a time limit, about 5~10min later her friends come to get her and they're going. Fuck. So she says
Her: I have to go
Me: okay
Her: how about a kiss
Me: (pulls her in and starts to kiss her passionately)
Her: (responds...won't give the tongue initially but we get there)
She leaves with lingering touch. I'm pretty pumped up after this. Shortly afterwards another chick comes over to me, she's apparently leaving the bar but grabs a kiss on the lips first. Ah, preselection!
The next part is a bit of a blur as I introduce myself to a shit ton of hot girls and dance with them, I had drunk a little beer so I was heavily in the mood and I already had great preselection which only got better and better. There's a turnover of people in the bar but it's not too fast and basically I maintain about a ratio that I know 50% of the women in the bar. My favourite was as hot as shit, a blonde in a skirt and a little white tank, I never got her name but I'll call her PFCH (Professional Flirt / Captain's Hat), she lent me a captain's hat and we dirty danced for some time, eventually I got pulled away by another smoking hot woman whom I'll call IR (Isabella Rosselini, she was Italian and introduced herself to me by first name and surname which I thought was cute). So IR was teaching me the steps to a dance which I vaguely recalled from ballroom dancing school, except I was in the female role for most of it because she was teaching me to twirl. Good shit, I got it eventually and had a lot of fun. Unfortunately, IR was there with a boyfriend, I would have given her a damn good seeing to otherwise haha.
I met a few dudes, one of them was maybe Indian, Pakistani or Sri Lankan, cannot remember his name but he seemed like a good guy, I'll call him Jayapur. There was also a fatty there who I liked, very cute face and outfit, I danced with her a bit and complimented her on her eye makeup and on how she moves. Now the fatty I was not really that into but was just hitting on her a little bit in between dances with other, hotter girls, she was moderately receptive but quite reserved, didn't really melt into my touch like the other girls did. I think this was either due to self-consciousness or more likely it was an attainability issue, I might be flattering myself here, but with that kind of preselection she may have thought I wasn't serious and just leading her on?
Anyway, I came up and grabbed the fatty for a dance at once stage and Jayapur looked somewhat put out, so I quickly backpedaled and gave him space to game her, however he was doing this kind of approach which I see a lot and which I don't like, where he kind of dances next to her while making conversation (I would do one or the other, but basically if I'm not interacting with her physically I'm not interested), he was leaning in too much and so on... when she went to the toilet I've spoken to him and said
Me: if you like that girl....take her!
Him: ...?
Me: just grab her
Him: ..... (looks doubtful)
I'm sure she was down, but he just didn't make a move. Actually there were about 3 or 4 guys hanging around her all night, this could just be because she had good game (her reserve did spike my interest a little) but more likely it was because these guys were underconfident and felt they didn't stand a chance with hotter girls. Or equivalently that since she was a fatty she'd be desperate enough to go with one of them, haha, I doubt it... attraction works the same for fatties. Well, that's how it looked to me and I'm pretty sure the same thought would have occurred to her. Ohh well. As a high value man I started to notice this stuff.
So, it continued like that, but after lockout I started to run out of girls to sarge, it was a bit frustrating because I hadn't been focused, I'd just been having a wicked rocking time and basking in all the preselection and being The Man(tm), but failing to move or pull girls. Meanwhile other dudes with better game had locked down a few of the prospects, I saw PFCH with several other guys during the night, I was kinda interested too and made several moves towards her, but I think window a bit closed. At one stage I could've had another dance with her and turned things around but unfortunately I was holding a beer, by the time I put it down and turned back to her she was gone. There were these 2 other guys who seemed to have good game (buddies I think) who were, I reckon, competing for her attention, however she was being a professional flirt and good on her. I liked her game & wanted to tell her that, but refrained. Hahahaha.
I also liked this other blonde but got told off by a dude who turned out to be her friend, kinda saying "she's a
real good friend of mine, don't hurt her" or some shit, I told him I was gay and I just wanted to dance with girls tonight...this might have backfired because she acted a bit weird towards me later on. Haha. I met a group of JP girls and danced with them and copped a number of feels even though they had boyfriends with them. I did some seated openers too, including on another JP girl (not part of a group, call her JPNG) and later I tried to get her to dance but she wasn't down. An Indian dude was keen on her and spent ages talking and trying to get her to join in, I ended up speaking to him and he turned out to be a bible basher. Fuck. I had about a twenty minute convo with him, I could only hear about every fourth word but kept nodding along and repeating a word here and there and trying to change the subject, in the meantime things thinned out drastically. Damn so this wasn't going too well. I spent about 15min with JPNG, managed to move her around the bar a bit and then tried to pull (lets go across the street to Burger King and get a coffee), no go. Eventually I grabbed my gear and left, went to grab a slice of pizza (which left me with $15) and opened a hotty in there for brief conversation... opened a number of other hotties (French, Asian, etc) on the walk back to town but no prospects.
Sunday morning
At this point I was bloody tired and decided to go sleep in Circular Quay again, it was a long walk and I was in my head a bit but did some more approaching on the way of course. I haven't mentioned this, but everyone I opened in this report I opened direct (I'm taking the view that if you don't go direct you may as well not open at all), but this takes balls and is harder to do when tired. So I focused on hotties that were either standing or walking my way, I didn't do street stops because I was a little tired and because most people were in groups. I went to sleep about 4am and woke up at 6am, grabbed another half hour's sleep after a piss and then got woken up by someone I recognized from the bar the night before, a girl who hadn't let me put my arm around her etc. She wanted a lighter. I said hi and that I recognized her and we ended up going to Starbucks together where I bought a sandwich and coffee leaving me with $7 in my Starbucks card.
By this stage I couldn't sleep anymore so I spent an hour or so in the toilets again having a full body wash and my makeup, opened some more women and garnered a recommendation to go check out the Opera House (that interesting building at one end of the Harbour Bridge) and Botanical Gardens... good, opened a tall hotty on the way there who turned out to work at the Opera House organizing events, long conversation with her as I walked her to work and then she directed me to the Botanical Gardens. I opened several more women direct, tried for some investment openers (hey, come and sit here a minute)... had interesting conversation with artists in a gallery who thought I was gay... liked some women in fernery but pussied out (in my head a bit and hesitated)... then in the rose garden I hit a jackpot of sorts, a Filipino girl travelling by herself whom I'll call Mary who was down to hang out and with whom I spent the rest of the day.
Sunday day
So Mary had been living in the United States most of her life and had a cute American accent, she was pretty cute (I opened her with "I could not help but notice how cute you are") and wearing a t-shirt and shorts and sneakers, seemed to have what looked like bathers or was more likely a running bra underneath. She was about 30 but looked much younger. A civil engineer in between jobs and considering a career change, also into long distance running (and her body looked pretty powerful even though she was maybe out of shape, I teased her by pinching her stomach and things like that). Got onto various intimate topics, she confided to me that she'd come from Phillipines where she'd been visiting family and ended up hooking up with her 3rd grade sweetheart who is now married to someone else, et cetera, this was music because she clearly didn't have lots of inhibitions and might be into fast hookups, also any discussion of sexual matters or hooking up is a good sign
We went to see Opera House together and got lots of photos etc. Then we decided to walk across Harbour Bridge.
It was a long, hot walk and I couldn't hear well due to traffic noise but we continued to talk about life, goals, etc... didn't have to deep dive really because it flowed naturally... and intimate topics and so on... at the other side we were pretty exhausted and my feet were hurting (she had on these brand new expensive long-distance running shoes, I had on my black leather boots with leather soles, no comfort whatsoever, they're good for your feet but you can overdo it)... we went to get some lunch and I spent the last $15 that I'd been saving for a train ticket back to the airport... I bought a dish to share and a drink to share, she bought a dish to share and a dessert to share... I had been escalating touch a lot (but trying not to overdo it), after lunch I had her hold my hand and commented on her nails etc but this went down a bit awkwardly. She wasn't really giving me much, even though she was being friendly, and clearly we were having a great time.
So on the north shore we decided to go on a longish walk to see a historic building, this involved following the seaside up and down various paths etc, and I offered my hand each time we got to a staircase, by the time we reached the building we were holding hands. The building you could not see (Australian Government property, no trespassing, etc...which was disappointing), but I led her down to a little rocky cove on the other side, which was totally secluded, and then tried to escalate...took her gear out of her hands and put it aside (she wanted it back), put my arm around her
Me: look at me
Her: ...?
Me: (goes to kiss her)
Her: what are you doing?!
Me: I want to kiss you
Her: yuk I think you are gay!
Me: oh
Her: can we go someplace public?!!
Me: oh if its like that..well I don't want you do to do anything you're not comfortable with
Her: what if you kill me and throw me in the water
Me: haha what if you kill me?
Her: blah blah blah...(she seems pretty freaked overall)
Me: I'm having a good time, its okay if you don't to play around but I'm enjoying being here with you
(we end up talking about creepy guys, how guys handle rejection, et cetera... I think she might've run away except for the strong connection already built)
Well I guess it could have been a shit test but I think she was genuinely freaked/surprised... it's disappointing because I did the right things... escalated the touch... talked about sexual topics... etc but unfortunately these things are also congruent with being gay/camp as well as being a highly sexual man. Hmm. Well at least I isolated her and made a move, even if I could sort of tell she wasn't giving me much in the touch department... it would've been stupid not to try it on.
Sunday afternoon/evening
So we head back over the bridge, now she's keen to try some pavlova (an Australian or New Zealand dessert) so we try to find a cake shop or hotel that has it (it would be her treat since I have no money left), but no go. It's a bloody long walk back to her hostel which is near Central Station (the Quay and the station are at opposite ends of the city), but there's a Starbucks along the way and let me tell you, a Frappucino never tasted so good. I now had 45c in my Starbucks card. We continue vibing on various topics (long distance running et cetera) and decide to head back to her hostel so I can charge my phone. There are showers etc, there, but I'm in pretty good shape due to my various full body washes in public toilets so I don't need to use one. We have these conversations
Me: so what are your plans for the evening after I head back
Her: ohh nothing much I'll probably just have a shower
Me: (interrupts) oh that sounds good, maybe I won't go after all (sexual smile)
Her: haha... yeah just a shower and an early night I think, will get up early for the beach tomorrow
Me: blah blah
(later on)
Her: so did you end up finding a toilet here?
Me: yeah they're on level 2 I already went while you were getting your computer
Her: oh right
Me: there's showers and stuff too but I was pretty okay so I didn't need to use one
Her: I see, yeah there's a shower in my room too
Me: oh your room has a private bathroom?
Her: yeah but it's a dorm for girls so I'm not sure if I'd be comfortable....
Me: haha yeah and you know what will happen if you take me to your room... (sexual smile)
Her: haha
I doze a little while she uses her laptop to post some photos et cetera... I've charged my phone and worked out it will take 1.5hrs to walk to the airport, allow 2hrs to be safe... I give her a hug and a kiss goodbye, she is awkwardly kind of patting my back instead of hugging me and I say
Me: hey...put a bit of emotion into it, let me feel it
Her: (gives me a slightly better hug but she's still not good at it)
Me: (pulls her in and hugs her tight)
Me: okay now give me a kiss
Her: ...?
Me: ohh c'mon I'm just going to kiss you goodbye, like normal Australian farewell
Her: ...(eventually offers her cheek and I kiss her goodbye on both cheeks)
This was all kind of disappointing considering she was saying stuff like how keen she was for me to come and visit her in the US and so forth...we vibed really well but unfortunately she just didn't want to take it sexual. I could definitely have ditched her anytime and done more approaching, but I didn't want to, I was really tired (got about 1+2+1+2 hours sleep the whole weekend), sick of gaming and happy to have found a friend... so it worked out pretty well for both of us really. I was getting quite a boner off her though, especially when she bent down to pick something up and I could see her cute little tits in that running bra.
Anyway, I walked to the airport and did a little more approaching on the way, walked part of the way with a cute Asian looking girl who turned out to be Aussie, works in a store in the city that I walked past a number of times (they have a branch in my city too)... saw a hot-arse woman walking towards a train station against a red light so I called out to her
Me: I love when I meet naughty women!
Her: (smiles and continues on)
I love making women smile. At the airport I was pretty tired and in my head so didn't do as much approaching as I should have, spent another hour in a disabled toilet having another full body wash and putting on a different outfit... after I reached the gate I rested a little and then went to fix my makeup and spend my remaining $4 in coins... made friends with the serving woman in the coffee shop and she offered me a double shot that I didn't have to pay extra for, she loved the eyeshadow... I then did an investment opener on a tall cute Korean woman "hi there! come and sit with me and keep me company!"... she was doubtful and her friend (turns out to be her sister) was even more doubtful but I persisted and we ended up having a
very fun time, turns out they are from Brisbane and both on working holiday visa, the sister had better English, the original woman whom I'll call Nina didn't have such good English and was keen to practice. They also insisted I eat their pizza with them, and this was very lovely, I was sure to reward Nina repeatedly with sincere gratitude and touch. We texted today:
09:45 Me: (her Korean name)....Nina....new friend with interest in ripped men.....
(callback humour) i hope u and sis got home safe & sound. Raymond
11:56 Her: Hi Nina now i get a break ^^thank you for your message^^ we were arrive very well. thank you . we are very happy to be your friend^^
Thanks Chase and everyone for teaching me to approach. I would never be experiencing these kinds of good feelings without it.
The only other interaction of note was with the air hostess, a cute woman in her 30s who asked me about my weekend in Sydney (probably thought I was gay). I responded "MMmmm! (suggestively) very fun time!"... later we conversed as follows
Me: so are you based in Sydney or Melbourne?
Her: Melbourne why?
Me: ohh I might have told you I like your city....but I can still say that, cos I live in Melbourne and I like that too (smile)
Her: haha where do you live in Melbourne?
Me: I live in the CBD
Her: ohh right I'm in the suburbs
Me: well we're gonna have to get you moved into the city and take you out for some fun!
Her: hahaha well I'll have to ask my husband
Me: I noticed you wear a pretty chunky ring
Her: (shows it to me)
Me: nice one!!
She's all smiles each time she comes past. It's great to show an interest. I chat to her as we get off and it seems its been a pretty long day for her, with a long drive home ahead (I chose Melbourne's second airport which is an hour away, as the flights and the long-term parking are cheaper). I should have said something like: Ohh well if you see me hitch-hiking, pick me up...or on second thoughts if you're gonna tie me up and take me as a toyboy you'd better not... but was a little tired and the jokes weren't flowing as freely as they usually do. Anyway, this was a sick-arse weekend and highly social, I very much recommend everyone get a homeless pickup on, especially if they're struggling with approach anxiety, as it was terrific practice at opening and I reckon mine improved.
