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I don't know what state of mind I was in, but I seriously did one of the dumbest things today.
So, I went out with this girl, and we shared good laughs, funny stories, sexual topics etc. That was inside a restaurant.
After a while we went out and took a walk by the side of a busy road full of cars.
All of a sudden, I said 'Stop', and put my hand behind her head. My intention was to manhandle kiss her. She didn't kiss me back. Got almost totally silent after that, even though she was talking all the time before. And to top it off, when it was time to part ways, told me "Please don't contact me again!" Ouch!
MY MISTAKE? I tried to escalate all of a sudden after NOT TOUCHING HER AT ALL THE WHOLE EVENING!
So:
1. I did not focus on creating sexual tension with eye contact
2. I did not even take her hand when first meeting
3. I did not touch her anywhere at all for about 45 minutes
4. I did not take her to an isolated place before beginning to escalate
5. I did not start with mild touching before wanting to kiss
So obviously, when I tried to kiss her, she got all weird. Funny thing is, now I know all the things that went wrong. Don't know why I totally forgot that there was a process to follow.
That got me wondering what a successful escalation process looks like.
So, what is your step-by-step escalation process? (for times when you'd rather fuck her outside than take her home)
So, I went out with this girl, and we shared good laughs, funny stories, sexual topics etc. That was inside a restaurant.
After a while we went out and took a walk by the side of a busy road full of cars.
All of a sudden, I said 'Stop', and put my hand behind her head. My intention was to manhandle kiss her. She didn't kiss me back. Got almost totally silent after that, even though she was talking all the time before. And to top it off, when it was time to part ways, told me "Please don't contact me again!" Ouch!
MY MISTAKE? I tried to escalate all of a sudden after NOT TOUCHING HER AT ALL THE WHOLE EVENING!
So:
1. I did not focus on creating sexual tension with eye contact
2. I did not even take her hand when first meeting
3. I did not touch her anywhere at all for about 45 minutes
4. I did not take her to an isolated place before beginning to escalate
5. I did not start with mild touching before wanting to kiss
So obviously, when I tried to kiss her, she got all weird. Funny thing is, now I know all the things that went wrong. Don't know why I totally forgot that there was a process to follow.
That got me wondering what a successful escalation process looks like.
So, what is your step-by-step escalation process? (for times when you'd rather fuck her outside than take her home)
