Hottie in the gym, who's not that responsive on facebook

[brunomcf]

Hey guys!

I guess this is just another "I met this hottie in --------, what do I do?"
Unfortunatelly it is, and I don't really know how to deal with this one. I met her on Virgin Active gym, and she's studying here on erasmus program.
She's doesn't drink alcohol or go out a lot.

I've started learning Russian recently and invited her to come to my Portuguese-Russian language exchange event. She said she prolly would come to the first one, and said the was sure to come to the last one. But ended up coming to none.

I thought that was a great idea to get close to her, as she seems a bit "socially shy" and says she will only go to my event if her girlfriends are coming to.
I onlt talked to her in the gym to get to know the minimum info on her, and gabbed on facebook in order to "share the event details with her".

Spoting her at the gym sounded like a terrible idea, and I still think it is, even though this new bald dude seems to be "doing it sucessfully".
First time I saw him making a move on her, he offered help executing her workouts, she seemed allways running away from him, and at a point he was "helping her" he touches her back and she screams "OOOUUUCCHHHH". Clearly didn't appreciate that move from him...

Truth is, even though the guy looks like a looser allways stalking her at the gym (he doesn't even do his workout in order to be next to her), this Saturday she finished her workut earlier. She was sitting at the loung area, so I decided to talk and invite her for the next event Wednesday. She said she'll attend if her girlfriends will come too.
But I was really surprised she actually waited for that bald dude and they left together. I wander if there was any interaction already between them before I met her.

When she talks to me, she is really smilley. I fell in love with those sparkly blue eyes typical from Caucasus area. Think this wouldn't happen again after I got my heart crushed last time.

I know I should not spend any money on any women, but I'm thinking about inviting her for dinner. Or play a bigger card which would be driving her down to Algarve beach house and spend there a weekend. But maybe that card cannot be played that soon, once there's very few interaction appart from saying Hi at the gym.

Maybe I just ask her what is she doing after her workout is finished, and take her for a coffee dowastairs at the mall.At least this way, I can get to talk just a little with her. But I just wander if I should so it, before or after this Wednesday when the Language Exchange happens.

This is the kind of girl that I'd like for a more serious relantionship. These are harder to get, but totally worth the trouble if I'm looking for a long term relationship.

Any kind of help would be great!

PS: I'd be really disapointed the bald guy who spots her like a looser really gets a 9.5 girl just like that.
Maybe it's a Stockholm Syndrome kind of thing. She felt oppressed at the begining, that then started getting used to it, and likes at the moment.

 

[Man-O]

- Learn to not get too much emotions out of looks. You've hardly talked with her and you have strong feelings toward her. Meet more women and go for personality too. And this is the main concern. Your needyness is screaming out. She may be smiling but you rly don't know much as you haven't dared for much compliance with her. Now I've still only done a few gym pickups but I wouldn't advice making them long (1 min max) unless there are none nearby who can see you. People are there to work out, not to talk and so is the environment made for.

- Don't accept facebook and get number instead. At times both but never fb alone.

Get her on a casual date.

 

[brunomcf]

In the first place, thanks so much for your honest reply.

It's not just a matter of looks. Have you just looked into some girl's eyes, and felt like sje was really sweet and caring? This is what come to my mind when I saw her.
And yesterday I realised she was wearing a gold Chrtis neckless, and she told me she was a christian. I see that as a great sign for a long term relationship. (not dircarding the fact she quite attractive and that was the 1st reason I went for her).

As I didn't see how I could get some more interation with her, I tried to copy the other guy's startegy, being working out next to her.
Didn't do exactly the same, I was more subtle saying her workout plan is not let her progress and told invited her to workout today with me.
She said yes at the gym, and later I sent her a message with my phone number. She seen it but didn't reply, and I took as a sign sth was wrong.
At launch time she sent a message saying she had some other stuff to do, and also didn't need any supplements or workout advice as she felt good that way.

I wander why she changed her mind? Did she share with the other guy she would be with me today at the gym, and he made her cancell it? (prolly he talked shit about me).

Anyway, as I arranged to Russian-Portuguese meetup for tomorrow, and she said she would come as long one of her friends comes too, I'm not going to approach her till the event. What I'll do is make sure 2 of her friend are coming, then she'll will be dragged into it.

She seems the kind of girl that just won't go out with a guy that easily. She's a christian and I believe if she will get involded with a guy, it's because she sees him as a keeper for a LTR.
I did invited her to come for a drink on Saturday. She said she would let me know, but didn't shown up.

Anyway, good LTR girl don't just come that easily. Speacialy Russian like girls, who take their time to trust someone.
If she does not come Wednesday to the meeting, then I'll try the move all women fall for. Which is investing money into them. Fancy dinners, hotels, whatever.
I've promised myself I wouldn't spend a dimme on another girl, but I just went crazy for this one...

 

[ray_zorse]

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