How Can I Become Sex Incarnate?

[Byron]

Ok.

Everyone will think you're bisexual. If you're ok with that, proceed. I'm not judging, I am bi myself (but strongly prefer girls).

A few thoughts, from someone about where you are (I am obviously not yet sex incarnate).

As far as facial expressions go:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/7-facial-expressions-drive-women-wild

Practice the four flirty ones, especially "cute and sexy" and the "pouty" one. These need to be your default. Practice in mirror, think about it when around other people. See how they react. Subtlety is important (and is one of my bigger sticking points, I come across as tryhard a lot).

Move slowly. React slowly. Talk slowly. Think about sex when you talk to people. Also, you need perfect posture. Tattoos are also an option, they need to mean something to you though. They show that you have passion (they absolutely must mean something to you) and that you can withstand pain, a very sexy trait in men.

As far as spending time on the internet or videogames, I would in fact cut it out, unless you are spending time researching seduction or watching movies of men with good fundamentals and applying it.

You can replace it with different hobbies. Guitar, extreme sports, art, writing fiction or poetry, anything that shows passion or edge and gets girls wet. But, only do these things when you can't be socializing. Social skills are going to be a must, you need to learn nuance. Also, start flirting with everyone.

Check out: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-started-when-you-re-socially-hopeless
and this one, which I think is an underrated post: https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-ways-train-social-aptitude

As far as smiling too much goes, you want to give value. Just make sure it's a slow, sexy smile

And for just general sexiness, read these over and over. Over and over, understand the concepts behind them (I think I've read each about fifty times and still don't get everything):

https://www.girlschase.com/content/constructing-your-sexy-vibe-and-making-girls-go-nuts

https://www.girlschase.com/content/great-fundamentals-handling-your-intangibles

https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-flavors-sexy-brooding-smooth-and-talkative-vibes

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-sexy-man

https://www.girlschase.com/content/elegance-sexiness-and-average-normal-people

Additionally, I asked Hector about sexiness in a skype coaching session. I don't want to give away too much and undervalue his efforts (it is advice I paid for), but check out Zan Perrion and his ideas on upper and lower energy.

Hoping to hear from more advanced guys too, this is a super interesting topic.

Babyboy Byron

(some girl I fucked called me babyboy. kinda like it)

 

[Byron]

Voice is a rough one to deal with.
I was way overdoing my voice until I skyped Hector and he pointed it out. I thought I sounded manly, deep, and resonant. I really sounded crackly and way too guttural.
So I focused on making my voice higher, clearer, and warmer, adding more range. I've left a bit of the guttural sound on some phrases, but mostly got rid of it entirely.

Check out the podcasts on the main site with Hector (Anatman) and Nick (PrettyDecent), and William Gupta. They sound like you should sound.

And the thing with advanced guys is just they have mountains of experience and feedback for their gestures. So they've weeded out what works for them and what doesn't, and thus have very charismatic, unique little things they do. We can take some from them, as Chase says, "skipping a few levels" but some just has to come with experience.

I hope this helps, sorry to overload with info. To become sex incarnate will take years though, I hope you know what you're in for.

Byron

 

[JimmyB]

Slay, sounds like you're all talk and no show (no offense intended). What that might mean is you're scripted - you know what works but it doesn't gel with your personality. There's a lot of different styles you can take towards sleeping with women. I personally don't do much talking up front, but when the moment arises, I'll go in for the close. I wait it out and make sure she wants it and I'll just pull her into me and kiss her. The key there is that I take my time. This is especially true in social circle (which your situation was/is) because you know you'll have plenty of time with the girl. If you are not very upfront like you were to this girl in the bikini, then don't try to be. Focus on a style that gels with you and push the limits with it. You felt like kissing her then didn't. That's probably because instinctually it didn't feel right. Keep pushing the limits and experimenting. Sounds like you're on the right track, just need to keep going.

 

[ProblemSolving]

Everything physical that is. Hair, muscle, facial hair, fashion. All these things I'm trying to take care of.

This is really the most important part. Guys that most girls find sexy actually LOOK the part. They have the muscle, facial hair, hair cut and fashion all sorted out. You could have your overall style sorted out in a weekend, but the muscle part will take considerably longer. It will take time, but it's well worth the effort.

But things like, vibe, voice, facial expressions, etc are all things I'm nowhere near good it.

Voice? As long as your voice isn't feminine sounding, I wouldn't worry about it.

Facial Expressions? Not important. Girls don't get wet from the guys facial expressions, they get wet from how he looks and acts.

Vibe? I don't like to use the term "vibe" because it's too nebulous, so let's just ask, "How does a sexy man act?" The answer is, he touches girls that he's interested in. Touch can sub-communicate sexual interest, build trust, and of course get girls wet. How he touches her will depend on the environment.

a couple seconds passed and I thought I should kiss her but I froze up. Couldn't do anything.

My sister comes out and she snaps out of it, and leaves the room.

This makes me realize that I'm all talk. I can't pull the trigger. I don't know how I lost my virginity. I freeze up every time it really matters. Pussy. I didn't accept going in the boat because I just thought I was going to fail miserably hard and look stupid. That I was going to be the odd man out.

Haha why are you beating yourself up about this? Even if you did kiss her, it's not like you could've got the lay with your sister in the next room. Stop hitting on your sister's friends (Your sister will cockblock anyway), and go approach some girls outside.

How many girls did you approach last week? The answer to this question will determine what you need to work on.