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HOW CAN I GET THIS GIRL BACK?!?!

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I've lived in my current apt complex for almost a year. For the last four months I've had a big crush on a girl in my leasing office; due to their strict rules she isn't allowed to date anyone one of us tenants, even though she is also one. She's always played around and flirted with me, gave me a hard time and in turn I would do it right back. Every time I have seen her she is always at work, until three weeks ago she was beside the pool hanging out with some friends. I was in the gym working out alone, when she came out of her way to come into the gym and walked directly over to me. I knew instantly this was my chance. After five minutes she said she was looking for a new job so I said hey that means I can finally ask you out. She said yeah very enthusiastically and I got her number. I called her the next day on a Thursday, and on Friday she texted me immediately as she left work, that night and over Saturday we exchanged 200+ text messages. We connected better than I have ever with anyone, she even noticed this asking oh my god who are you as the connection grew bigger. I even visited her a couple of times discretely at work just to see her. I was on cloud 9! Everything was beyond great for two weeks, and now I can't even get a hold of her. I've texted her a couple of times and called her once with nothing. During that two weeks I challenged her to a dance video game her daughter has and told her I would kick her butt at it, she replied with oh yeah, well after you can kiss it. She even sent me upwards of nine flirty pictures of her one evening without me even asking! So a week ago on Sunday I was texting her for an hour or so, telling her I'm eating frozen yogurt and I'd bring her a spoonful, she laughed and said I can't her coworker was still with her at work. I told her to tell the girl to leave, I'll help her close up in a flirtatous manner. She laughed and said I was really funny with a smiley face. I said who's being funny with a smiley face and that's the last text I've received from her. I saw her a couple of days later at my leasing office where she works because I'm moving out and I gave my notice. I noticed her looking at me as I walked in the door but as soon as I made eye contact she looked away, and while I was talking to her she seemed very stand off-ish as if she was upset with me, that was the last interaction I've had! I have no idea where I went wrong, I want this girl back badly! I don't know if I came on too strong and seemed needy or if I pissed her off with that who's being funny text treating her as if she was easy or something. Or maybe she is back with her ex who she broke up with three months ago, I really need some advice on how to get her back!!!!
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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Hmm I think this is similar to the flirting with girls at work thing. She has told you she could get in trouble at work and even fired for dating a tennet dispite this she is still interested. I cut down on the flirting with her at work, in fact you should just act like any other guy in this situation. She'll probably get this and be a lot happier about it. Keep it polite and friendly with the odd wink when nobody's looking.

Basically play it under the radar, generally speaking too many txts is bad, though I know how that is... You should keep the texts for arranging meet ups/dates/etc ;)

And don't go nuts when you can't get in touch, it's really hard I know, but don't do it...
 
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Flames said:
Hmm I think this is similar to the flirting with girls at work thing. She has told you she could get in trouble at work and even fired for dating a tennet dispite this she is still interested. I cut down on the flirting with her at work, in fact you should just act like any other guy in this situation. She'll probably get this and be a lot happier about it. Keep it polite and friendly with the odd wink when nobody's looking.

Basically play it under the radar, generally speaking too many txts is bad, though I know how that is... You should keep the texts for arranging meet ups/dates/etc ;)

And don't go nuts when you can't get in touch, it's really hard I know, but don't do it...


Its definitely hard to figure out how to play this one, since I can't get a hold of her. There has been radio silence on her end for two weeks now, I've tried to contact her 4 times, I've kept it pretty light hearted and nonchalant as if we've both been busy. At this point I think I'm going to have to back away completely on the personal side, and if I see her at work just keep it friendly but casual.
 

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Hey ryancain198685,

I know you hit it off with this girl and that's the best part of meeting someone new, its exciting. Personally I think you entertained her too much via text and didn't move fast enough. Check Franco's texting post;

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=26&t=1213

It's fun to sext but now I do this rarely and only with girls I bedded 2-3 times, just to light a small fire before I get there ;)

With this girl I would just let it go, take a look at:

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=1093

If a girl stops replying, then doesn't reply to a follow up text within the next week I would generally not text her again. You tried, she didn't bite and if you keep messaging her you will just piss her off/devalue yourself. If you look at the bigger picture, if you wanted a relationship with this girl would it end well...because the start doesn't look that promising. Read the above links and stop playing a game of one, try playing a game of billions...its more fun :)
 
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