How can you get an aloof girl to start investing more?

[Start_ed_young]

So the scenario is this:

Let’s say you get a bit out on a date and she seems interested before hand. The two of you meet and she’s actually somewhat closed off and/or cold towards you a little bit. She gives some body language cues that she is interested but at the same time she seems closed off. Like she sits facing you with ur legs touching and doesn’t pull away, but she is looking around and doesn’t open up a lot in conversation. How do you really get her talking more and giving more information that you can use to build meaningful conversation from?

During phase two of the date: your alone and she complies to all of your advances but never gets closer or makes moves her self if you pull away and start acting more aloof. She won’t chase! Just like she’s Indiffère about anything. “We could kiss we could not, we could be close we could not, I don’t really care either way” sort of mindset. Kind of low energy in general. How do u get her to work harder for a kiss or to get her to want to be close together?

Lastly, logistics are poor so u are unable to pull to a good sex location, so she leaves with only making out and a lot of touching. She says she had fun and the two of you part ways. She doesn’t suggest that you should meet again, she just states she had fun, are you supposed to initiate the second meeting? Bc at this point you’ve invested more than she has. Is there a way to get her to invest more?

My thought was if you were to introduce competition, then obviously she would need to work harder to beat the competition, but how would you go about introducing competition? You can’t just tell her, “yea I’m seeing 6 other girls at the moment by the way, only sleeping with two of them” can you? This to me would seem like you were trying to prove you value to her, and it just seems uncalibrated imo. My other thought was that you could do so through your social media, like post a pic of the girl your with in ur snap story, but would that look try-hard or like your trying to brag or show off or intentionally make her jealous or something? Or just pull away completely and see if she comes back. Obviously if you had sex on the first date she’s prob come back, but logistics we’d poor so a second date is required...

Sooooo, what do you guys think any suggestions thoughts or idea here?

Cheers!
Young

 

[JacobPalmer]

Couple of things you could do, because maybe this is just what she's like in person.

1. You can mirror her behaviour. This can work but be careful if she doesn't bite.
2. you can just shut down completely and mimic her but then also take it a step further. At some point she'll ask what's up and you can just tell her - you don't seem that interested in putting any work into this conversation, so I'm getting a bit bored. Say it in a kind, non-chalant way though.

As for the escalating part, never expect a girl to lead. Consider it a bonus if she does so. You just need to keep pushing and pulling so you control the entire interaction. But again, at some point you could also go cold on her.

Yes, you're going to initiate the second meeting. You're the the man, you lead. Stop caring about investment and start focusing more on compliance. You ask her out and she says yes? Yeah you invested more, but she complied, and that's what you want, so who cares. If she doesn't comply then you can pull back.

Honestly everything sounds good to me here. Just sounds like you're too worried about nothing. Just initiate the second date.