How did you decide between 2 women?

[PinotNoir]

Okay, so this is a dumb question and subjective, but I really am curious. I mainly just want to hear about your experiences, as I have never seen anything written on this.

In your past, when you have dated 2 or more women, how did you decide between them? For example, let's say that you're at a "relationship" point with them... and they're putting pressure on you... and you'd actually be okay with a relationship.

In my past, I had 2 women that I really liked equally. It doesn't seem possible... but it happens. I was dating both of them. They were both pressuring me into a relationship, but I told them that I just wanted to keep dating. End of story, they both broke up with me, as I wouldn't commit. I just really couldn't decide between them. I know that indecision is bad, but it happens.

This is pretty rare because usually something shines through about one woman over another.

But, as I date more and more women, I just feel like it's going to happen more commonly. I'm actually dating 2 women right now that I feel equally about, but it's at the very extreme early stages (one is my most recent FR, so only 1 date and no sex), so I am not concerned about these 2 women. I already feel like 1 is shining through over the other, but you never know.

How did you also handle the breakup with the other girl?

I'm not sure if this is a result of indecision, being more relatable and non-judgmental to a variety of different people, or a combination of both.

 

[Marty]

I'd like to think that I'd never break up with a girl I liked just because another girl I liked was putting pressure on me to do so.

My philosophy is that what two people do in private is the business of those two people only, and absolutely no one else, regardless of the wishes of any third party.

 

[Chase]

Pinot-

This is one that resolves itself pretty naturally with more experience. As you gain more relationship experience, you'll become a lot more nonchalant about pressure to be exclusive, and you'll be able to deal with it more effectively and let women go more comfortably when a relationship's reached the end of its rope (or, alternately, you move the relationship into whatever kind of setup you want it to be).

You'll also find that it becomes easier and easier to tell one girl from another... when you start out, it's tough to decide which girl's a better fit for you than another, but you do eventually reach a point where you say, "This girl's a real sweetheart, and her body is just amazing, but in all honesty I know she won't be able to hold my attention much longer than a few more months... whereas this other girl's more beautiful in the face and almost as killer in the body, and is just a firecracker with dynamic conversation and a fascinating mind," or something like that, and the distinction between girls becomes increasingly distinct.

As for breaking up... this article may help: How to Break Up with a Girl.

Chase

 

[PinotNoir]

Thanks guys for the responses.

I guess it really just comes from experience. I'm not used to being between a rock and hard place, as they say, with multiple women haha. I should just date how I want, and if they want to break up with me over it, then no big deal -- plenty of other women.