How did you used to View women before learning Seduction?

[Cassy]

I was thinking about how my thinking has changed in how I view girls now after studying seduction and getting some success with women compared to how I used to think before I started studying seduction and was strugling with women. Before I started studying seduction on GC here are a few things I used think:

-Thought I needed to be Rich or buy an expensive car in order to date hot attractive women
-Thought I needed women to be in a relationship with me before I have sex with them
-Thought I needed to show women how much I love them and confess my feelings
-Thought I needed to take it slow by goin on several dates to get the 1st kiss, and at least 3 months to get sex
-Thought I needed to act like am only interested in them and not interested in sex
-Thought Women needed to love me for them to have sex with me
-Thought women dint love sex like men do
-Thought men who have lots of sex with different girls only fuck sluts who are easy to bang.
Please share how you used to view women before learning seduction.

 

[Lover]

They were just humans to me, but number 1 flawed way of thinking: they were mostly deciding what to do through logical thought process rather than emotional. My logical humour from back then has probably backfired a lot with girls whether I was high value in other areas or not. Meh.

 

[Metalus]

I will just use your list and probly add something:
-Thought I needed to be Rich or buy an expensive car in order to date hot attractive women. YES!
-Thought I needed women to be in a relationship with me before I have sex with them. YES!
-Thought I needed to show women how much I love them and confess my feelings. ABSOLUTELY (even wrote a love letter once)
-Thought I needed to take it slow by goin on several dates to get the 1st kiss, and at least 3 months to get sex. Not sure about the 3 months but definitly taking it slow
-Thought I needed to act like am only interested in them and not interested in sex. YES
-Thought Women needed to love me for them to have sex with me. HELL! YES!
-Thought women dint love sex like men do. NO that always felt kinda strange to me.
-Thought men who have lots of sex with different girls only fuck sluts who are easy to bang. I just thought they are lucky guys with great looks

- I used to always put them on a pedestal. Its crazy i really thought they are like pristine angels. At least the ones i wanted...
- I used to think they are the ones with all the power withholding or giving sex. So silly.

 

[Drck]

Perhaps very puzzling and confusing. I did A and was expecting B - but she did X. I was totally clueless, their behavior was illogical, logically it didn't make any sense...

After studying seduction I realized that there is lots of logic in their behavior, and lots of what they do make perfect sense - if you understand what is her emotions, how she feels about you and if she is attracted enough...

Understanding women is actually quite simple, it is very easy, in essence:

1. If she likes you a lot she will be giving you lots of clues and Windows, she will want to be around, she will actively do things to be with you... She will make it fairly easy for you to get her, to sleep with her...

2. If she is so-so about you, she will be confusing you a lot, she will hang around you but make it very difficult for you to get her... The problem is, she may not know enough about you, you have so incongruance issues, she may not be attracted enough to you,...

3. If she doesn't like you enough, she will flake, make excuses, won't answer your texts,, "forget" things, be "sick" and so forth... Surprisingly, most girls will be very sweet about it as they don't want to hurt you, which is quite confusing to many guys.... They still think that she is very interested because she is so sweet - yet the reality is she just doesn't really care about you...


IMO the most important thing in seduction for guys to learn is to keep moving based on her reactions - you see an open window you got to move forward. Pull back little bit, then move forward again. If you see a red flag, stop. You see another red flag, you move away. No chasing...

 

[kristian]

Awesome subject, man.

For me, I used to be be crushed if some girl rejected me. I was one of those guys who used to get tunnel vision when I was attracted to a girl. She meant everything for me, and I had to "plan things out" in order to get her. I never got the girls I wanted though because I wasn't living with an abundance mindset.

I also thought that once I get good enough, I would be able to seduce every woman. Now I see it more like a numbers game, I found out that it will take me around 15-20 approaches to get a date. This number will be better as I get my fundamentals tighter though, but I understand that a rejection is only feedback. Nothing more. I can replace a woman that isn't into me, because it wont take too long for me to get to know new women.

 

[mandrew]

I utterly confused and believed they had to live in the logical world like I do.

It used to confuse me that when I stopped dating a girl , that same girl would immediately have a new boyfriend the next week.

If a girl cheated on me I didn't understand that she did it because I lacked in some area, instead I thought she was a fucking bitch for not keeping a promise.

I didn't know that they communicated in a indirect manner instead of in fact like I do as a man.

I believed a girl would one day notice how special I was and quit dating the bad boys and fuck me because I was so special.

I also thought the first time I fucked a girl that meant we were boyfriend and girlfriend.

I thought cupids arrow had my name on it. lol.

I look back my old self and can't help but think "He's very, very dead.". But I think society and your friends have alot to do with how you see girls initially. If I could go back I wouldn't change it because it was all those beliefs that led me here. Little did I know they live in their emotions from minute to minute.

 

[Ree]

I was thinking about how my thinking has changed in how I view girls now after studying seduction and getting some success with women compared to how I used to think before I started studying seduction and was strugling with women. Before I started studying seduction on GC here are a few things I used think:

-Thought I needed to be Rich or buy an expensive car in order to date hot attractive women
-Thought I needed women to be in a relationship with me before I have sex with them
-Thought I needed to show women how much I love them and confess my feelings
-Thought I needed to take it slow by goin on several dates to get the 1st kiss, and at least 3 months to get sex
-Thought I needed to act like am only interested in them and not interested in sex
-Thought Women needed to love me for them to have sex with me
-Thought women dint love sex like men do
-Thought men who have lots of sex with different girls only fuck sluts who are easy to bang.
Please share how you used to view women before learning seduction.

i could type my own list...but why would i,when it would be exactly the same as your list