How do I accept/reward value offerings?

[SomaRuiz]

Here's something I struggle a bit with. I have no concrete idea of how to reward or accept value offerings, I'm all over the place about it whenever it happens.

Either I just take it and say thank you, without offering or saying anything else, which makes me feel like I'm being too arrogant.

And other times I refuse them, like one time recently a girl offered to do something for me that felt like a bit too much (at the time), and I just said that I didn't want her to do so much just for my sake. Then later wondered if I should have just accepted it, but then I probably would've felt guilty or indebted if I didn't give/did something in return.

One time also, while messaging a girl on FB, she sent me a pretty long message with hearts and blushing emojis, to which I responded with just an "ok", she didn't respond to that. I'm sure you've all have that happen to you at some point, where you write someone (especially a girl) a long message and they respond with just "ok" which is kind of off-putting, so I tried doing the same thing. I was a bit upset with her at the moment, but later felt like it was a bad move regardless.

So yeah, those are a few cases I've had. Could anyone offer any insight on the matter

 

[GO Chase Me]

I have a similar thing as your third example. Like I said in my topic, that a girl usually writes me longer messages than I write her, but some times I'm not sure how to respond.

 

[SomaRuiz]

Well, I recently read the article of operant conditioning, and it says I should mirror her responses. I had read another one that said you should use the "mirror minus one" approach, which means you invest just a little bit less than she does. Guess I just need to calibrate myself to that... Trying not to do a "mirro minus 90%" or something, like with that "ok" response.

 

[Bboy100]

As a general rule, give back as much as you get. If a girl sends you a long, substantive message, try to respond in kind. Doesn't have to be exactly that many words. But somewhere around there.

When someone does you a favor, a "thank you" is okay. Unless it was something big (like helping you move in). In which case, you might wanna buy him a beer or something.

Thing is, no one can hold your dick and piss for you dude. You have to read situations. This isn't a checklist of actions and proper reactions (i.e. he/she did x, so I should respond in y way). It's something that widely differs from situation to situation. And the proper response should come pretty naturally.

When a girl sends you a long, interesting message, don't you have an urge to engage her in some way, instead of just saying "ok"?

When someone does you a favor, don't you have a desire to say thank you and/or repay them in a certain way?