How Do I Become a Warm(er) Person?

[foggy]

Lately I am focussing on working to become a warm person. I feel I am doing great. My conversations and overall relationships with people have improved tenfold. I used to be pretty cold! Here's what I'm doing to be warm:

- Arm squeezes
- Using vocal tone to talk to someone like they're an old friend I haven't seen in a while (the most important one in my opinion)
- Texting people sometimes to let them know I'm thinking about them
- Making people feel good about themselves in general
- Giving other people my full attention
- Being non judgemental

It's all working pretty good. I have read Chase's article on how to be a warm person but didn't find it immensely helpful. What am I missing? Do any of you guys have any sneaky tips for being warm towards people? How can I have a warm smile?

 

[foggy]

hi Slay,

I partly agree and partly disagree with your points.

I wouldn't do this... This is too much investment...

With a chick I just met the other day, yeah, too much investment. But in terms of lifelong family and friends who I haven't seen in a while, it is definitely OK.

To be honest Backstory, I feel like you went from cold like you said, to way too nice.

When I first read this, I definitely agreed. But then after thinking about it, I have to disagree. I was way too nice for many years and definitely don't behave like that anymore. I'm aiming to make people really like spending time with me, but I'm not going to spend more time than I have to on anyone.