How Do I Fix This?

[Mr Mistah]

After abit of introspection on my seducer journey so far, I noticed two things that are holding me back which I'd appreciate pointers on:

1. Most of the time I feel like I don't fit in.

I am highly introverted in the sense that socialising drains me fast.

I also find the conversations that bring most people together to be quite boring and inane.

I usually feel like my inner thoughts are richer and infinitely more interesting than irl interactions.

In an attmpt to change this, I made it my mission to go out clubbing more often and to participate in more social circle activities to see if I can shed off this introversion and be more in my body than my head.

But everytime I am at these parties and venues it just affirms how different I am from most people.

Socialising feels like a chore and a performance for me.


And whenever I drop the mask of acting like I'm having the time of my life, people come around asking me if "I'm okay" and "What's wrong?" like I'm on suicide watch, when really I'm just chilling, taking in the sights and the sounds.

To sum this up, I really want to improve my social skills and build better connections but a lot of the time it usually feels like I'm on a stage performing.

My natural inclination is to be alone, poring over my thoughts and recharging. Not screeching in a club or discussing celebrity gossip and whatnot

2. I am too sensitive.

Second thing that gets in the way of my seduction journey is that I am too sensitive.

Not sensitive as in I am a pussy. But sensitive in that I feel things very deeply including emotions and ecternal stimuli such as sounds and light etc

My empathy is also dialled all the way up to the extent that I have to put up defenses so that I don't unintentionally pick up on other people's emotions.

I did a test and learnt that the scientific designation for this is HSP (Highly Sensitive Persons). Which basically means that there's is increased neuron activity in the part of the brain that processes emotion, awareness and empathy.

No doubt this is bad for seduction because I have noticed that I crash out over the silliest rejections, get attached to chicks too much, too fast and have a bit of a guardedness about me due to fear of being hurt.

I also get called nice and kind every now and then - a sign that my attempts to embody the bad boy/lover archetype are being overpowered by this sensitive "nice" side.

Think of it like Tupac before he switched up from blue pill to red pill.

How would you remedy these two challenges: A brooding, introverted seducer-in-training who doesnt like socializing and also feels things deeply.

 

[Bill]

try transform your self By Steve Andreas and break through difficult emotions by Shinzen Young. They give methods that can be used to alter self image and process emotions.

 

[Mr Mistah]

try transform your self By Steve Andreas and break through difficult emotions by Shinzen Young. They give methods that can be used to alter self image and process emotions.

Downloaded it. Let me have a look. Thank you

 

[isildur1]

If you feel like you don’t fit in then why not approach women who are closer to the hobbies and interests that you’re passionate about?

for example if you love health and fitness doing cold approach outside gyms - one example.

different women want different archetypes - one archetype might work with a certain woman of certain ideologies another archetype might work with another- I wouldn’t overthink this too much .

you get called kind and nice? Might not necessarily be a bad thing in all cases - over how many approaches are you getting called this?

Are you on spectrum/ Asperger’s ?

if you have hps - maybe best to get some wingmen to support you and build some male relationships so that you can be stronger in the field of approaching women. Dating can be a mindfuck so this may take a while if you find yourself overreacting to rejection.

end of the day it’s a man’s job to lead - once you have some positive dates and relationships from daygame you may end up enjoying the process more. At least how it was for me - but in the first 3 years of night game form 18-21 I hated it- the transition to daygame when I was 25 made things a lot easier for me but it was tough at first - you just need to work hard and be consistent socialising everyday and build the habit up.

 

[Bill]

I’d also check that you aren’t low testosterone.