How do I handle these social circle annoyances...

[DarkKnight]

Guys.. A lot of times social circle chicks around me tend to fluctuate with their behaviors.. Even when it is platonic (from my side).. For instance they go to a phase where they (try) to ignore me, which I simply mirror.. They notice this, get insecure/hurt and start really forcing themselves on me. I don't see them act this way with other guys, I suspect this is due to good fundamentals/refusal to simp. I can be the nicest guy, but still this will happen. When this happens once or twice I can laugh it off.. but believe it or not sometimes this becomes repeated behavior and teeth gritting annoying. Imagine multiple chicks acting like this at once...

When girls engage in this behavior my options are these:

1. Keep ignoring them even when they are forcing themselves (the forcefulness is really cringe...)-> leads to increased awkwardness and coming across as an outsider to the outside world.
2. Confront them: this leads to denial usually, it never ever helps.
3. Let them go and come as they please, mirroring their bullshit: This keeps perpetuating this cycle and really works on your (my) nerves... This is usually where I am at. Greatest backdraw is that I start becoming temperamental and will give a very hard rebuttal at one point.

Ideal situation would be to be completely zen, but unfortunately I am not and can get really irritated. Especially because trust becomes compromised. For me there is no use in conversation if there is no basic trust.
I see men engage in this behavior as well and find it very gay. Fortunately with them it is not that severe, but still reeks to submissiveness and being untrustworthy.

Anyway my irritation warrants this post, how would you boys handle this?

 

[RedNeck]

I would go with combination between 3, 2 and 1
-If the girl did it once or twice , I will let her come and go as she please
-then , if it is repeated behavior , it depends on who she is to you, I would confront her . She will deny , but she will get the hint , you don’t tolerate this behavior
- After you did the above and she keeps doing it , it is time to cut her lose.

 

[DarkKnight]

Hey Redneck, thanks for the reply. Most of these girls are just randoms who act up because they feel they don't have a shot.

But some of em I do have some of a bond and one of them I considered a friend and in that case I care a bit more. From my perspective it seems as if she actually wants distance (due to autorejection I assume), because during lockdown we went radio silence, but my presence triggers neediness and compulsive engagement from them. So you get these negative cycles..

This is not that different from chicks who have boys in their friendzone who start acting up due to frustration, but cant walk away either.

Anyway.. I am quite weary, I think at this point I will just keep avoiding, since this has become quite a drain. Some things you just know wont end well.