How Do I Improve My Posts Here So It Doesn't Some Like I'm Complaining?

[Ken]

Last year, I started a thread entitled "Why Isn't Any Of This Working?". It quickly devolved into an argument between Girls Chase writer Drexel Scott, who is no longer on the boards, and King Cuck, who got banned in the thread that spun off from mine. It made me think, I don't want to make complaint threads on the forum no more. Then I made a thread last May entitled "How to Overcome Fear?", which was another complaint thread. Or, at least that's how I see it. All the fear I expressed on that post is exaggerated. Especially the part where I said that I did not care about and had trouble with romance in fiction. I liked the romance between Steve Trevor and Wonder Woman in the Wonder Woman movie that came out the month after I made that thread

Also, over the past several months, several members of this forum got banned for making too many complaint threads. Most notable among them are Altair and PeachFrustration.

So I ask this question: How do I improve my posts here so that I do not end up like Altair and get banned? I feel like most of my threads from the past are complaint threads, and I wonder if anyone else here see them that way too. I don't want to be whining and complaining here anymore.

 

[Seppuku]

Hey,

I've re-read these threads, and to me, they don't sound like complaint threads, at least not in the way Altair and consorts sounded. In their threads, there was always a "life is unfair", as well as "it's because of my race" tone that got frankly very, very boring over time.

Your posts don't sound like complaining. They sound like you are facing issues and are genuinely honest about them.

But these Boards are action oriented. I would advise you two things:

* Go over your past posts, see the advice that was given to you. Ask yourself: did you try to act on this advice?
* Try things, see how it unfolds, and write posts about it

One of the senior guys here (PrettyDecent I think ?), for instance, advised you to work on your appearance, towards a more masculine body. Hitting the gym. It's very doable. And it's a very effective advice, that will yield results. Have you tried?

I suspect lots of good advice has already been given to you. Go through it, try it, and post about it.

Seppuku

 

[Ken]

Hey,

I've re-read these threads, and to me, they don't sound like complaint threads, at least not in the way Altair and consorts sounded. In their threads, there was always a "life is unfair", as well as "it's because of my race" tone that got frankly very, very boring over time.

Your posts don't sound like complaining. They sound like you are facing issues and are genuinely honest about them.

But these Boards are action oriented. I would advise you two things:

* Go over your past posts, see the advice that was given to you. Ask yourself: did you try to act on this advice?
* Try things, see how it unfolds, and write posts about it

One of the senior guys here (PrettyDecent I think ?), for instance, advised you to work on your appearance, towards a more masculine body. Hitting the gym. It's very doable. And it's a very effective advice, that will yield results. Have you tried?

I suspect lots of good advice has already been given to you. Go through it, try it, and post about it.

Seppuku

I have went to the gym once in 2017. That's because I go to the gym with my dad, and most of the time, he says that we are going to the gym but we end up not going. That was the one time we went. I don't really like to ask my dad about that because he will give me the same answer of "we will go on this date" and we will never go, or tell me that the one time we could've went I ended up staying in my room.

 

[Regal Tiger]

If you're unable to go to the gym without your dad then look into bodyweight exercises. They won't get you super buff but they will help you get the main body type that women go gaga for (which I think is more important, but other people may feel differently). Which is a lean and muscular look, kind of like a gymnast. Source: http://foxhoundstudio.com/blog/fitness- ... ant-to-be/

Another thing you can look into is yoga and/or running. Or if you have a bike that might be a little better than running depending on what you're going for.

That way, if you are dependent on your dad to go to the gym you won't need him as much for working out.

 

[Ken]

Seppuku,

Yes, I did try out some of the advice that was given to me on the boards. Some of the advice I tried out included growing my hair out, which was suggested to me by Eternity in "LR: Lulu". Also form Eternity in that thread, reading Darius' posts on fashion and reading Tanner's blog Masculine Styles on fashion. Copywriter on that thread suggested that I read the Mystery Method, which I started doing.

I used the advice that MichaelGScott gave me on "How to Get Better at Texting?" on three girls who I previously cold approached.

At the advice of Riposte, I nexted the girl that was the subject of "Help". We still talked while she was on the school newspaper, but as friends instead of someone I was chasing after. She got a boyfriend after I made that thread, which was a bitter pill to swallow.

I started reading Darius' blog Sexy Style for Joe, at the request of Ergon, and started with the article he linked to: "Why You Think Ugly Clothes Are Cool And Sexy Clothes Suck". Plus, I downloaded his ebook What Killed Your Sex Appeal. Eternity in that thread told me to get a number 4 on the sides and get half an inch of the top of my hair in order to comb it. And there are many more examples of advice on this forum that I was given and actually acted on.