How do I start?

[TheVale]

Hello everyone! I have a little problem (well, it's more an opportunity I don't know if I should take), and I need you help.

Last friday I was playing at a festival near my city. When I was on stage I noticed some girls checking me out, but once we finished the show I didn't have the chance to approach. Today I realised that the hottest of the girls is in my "advised friends" on fb, so i could text her there. The only thing is that I don't know how to start: sending the fist message would mean that I'm chasing her, and we have never talked to each other in real life.
Another problem is that she's into a social circle composed by people which I'm very carful to avoid meeting, and dating her could mean meeting one of them, or she could refuse to date a guy that's an "hater" of her friends.

So, could you guys help me figure out how (and if) should I start texting her?

 

[Richard]

First and foremost, welcome to the boards!

Regarding your situation; here's my advice:

Do not reach out to this chick online - it will not turn out well. With an extreme amount of work you might get slight results. High risk, low reward games are the ones I avoid playing.

Now, what I would do in your situation (because there is a silver lining) is: focus on approaching other chicks until you see this girl again. I'm positive you will see her again because you two have common friends on Facebook and will more than likely end up at the same functions. In the mean time, approach other women and work on your fundamentals so you can talk to this girl the next time you see her.

I'm basing my advice strictly on the implications to be found in your post. I have no prior information regarding your pick-up abilities or your social track record but because of your title question I'm assuming it's on the lower end which is perfectly fine. Now, if my assumptions are true (feel free to tell me I'm completely wrong and I'll offer new advice) then it's an inexperienced man vs. a highly experienced woman in a social seduction battle and she's the favorite. This is why I'm telling you to approach women in the mean time. Get some experience under your belt, get some stamina to fight long rounds in the ring, and then step into the ring with this girl.

-Richard

 

[TheVale]

Thak you a lot!
You're right, I don't have much experience, altrough I had imagined that I shouldn't have texted her. But it had never happend to me to receave so many interest signals from so many different girls in such a short time. Guess that the musician's sex mith hasn't died in the '70s as I thought

 

[Richard]

Thak you a lot!
You're right, I don't have much experience, altrough I had imagined that I shouldn't have texted her. But it had never happend to me to receave so many interest signals from so many different girls in such a short time. Guess that the musician's sex mith hasn't died in the '70s as I thought

Yeah dude, if you stick to being on stage then you will be swimming in !@#$%^&* in no time (and more than likely, hers as well) because of the qualities that being a musician carry; Check this Article.

Furthermore, being in the band gives you a lot of power and authority over who gets entrance into this "mystic world" that women think you live in and that means they are both excited and submissive to you and that means pretty easy !@#$%^&*.

You need to get rock solid fundamentals first though. I do know a few musicians whose off-stage vibe kill their ability to seduce because on stage they are hardcore headbangers riffing away like Eric Clapton....and off-stage they are more like:

Anyhow, I'll keep up with your posts to get a feel for your style and social ability and will also see how being on stage affects your seduction ability. Keep pushing and start approaching!

-Richard

 

[TheVale]

ahahah thank you a lot!