How do relationships and interactions with women change as you get older?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Like many on this board, I missed out on success with girls as a teenager and was slowly getting a hang of it in college but did hit my stride later on in my college years.

What I wonder about is how the dynamics, interactions, and relationships change between men and women as we get older, say going from college to the real world.

In college I experienced that when a girl was into me, my guy friends let me know and there was almost this built in sort of thing going on to where everyone knew who was into who. People talked, girls told other girls what guy is into them, guys told other guys what girl is into them, and it was more playful of a relationship. I also found girls in college to be more teasing with guys they liked or were close with.

How do these relationships change as we transition from being younger to being older?

It is common knowledge that women care about money a lot so does it turn into a robotic business deal sort of interaction?

 

[lostnumber]

The fundamental dynamics of attraction dont change, but people's relationship goals definitely do over time.

I'd draw a line between when YOU get older vs when WOMEN get older, because those are two very different things. You can be 20 and date a college girl, or 25, or 30, and there really won't be much of a difference, other than that you will be older and wiser and probably have less patience for the immaturity of a girl that age. However if the girl is 20 vs 30 it will make a massive difference in terrms of relationship dynamics and expectations

I have not dated many women that are 30+, but I know plenty, and from what I've observed women in their early 30s are MUCH more focused on locking down a long term match. Unlike men, women have a limited biological window to have children, and they know this. A women's mating value is also tied very strongly to get appearance, which again, unlike a man's, does not improve with age. By the time a woman hits 30 most of her friends are probably married, and a lot of them likely have children or are planning on it in the near future. That along with family pressure and her own biological instincts are going to make a woman much for focused on finding a good provider and locking him down to have children with.

So, if you continue to date women of the same age, nothing is going to change. But if you start dating older women you can expect more pressure for a LTR. And money/career certainly play a role in that, moreso then when you are young.

 

[Sprezzatura]

I agree with this - it's not so much your age as the age of the girl or woman.
However it is also true that the older you get the more you should have your life handled - stable job, great fundamentals, frame control etc. Older women want to settle down and are essentialy husband hunting.
The feeling of camaraderie that I remember from college also goes out the window and most women of the age 28 and beyond become solo players in terms of socialising. Sure they still mingle with peers from time to time, however I noticed several times how the friends of the woman from her social circle, played the role of cockblocks for their own selfish reasons - they wanted me for themselves. The end result is I am entirely done with social circle game and have since started cold approaching younger women. Never looked back since. Less baggage, better looks, more casual hookups.

I also noticed a sort of neediness in women as they get older - the need for constant approval, the need to feel special goes way up, sincer their looks are slipping. When your fundamentals are pretty much spot on, you have to be very careful with older women (28 and above) not to offend them - some are like a cluster B in that regard - they can auto-reject on a dime. My advice is to stick to women your age (if you are younger) or women of 27 years max, because it goes downhill from there. They say we men get needy for sex, however women are even needier just in their attention and approval seking behaviour.That is precisely why the push-pull technique is so effective - you joke or mock offend, then pull them in with a compliment.

 

[Sprezzatura]

I forgot to add that your resources are not that important in older women - they are only important if you date below your income bracket. Women in the service sector (waitress, hairdresser, shop assistant etc.) are in bad need of a provider.
Educated cougars with great jobs are not an issue - I had a FWB relationship with one for over a year and she kept buying me stuff, all I had to do was pound her well and make her feel "special".