How do you get the more extroverted and social girls?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I notice that no matter what background a girl is, I always end up with the shy/sophisticated kind of girl. Throughout my life I have noticed that the girls who liked me were almost always a bit geeky or reserved themselves, some of them were good looking too. Yet while I can do well with the kind of girls who are more quiet and reserved, I struggle to get the more popular type girls who have a thing for going out to bars and clubs. Now I have traces of nerdiness left in me and due to vision problems at times I do wear glasses, I think this might have something to do with it and I have worked on getting it fixed.

But what I want to ask is what kind of guy do I need to be to get the more extroverted type of girls you find at bars and clubs? Do I have to get tattoos and get jacked or what?

 

[PinotNoir]

I think it's more about matching their energy, especially at bars and clubs. You can't talk to a high energy girl when you're at a low energy (calm) state. She wants to have crazy fun, while you're wanting to be more quiet.

The good news is that you can wait for her go into a lower state. She dances or chats with all of her friends. Then when it's a bit later in the night, she'll probably start unwinding and calming down. Then you can go talk with her in your normal state.

But, if she's an extrovert AND a socialite, then you'll probably need some social proof to back you up. Socialites -- girls at the top of the social ladder -- want to date other guys at the top of social ladders. So, you can either work your way into the group and slowly build and show value, or you can socialize with a bunch of other men/women in the club/bar (or with friends that you bring) to build up and show your value. Then finally go talk to her. If you did a good job, she'll probably be intrigued by your social status ("Here's a guy that's just like me, a social butterfly. I'm also intrigued; he seems so well-liked by everyone. I want to talk with him.") This can be a hard path to take. Then of course, you want to talk to her just like any other girl, relate to her, don't put her on a pedestal.

I think you can do it, but you'll need to be adamant about socializing and working on yourself (your social skills). You'll need to truly be passionate about pursuing these type of women.

The last option is the easiest, but it's an unknown. I've met extroverted socialites doing day game, but the problem is knowing whether they're that type of girl or not. You see a random girl just shopping or getting coffee.... she could be bouncing around or be completely drained and just trudging along.... and both can be the type of girl that you want. You won't really know until you start talking with her, and she starts saying, "Oh yeah, I go out with my friends all of the time, I have so many......blah blah blah." But even then, she might not mention this because this can scare men off. This is probably your easiest option, but you'll end up dating a big mix of shy to extroverted women. I mean every type of woman has to shop for groceries, right? So the chance is always there for any type of woman during day game.

 

[Estate]

Oh Pry,
Tough live here: It's the same topics over and over and over... you need to take some action man and make some progress.

Honestly, I always attracted those types of girls too. I still do pretty easily, and yes, I had/have to work a lot harder to get the types you're talking about.
But if you're not taking action, what can we tell you?

Both types of women are still... women. There's no difference.
What changes is that some women are more out-wardly high-energy, extroverted people so in order to get women like that I need to match them.
I'm more introverted naturally but I can turn it on when I need/have to nowadays. That's all there really is to it... practice, practice, practice.

Honestly, there are times I do stuff in the moment with women that I'll look at a week later when I'm sitting watching TV quietly and think "Holy crap, was that even ME?". Se I can't just think it and plan it out... I just start talking to women and keep escalating and stop thinking. The results are crazy.

 

[Franco]

OP,

Don't get your hopes up too high for this, but I had a chat with my buddy Amrit (of whom I mentioned to you previously in a private message). He's considering writing an article for the website about picking up (all types of) women since he knows where you guys are coming from. The one thing he wanted to say (somewhat in response to your post) is that he's skinny, a nerd/gamer, doesn't have any tattoos, and regularly gets pussy. So no, tattoos nor muscles are necessary to getting what you want.

NOTE: That's not to say you can't do either of those things. If you do, just make sure you do them because YOU want to do them and YOU would feel comfortable being muscular and having tattoos -- it should fit your personality if you do get them. Getting them specifically for the sake of picking up a desired type of woman isn't going to do much for you at all, however, as the actual effect it has is basically negligible if you aren't doing everything else right anyway.

- Franco

 

[SaltyT]

I can't say I'm an expert in this but I find pretty easy talking to this kind of girls..

what you have to do is basically 2 important things...

1- If the girl is too extroversive you are passive/aggressive: in my experience I've notice that a girl like this love kind-of-shy guys because it turns them on, the experience of making a shy guy showing his true sexual nature is a thing most crazy girls are exited to do, once I hooked up with one girl that the only thing I did was to look at her and show strong fundamentals, but she keep saying the whole night "I like your style, you are more reserved and mature... What she told me after we had sex that night is that I looked different from the rest of the guys, she wanted to take the pervert out of me, she is bored of the usual horny guys so my value at that point was so high she couldn't resist.

2- Fulfill your speak of cool Quotes: from friends, movies, family..etc. Or create your own ones (as myself) too be able to interact with a lot of people, but don't overdo this, always keep your value and status as the " I'm more mature but I can have fun and be social too" and the "Y'all kids come on" mentality.. Girls tend to want to show you how mature they can be and want to get emotions out of you, be social but not too much..

3- If she ask or you touch a point in the conversation that you talk about sex or social life, present yourself as a curious guy who always want more, and you are liberal that thinks a woman can get some fun and that's healthy and you cannot judge her

besides all of that I recommend go out to clubs and bars to meet these kind of women, practice your night game and night approaches..

I hope you reach your goals, cheers..

Sal