How do you tell the difference between someone acting hard to get upon first encounter vs someone who is not interested

[AngryMan]

I saw this really beautiful girl last week at an event. I made the mistake of staring a little bit when I thought she wasn’t looking and not approaching afterwards. I went to the event again this week and this time it looked like she was trying not to look in my direction at all. What is odd though is she was with a friend who actually approached and chatted for a bit.

This puzzled me and later I was seated just behind the pretty girl and again I noticed her body language was open and relaxed - even showing off a little - but still avoiding to look in my direction at all. I decided not to approach in the end and similarly acted disinterested and aloof. We will meet again this upcoming Thursday for the final day of the event but this whole situation feels awkward so I won’t be trying anything.

To return to my main question, is it possible she was playing hard to get?

 

[ulrich]

Who knows… go talk to her and find out.

She gave you an invitation and you didn’t take it so she can feel disinterested, angry, rejected, exposed or a million other things.
Say hi and find out.

 

[AngryMan]

Who knows… go talk to her and find out.

She gave you an invitation and you didn’t take it so she can feel disinterested, angry, rejected, exposed or a million other things.
Say hi and find out.

What counts as an invitation? I’m new here and just looking to learn the basics. I would ideally like to avoid starting awkward conversations with disinterested parties. Or is my thinking wrong on this?

 

[ulrich]

What counts as an invitation? I’m new here and just looking to learn the basics. I would ideally like to avoid starting awkward conversations with disinterested parties. Or is my thinking wrong on this?

In most cases there is no risk proof way to know if a girl is interested or not before talking to her.

There are signals that a girl gives you to approach and signals to get away.
She gave you some subtle signals to go and talk to her that you ignored.

Did you screw it already?
Maybe, maybe not… these things are fleeting.

I suggest you change your thinking.
Instead of avoiding awkward conversations, think of this as a learning process.
You can’t learn without exposure.

And nothing much is likely to happen to you just for having some awkward conversations.
Just a couple of minutes of akwardness. That’s all.

 

[AngryMan]

In most cases there is no risk proof way to know if a girl is interested or not before talking to her.

There are signals that a girl gives you to approach and signals to get away.
She gave you some subtle signals to go and talk to her that you ignored.

Did you screw it already?
Maybe, maybe not… these things are fleeting.

I suggest you change your thinking.
Instead of avoiding awkward conversations, think of this as a learning process.
You can’t learn without exposure.

And nothing much is likely to happen to you just for having some awkward conversations.
Just a couple of minutes of akwardness. That’s all.

Solid advice. I definitely need exposure and practice. I will try to be friendly and see how it goes. Thanks