How do you turn a potential lay into just a friend?

[MisterX]

I know this is the opposite of what most of guys want to know, but how do you turn a girl that you like physically and she likes you back and wants to sleep with you, into just a female friend.



You know you see a girl you like the looks of, you approach her ask her out and go on a date. But then you realize that she's not your type of girl.

Maybe she comes off too strong, maybe she's to sexually experienced and you don't want to date a girl like that. Maybe you two have some very big differences that would make dating really hard and not worth it.



And since she likes you and would sleep with you/date you/etc, you can just have sex with her and then cut ties or become fuck buddies.




But what if you realize that she'd be more of an asset if you became friends with her instead.

Maybe she's a model and can introduce you to her circle.
Maybe she has beautiful friends and can introduce you to some that you'd actually click with.
Maybe she.. (you fill in the blanks)




Bottom line is this: you go out with a girl who you're physically attracted to and she's attracted with you. But you don't like her as a potential girl to date.

So instead of sleeping with her, just become friends with her and see if she can set you up with a gorgeous friend that you'd like also as a person.









So the big question is how do you do that?

How do you let a girl know after a date or two that you don't want anything romantic with her and would prefer to just be friends?

How do you not hurt her feelings and make her feel rejected, and make her feel bad?

How do you make her not hate you for that, so that you two can be friends and she can benefit your life in some way, be it hooking you up with a friend of sth else?


And one last thing - should you make something so she stops being attracted to you, so she'll be glad to hook you up with a friend instead of wanting you and cock-blocking you on purpose?

 

[Thedoctor]

Hey MisterX,

My advice would be to do one of two things. Either do the opposite of everything advised in this post:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/just- ... -nightmare

Or. Do everything you would normally do with a girl you are interested in, and after you two have slept together, drop gentle hints as to why you're not "Long-term" material. I've done this a couple times in the past (although it wasn't a conscious thing I was doing) and I even had one girl set me up with her best friend after we dated, and I went on the date her friend for a long time. You just have to be sure that the girl thinks the reason you two aren't dating is HER decision, lest you want her to feel rejected. I have also tried the first option in the past and it was a lot less successful. The girls don't see you as overly sexy or desirable, and the chances of her introducing you to her friends drop off in my experience. I had a girl tell me one time she wouldn't make the introduction since her friend "wasn't my type". I then realized that "her type" was the cool, suave, sexy man that my friend would have seen me as if I had slept with her.

Keep in mind too, that girls share EVERYTHING if they are friends. If you rock one girl's world in bed, she'll tell all her friends. I ran into a friend of one of my ex's years later and she practically begged me to go home with her, and I would have if I wasn't in a committed relationship at the time.

Again, this is just my own experience, maybe other guys could shed some light on it.

Cheers,

-Doc